Moments with you

There are many things in life that I need to enjoy
I want to savor every moment of them with you

I want to stand in the rain closing my eyes,
feeling the water touch my senses

But it will be much nicer if you’re with me in the rain
and I’m touching your hand

I want to stroll and relax, to feel the cool wind
under the cozy shade of a tree, I’ll watch the sunset

But it will be much nicer if you’re with me watching the sight
and I can see your heart-melting smile.

I want to enjoy a long quite sleep at night
thinking of sweet dreams and happy thoughts

But it will be much nicer if you’re at my side as I close my eyes
and I can smell your hair as I hug you tight

I want to wake up in the morning full of life
as the warm sun greets me with a smile

But it will much nicer if I wake up and see your face
to be greeted by your warm sweet embrace

All I want is to enjoy every moment of my life with you..

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"It's definitely different when you love someone and when you're inlove with someone"

explanation:

alin nga ba ang mas malalim?

Loving someone or Being in love with someone?

marami sa atin ang na confuse tungkol dito.

Ikaw ba ay may girlfriend o boyfriend ngayon?

Mahal mo ba siya pero parang may isang tao na parang mahalaga din sayo.
o may mahal ka na akala mo eh mahal mo nga siya pero meron ka pa rin isang tao na minamahal ng totoo.

Kapag love mo ang isang tao masaya ka...
Feeling mo ok na ang lahat...

pero ang ma-inlove ka, ang siyang pinakamasakit sa lahat!

Kasi ang mga taong inlove ay ang mga taong ngsasakripisyo at ngpaparaya.

Teka bakit ka nga ba ngpaparaya?

Dahil ba hindi ka niya mahal o dahil hindi ka siguradong ok lang sa kanya?

Kung yan ang dahilan mo, walang duda na inlove ka nga sa kanya.
Kasi iniisip mo kung anong meron kayo sa ngayon ang tanging mahalaga at kontento ka na.
Pero isipin mo paano kung mawala ang taong yon at talagang hindi na kayo mag-usap at magkita,

kaya mo ba?

Paano naman kung sayo siya inlove at ibinigay niya ang lahat para sayo pero hindi mo napahalagahan ang lahat ng ito kaagad!

Paano kung isang araw naguluhan na siya sayo ng husto at maisipang lumayo na lang?
Paano kung sa sobrang pagiging iba mo sa kanya di ka na niya kausapin at tuldukan na niya ng tuluyan kung ano na ang meron kayo?

Then bigla mong na realize kung gaano sya kaimportante sayo kaya lang wala na siya!
Kaya mo ba?

Kung hindi ang sagot mo, malinaw na inlove ka nga...

Paano naman pag mahal mo lang?

Kapag mahal mo lang, alam mo na palagi kang may choice at ayaw mo siyang mawala dahil alam
mong wala kang ipapalit.

Yung masaya ka sa kanya pero sa gabi hindi naman siya ang iniisip mo.
Mahal mo siya pero aminado ka sa sarili mo na balang araw hindi siya ang pakakasalan mo.
Mahal mo siya pero ang puso mo hindi lang pra sa kanya..
Mahal mo at masasaktan ka pagnawala siya pero alm mo na kaya mo yon.

Ngayon anong nararamdaman mo
ngayon: DO YOU LOVE SOMEONE or YOU'RE
INLOVE WITH SOMEONE?

Isang araw magigising ka na lang na
INLOVE ka na
nga pero kahit anong gawin mo ay huli
na.

Dahil maaaring yung taong INLOVE din
sayo ay
wala
na pala.

Tandaan mo: Masyadong mapaglaro ang
puso
huwag
tayo magpaloko!!!

We learn to love someone pero minsan
lang
dumating
sa atin ang pagkakataong ma-inlove!!!

Kaya kapag dumating ito, ano ang gagawin mo?

With infatuation....

ive observed tht therr is only a thin line between love and infatuation, kaya nga karamihan ng infatuated sa isang tao ay masyadong overjoyed sa feelings nya, kaya madalas ay inaakala na nyang love ito....

with infatuation....

its more than like but not enough to be considered as love.... hindi kasing lalim ng pagmamahal ang nadarama... na mimis-interpret lang ng taong infatuated, dahil it has the same signs as being inlove..... dahil kadalasan ang infatuation ay nahahaluan ng matinding obesession for the person they like..... kaya nagiging head over heels ka sa tao.... lagi sya ang laman ng isip mo... sya ang hinahanap mo.. feeling mo mahal mo sya.... but sa katotohanan ay hindi pala... dahil pag may nakita or nakilala kang bago at nakakahigit sa kanya, ay lumilipat yung nadarama mo ng di mo namamalayan hanggang sa napunta na sa iba yung feelings mo....

sa love naman..its something more lasting.. permanent... hindi ka sumusuko.. at lahat kakayanin mo, dahil mahal mo yung tao.. lahat kaya mong unawain at intindihan dahil sa pagmamahal mo sa kanya... at kahit na nasasaktan ka at naiinsulto ay sige ka pa din sa pagmamahal sa kanya......

masarap maranasan ang infatuation at ang love.... dahil nai express mo yung feelings mo sa isang taong mahalaga sayo.... at may kilig....higit sa lahat... mabokya at mabasted ka man ...luhaan ka man at talunan.... one would still want to have this kind of feeling dahil u learn a lot from it and it makes u a better person.....kaya kug saan ka masaya andoon ka huwag mung pilitin ang feeling mu na hindi ka naman masaya doon... kasi ikaw naman ang masasaktan sa huli! di ba?

How Opposite-Sex Friendships Can Enrich One's Life

Can there be anything like friendship between two people of the opposite sex? Many people think that this is impossible but i think that platonic relationship between a man and a woman is very healthy. Many women confess to having spent wonderful time with their male best friends with the absence of their husbands. Their husbands think it is great and i think they are right. A good marriage is based on trust and something like friendships with an opposite-sex becomes completely inconsequential. You must agree with me that this is a new relationship phenomenon featuring in only this generation. The previous generations believed that opposite-sex friendships were a potential bombs to many marriages. Family and marriage therapists believe that the easiest opposite-sex friendships to maintain are the friendships which were established long before someone got married. Such relationships are not threatening since you had them before you were married.

Some of these friends are helpful when it comes to shoe shopping, some offer perfect shoulders to cry on and some good ones are good at both. They respect each others partners a lot. Problems come in if one spouse in marriage does not have friends from the opposite sex. If your husband has some girlfriends he will rarely have a problem with you having man friends. Dramas start when partners create new opposite-sex friendships and keeps it a secret from her/his spouse. It is a clear indication that the person feels romantically attracted to the new friend. Such behaviors greatly interferes with issues concerning trust and harbors romantic jealousy. If one partner is so outgoing and the other one is reserved. The reserved one always thinks that the other one has romantic relationships with his female friends. Such unclear speculations can lead to divorce.

Deep insecurity in a relationship leads to thriving jealousy which shoots form zero to somewhere close to paranoia. You should introduce all your friends to your partner to avoid panic attacks. Couples should establish an honest and open communication about opposite-sex friendships. They are very beneficial. John who maintains a close relationship with females some of who are married including his high school friend, Staicy. They usually meet once or twice a week with Staicy who is sometimes accompanied by her husband. John says that he values the perspective provided by married women. They are more knowledgeable when it comes to relationship and are far better listeners. Their advice is always great. It is quiet unrealistic to expect one person to meet all your social needs. Your spouse cannot be everything to you. Well-managed cross-sex friendships are healthy to any marriage.

When people get married they tend to place so many expectations on marriage. They expect the relationship to fulfill all the social needs which might be impossible. People who hang out in mixed gender groups are more happy than those who only interact with people of their own gender. Opposite-sex friendships are more fulfilling. It is described as a spiritual form of love just like sisterly or brotherly love. in most cases the two friends share some interests or hobbies which are not usually shared by the spouse. It is a wonderful feeling to have a platonic relationship. However your partner should always have an open invitation.

Friendships - How Losing Your Best Friend Leaves A Gapping Hole In Women

Best Friends are really special. We talk about how wonderful to have them, but we don't talk about the pain of losing them.

The love you feel for a close girl friend is different from a love relationship but it is not less meaningful. Unfortunately, in our society today the love for a best friend does not have the same value and support as for romantic love. Losing a lover through death or divorce fits within our understanding out loss and grief. But the loss of a best friend, through death or divorce - that is, a permanent falling out - has no socially Accepted guidelines.

"Linda and I had a long distance relationship," Carla sadly chuckles. "We talked at least once a week, sometimes more often. We were two time zones away but for 11 years since I moved away, we worked around that. We made a point of getting together 3 or 4 times a year. I love my husband, but loving Linda is a different kind of love.

"She was the first person I called when Terry asked me to marry him, even before I called my mom and sister. Whenever he and I are at odds, she is always there to listen to me vent about Terry, to help me see the situation more realistically, and to walk me through the mess with him.

"We used to joke what would we do without each other."

Carla's voice breaks. She takes a deep breath, as if gulping in air would ease her pain. "I guess I'm finding out. Six months ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was a quick decline. She was dead within three months.

"What makes me so mad is that if it were Terry who had died, I'd get time off from work; my friends would be calling on me, offering me sympathy. But Linda is 'just a friend.' Baloney. She's my best friend, my soul, my stabilizer, my special other half, in a way Terry - as much as I love him - can't be. But she's just my friend, so life expects me to carry on."

We live in a world with rigid ideas about love and affection. We have work place rules and social etiquette rules. The inflexibility of these rules, though, ignores some realities. Carla would be able to get time off from work, or a reduced price plane ticket, for the funeral of her sister, even though they haven't spoken in decades, but not for her best friend.

In many communities, when there's a death, friends and neighbors come with the proverbial casseroles and pies. The bereaved gets company, food, sympathy. Carla, though, did not have any of that. Most people don't think about the depth of the loss when it is a non-family member.

The same lack of understanding occurs when best friends have a permanent quarrel, or to put it another way, when best friends divorce.

"Mary just dropped me; I don't know any other way to put it," bemoans Laurie. "Although this was 10 years ago, I still get teary thinking about it. I have no idea why she just stopped talking with me, stopped returning my calls. We had been such good friends for years. After several months, I wrote her saying she at least owed me an explanation. Boy that was a mistake. She wrote back tearing me to pieces."

Laurie's eyes water as she goes back a decade in her memory. "I don't know what was worse. Hearing all the things she didn't like about me or having no one to talk to about losing my best friend. You know, if Laurie were a Larry, everyone would understand why I moped around for months, my work performance flagged, but you don't get sympathy for breaking up with your best friend."

Carla and Laurie understand the power of best friends - having them and losing them. There are rituals for dealing with the death of a spouse and a family member, but there are none for the death of a best friend. People know how to respond if a friend gets divorced, but they have no idea how to respond if that friend gets divorced from a best friend - even though the pain can be just as intense and the loss just as big.

Chances are Carla's and Laura's bosses have had similar experiences because losing a best friend is not uncommon, it's just not often acknowledged, and the pain is rarely discussed.

There are many different ways you can lose a close friend -- through death, a quarrel, changing interests or growing in different directions. When couples split up, their friends may drift away, not wanting to choose sides. No matter how you lose a best friend, it always hurts and leaves a hole in your life. The loss needs to be respected and given the same credence as the loss of any loved one. It hurts just as much to lose a best friend.

If friendships are important to you, get your free copy of "Rules For Enhancing Your Friendships" from the Special Gift link on the home page of http:/WomenAndThePeopleTheyLove.com. Be sure to use the Code: FRIENDS. And, consider treating you and your best friend to a special weekend, check out

Signs That Your Friendship is Not a A Long Lasting One

True friends or best friends can never part ways, yes very correct ,so you think but in reality a true friend is hard to come by. It is always better to do a little inspection or introspection of the friendship which will be helpful for the health of the friendship.

Think about the fact that whether you and your friend are alike or very different .Does it seem like coming from two different worlds? Then next ask yourself about how long you have been friends. This then leads to next question about how much do you share your thoughts and how much do you communicate with each other?

The true friend, even if having contrasting hobbies, would support each other and will make every effort to be there for you when you need them. As an example let us take sports then a true friend of yours will always be at a game even if he or she did not like sports and vice versa. True friends will never forget you wherever they are, for example, if they go on a vacation then they will send you postcards or emails about what happened or is happening at the vacation which will help you at least be part of the vacation of that friend.

What all this above means is that basis of friendship is communication and separate personalities communicating with each other . This helps to understand that a true friendship is always built on a foundation of communication and openness. You always will share your most intimate thoughts with your best friend and will hope to hear from him an unbiased opinion on those.

To make all this special between friends there is unsaid bonding which can stand the test of time, pressure of outside forces and some resistance from others who are jealous about your friendship. Nurture your relationship like you would take care of small baby and the friendship will blossom into a mature relationship which is far ahead of any other relationships you have.

ENOUGH

It took me over a year to make my final decision to end a friendship with a woman I'd socialized with on a weekly basis for more than five years. Perhaps I was afraid that I was being selfish or shortsighted by calling it quits. I worried that it was somehow wrong of me to seriously consider throwing away a friendship that wasn't particularly bad. It just wasn't good enough to continue spending time on.

My ruminating thoughts of uncertainty and the accompanying feelings of guilt persisted. I didn't want to make a big mistake and regret taking what could easily be an irreversible step. I wasn't able to come up with anything legitimate sin my friend had committed. Nevertheless my mind was made up. I knew I'd had my fill of this person. I felt stifled. It was the same old thing week after week, month after month year after year. It was like repeating a school grade over and over again. My dilemma was no longer a question of if but when and how I would say good-bye.

It wasn't as though I hadn't given the easier, softer way a shot. I'd tried the tapering approach for several months. I hoped if slowly untangled myself from our weekly commitment by being busy some of the time, she would gradually adjust to the idea of socializing less frequently. Perhaps I gently push her into a new habit of meeting once or twice a month. But just when I thought she was adjusting to the idea, she'd rev up her efforts to get us back on track to meet weekly.

I suffered some anticipatory nostalgia at the the thought of walking away. Close friends don't grow on trees, at least not in my world. This woman and I had walked and talked our way through divorces, new relationships, subsequent break-ups and reconciliations. The two of us had also been equally guilty spending plenty of time of analyzing and judging the lives of our mutual "recovery" acquaintances.

"I don't trust him. We're friends."

While there had been some give and take over the years, we essentially had a therapist/patient dynamic going much of the time with me playing the role of the counselor. I never got terribly upset about the imbalance because I was aware my basic personality type was in large part to blame. I typically ask a lot of questions and tend to steer the conversation away from sharing my deepest feelings. So it was natural then for me to gravitate toward someone who likes to talk about themselves and asked little about my life.

Don't walk in front of me, I might not follow. Don't walk behind me, I might not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.


Despite our differences in personality, I often reassured myself that the two of us shared a solid and deepening .I believed I'd found a lifelong friend and the only thing that would ever change is that we'd grow closer. So I was surprised and confused when I noticed that I was looking less and less forward to our regularly scheduled outings. I wondered what my problem was.

Although I was craving to make an exit, a little voice inside kept questioning my sanity. She's was, after all, one of the few friends I have on earth. What if someday I am on my death bed ravaged by some unspeakably painful illness and no one else is around. Will I be sorry then? Will I be kicking myself with what little energy my fragile body has left then for so carelessly tossing her out of my life?

My last straw came (and I admit I was probably looking for one) when she called on a Tuesday to book our Saturday. She wanted to make sure we were scheduled before I made other plans. When I listened to that message I knew my tiptoeing away approach was a total failure. I'd had enough.

I decided to sleep on what my next move would be but I knew I had to take action. I was not willing to blow her off completely and I didn't want the stress of telling her the truth.

I chose a medium path and one she'd advocated for her in situations when she didn't want to deal with a person directly. I would mail her a card! What a brilliant idea.

The next day I found a "Thinking of You" card. I felt that would be appropriate and honest because I was thinking of her. The card was blank inside and I filled up the page explaining that while I always consider her a friend, I needed a break and I wasn't up to meeting on a regular basis. I left the door open a bit by ending the note with something about perhaps someday we could meet again. I still don't know if I did that to avoid sparing her feelings or allowing myself a chance to change my mind. Perhaps it was a little of both. I dropped the card in the mail.

About a month later she left me a voice mail like always and said she hoped we could walk that Saturday. She didn't mention anything about receiving my card. I returned her message to let her know I was out of town and told her when I would be returning. That was three months ago and I haven't heard back.

I've been tempted to call my old friends a couple of times but the truth is I'm not interested in resuming a relationship. I still feel some guilt from time to time but I get over it by reminding myself that it's perfectly okay to spend time with the people I want to be around. I wouldn't want someone staying in a friendship with me out of a sense of guilt or obligation.

I researched volumes of advice about ending friendships. It helped me work through my confusion. The list above helped me see that we had grown apart. Maybe I'd changed, maybe she'd changed. Who's at fault didn't really matter. My connection to her had weakened.

I have lost friends, some by death others through sheer inability to cross the street.


After much soul searching I gave myself permission to walk away without carrying a long list of legitimate reasons to justify my decision. It felt wrong to continue this relationship. It felt right to end to it. Enough said.

If Youre Gone...

I think Ive already lost you
I think youre already gone
I think Im finally scared now
You think Im weak - but I think youre wrong
I think youre already leaving
Feels like your hand is on the door
I thought this place was an empire
But now Im relaxed - I cant be sure

I think youre so mean - I think we should try
I think I could need - this in my life
I think Im just scared - I think too much
I know this is wrong its a problem Im dealing

If youre gone - maybe its time to go home
Theres an awful lot of breathing room
But I can hardly move
If youre gone - baby you need to come home
Cuz theres a little bit of something me
In everything in you

I bet youre hard to get over
I bet the room just wont shine
I bet my hands I can stay here
I bet you need - more than you mind

I think youre so mean - I think we should try
I think I could need - this in my life
I think Im just scared - that I know too much
I cant relate and thats a problem Im feeling

If youre gone - maybe its time to go home
Theres an awful lot of breathing room
But I can hardly move
If youre gone - baby you need to come home
Cuz theres a little bit of something me
In everything in you

I think youre so mean - I think we should try
I think I could need - this in my life
I think Im just scared - do I talk too much
I know this is wrong its a problem Im dealing

If youre gone - maybe its time to go home
Theres an awful lot of breathing room
But I can hardly move
If youre gone - baby you need to come home
Cuz theres a little bit of something me
In everything in you

I DON'T WANT TO GO

Here I am
Alone and I don't understand
Exactly how it all began
The dream just walked away

I'm holding on
When all but the passion's gone

And from the start
Maybe I was tryin' to hard
It's crazy coz it's breakin' my heart
Things can fall apart but I know,
That I don't want you to go

And heroes die,
When they ignore the cause inside
But they learn from what's left behind
And fight for something else

And so it goes
That we have both learned how to grow

Oh it's just too much
Takin' all the whole world all by myself
But it's not enough
Unless I stop trusting somebody else,
Somebody else
And love again


And from the start
Maybe we were tryin' to hard
It's crazy coz it's breakin' our hearts
Things can fall apart but I know,
That I don't want you to go, no
Maybe we were tryin' to hard
It's crazy coz it's breakin' our hearts
Things can fall apart but I know,
That I don't want you to go
Oh no, don't want you to go

"Won't Go Home Without You"

I asked her to stay but she wouldn't listen
She left before I had the chance to say
Oh
The words that would mend the things that were broken
But now it's far too late, she's gone away

Every night you cry yourself to sleep
Thinking: "Why does this happen to me?
Why does every moment have to be so hard?"
Hard to believe that

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

The taste of your breath, I'll never get over
The noises that she made kept me awake
Oh
The weight of things that remained unspoken
Built up so much it crushed us everyday

Every night you cry yourself to sleep
Thinking: "Why does this happen to me?
Why does every moment have to be so hard?"
Hard to believe that

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

Of all the things I felt but never really shown
Perhaps the worst is that I ever let you go
I should not ever let you go, oh oh oh

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you
And I won't go home without you
And I won't go home without you
And I won't go home without you

Im Bad...:(

It wasn't that bad but it woke me up from slumber. We stayed friends but she still thought we're a 'couple'. I mean, we're not officially a couple, we had a misunderstanding and she thought we still have that connection. We don't see each other as often as before and it's better of that way. As i've said, we were friends, very close friends in fact that I've never expected she'd give me such attention but I was so stupid I believed her. Actually, I got over her. I tried to listen to myself when she's close and am happy I don't have that strong feelings when I get to hear from her. I moved on now and happy being single. =D

I sit here and think back
To these past years
Memories flood to my mind
And in my eyes, appear the tears

Through these years I've experienced
The love, the joy and pain
Learning each and every day
While precious memories remained

I can't believe how fast it came
How quickly four years went by
That part of life seemed to have passed
With just one blink of my eyes

They say we're to enter a new road
And face new challenges ahead
Towards an unknown future
In the life we've already lead

But the sound of that scares me
Because it involves change
It frightens me to go on further
On this road that seems so strange

Yet I know I can't avoid it
Because that's what life is about
Discovering what the future holds
While walking on the different routes

The memories of these past years
Nothing will ever replace
I capture one last picture
Of each and every face

I will never forget these people
The ones I now call my friends
How do I say goodbye
When it all comes to an end?

From them I've learned so much
How to love and how to care
I cannot imagine going on
With some of them not being there

prepared me for everything
Except for how to say goodbye
That moment has now arrived
And all I want to do is cry

But I will hold back my tears
And face this moment in time
I know wherever life may lead us
We will all turn out fine

Someday we will meet again
And be like how we used to
But till that day comes, just know
I will never forget any of you...

What Happens After long long time ago?

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still favoured to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE. You are special - Don't EVER forget it." you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it can bring. Count your blessings!

Maybe Not Forever

There are so many stories I still want to tell
There are so many I love you's left unsaid
There are many tears left uncried
There are many dreams left to fall apart

I miss our long talks
I miss the nights when all was alright
I love you like a sister, you were my angel,
Yet I wonder why you left me here to die

We were forever best friends-
When one fell to the ground
The other one was there to help her back up.
We healed our broken hearts
With a hug and a gentle smile.
We stayed up every night looking at the stars,
Giggling like little girls and having midnight talks.

You said you had to go-
I wished it wasn't so.
You said we'd always write.
You said it would be like old times.
I looked in your eyes as you looked into mine,
With smiles like everything was fine.

Yet we both knew well that this was our last good-bye.
We knew that we would never again
Have those long talks and play like little girls again.
We knew all the pain we'd cause ourselves.
I also knew that my angel was being taken away,
Yet we promised no matter what we'd remain forever best friends...

Goodbye

Well maybe now I should just say goodbye
You used to be my friend
But I never felt I really was yours
So maybe this is the end.
I'm different from you, all of you
Each other we've never understood
I hope that if I do tell you goodbye
That it won't be for good.
Whenever I'm mad it hurts me so bad
And you don't even care
I don't know why, I just want to cry
And someday I won't be there.
The streaks on my arm they've done me no harm
They're only made of pen
But once they are blood that turns brown like mud
They'll be there again and again.
If I'm mad at you I'll hurt myself too
But that doesn't really matter
Although when I hurt I feel like dirt
And my spirit's bruised and battered.
I do not know why it has to be so
I really wish it did not
But the way this has been going
it is basically shot.
You don't need me and we don't need we
And that's how I think I know why
These words are the ones I have to speak-
I love you, but goodbye.

Forever

A long time ago,
When we first met,
I didn't like you,
We had a bet.

Over a stupid guy,
I thought we'd never get along,
My instincts were telling me,
I was so wrong

One day when you went out with him,
I'll admit I was jealous,
Until we started talking,
Later nothing could come between us.

Now we look back at the past,
We've been through think and thin,
It came across me,
I found my best friend.

I don't care what happens,
With me by your side,
I will not criticize,
There is nothing to hide.

You can tell me anything,
Don't worry about it,
Won’t let you go through your problems alone,
There is so much more where we can get.

Don't keep things bottled inside,
I will always be there for you,
I will be by your side,
There is nothing our friendship can't do!

You are more than a friend,
You’re like a sister to me,
Together there is nothing,
That we can't see.

You are about to leave,
I can’t say good-bye,
No matter how hard I try,
I will break down and cry!

It is still hard to believe,
I can't see you're leaving,
I will always remember,
I will always be grieving

I want you to remember,
No matter what happens,
We will be friends forever!!

Gone...

ran through my head
I found myself wishing I was dead
All because you were moving away
I knew I would never see you another day

You got in your car and waved goodbye
and then I was left all alone to cry
I felt helpless, and all alone
I could only talk to you on the phone

You were my neighbor, and my best friend
Why, Oh why did it have to end?
You made me so happy, so carefree
You made it feel okay for me to be me

It's been almost a year since you moved away
but it feels like it was only yesterday
I remember everything you used to do
It may seem impossible, but it's true

You were the best friend I ever had
Now that you left me, I am beyond sad
I love and I miss you more than you ever knew
You've taught me so much, and I want to say thank you.

I Love You & Goodbye...

I will never forget you,
Though I may meet someone new
But a part of my heart
Will forever belong to you.

I know it won’t be easy,
And I’ll miss you every second
But everything in life,
Comes with a special lesson.

Letting go is hard
But when all the sadness clears
There will not be a reason
To shed another tear.

What we had was priceless
And you will always hold my heart
But now that our love is gone
We must forever part.

My love you took for granted
But I gave it anyway…
And still you overlook me
Even to this day.

Of all the times you hurt me
And all the times I’ve cried
I think of why I worked so hard
And why I even tried.

You said you’d love me forever
But forever has come and gone
And still I sit and wonder
Where it all went wrong.

But now I see what’s really there
And there’s nothing I could have done
You can’t help who you love
And I just wasn’t the one.

Maybe someday down the road
Our paths will intertwine
And once again I can hold you
And know you are mine.

But until the day, if it even comes
You will only be in my mind
For now it’s time for me to see
If it’s true love I can find.

We had some really good times
And we had some really bad,
But the strength to keep on going
Neither of us had.

I’m sorry our time has ended
And we couldn’t make things work
But then I think of all the times
You acted like a jerk.

I know I wasn’t perfect
But I gave you all I had
And if we were so deep in love
Why does it feel so bad?

I still have a lot of questions
And I still wonder why
But now all I can do is say…
I love you and goodbye.

I Need You Now

Please take me by the hand.
Stand by me in my hour of need,
Take time to understand.

Take my hand, dear friend,
And lead me from this place.
Chase away my doubts and fears,
Wipe the tears from off my face.

Friend, I cannot stand alone.
I need your hand to hold,
The warmth of your gentle touch
In my world that's grown so cold.

Please be a friend to me
And hold me day by day.
Because with your loving hand in mine,
I know we'll find the way.

CONTROLLING BOY-FRIEND

There are some men who are control freaks. They want to control everything, including their partners. What happens when you have a relationship with such a person?Why does he want to control? Maybe he has had a traumatic childhood. He may have imbibed this trait from his parent/s. If he suffers from low self-esteem, he may want to control in order to feel superior. Or he feels his partner is his property.
What ever the reasons, in such a relationship, a girl feels suffocated. When he decides what she wears, who she talks to, who she goes out with, then the relationship is no longer enjoyable. She will feel constricted. How can she handle such a person?
She must learn to taken responsibility for her actions. She must learn not to accept his demands. She must accept she is an individual who has all her rights. She must not support his actions. She must set boundaries which he must learn to respect. She must learn to be assertive and make sure he respects her and her wishes.
There will be emotional controlling done when he realizes she is not willing to accept his control. She must not give in to this. She must talk to him when there is no fight happening, and be assertive in setting boundaries. If he starts to take over the conversation, she must take time off and come back to the discussion later.
A girl who allows herself to be controlled will end up losing her identity. She must introspect and ask herself what she is losing in this kind of relationship. She will be losing her identity, her dreams, and her dignity. Is this relationship worth losing all of these?
Suffering in silence is not love.

SUICIDE

What are the reasons why people commit suicide? Love failure, fear of failure in examination, poverty, debt, marital problems, chronic illness, etc.It is a momentary madness, if the moment passes, then sanity prevails.
When the exams results are round the corner, the tension experienced by the students is terrible. If they are not counseled properly, they are prone to take the extreme step. Fortunately there are centers like Sneha doing such a good job in counseling for those who contemplate suicide.
Students must be made to realize that exams can be repeated next year, but once life is lost, everything is lost. Even failed attempts can be problematic.
Recently it was in the news about farmers committing suicide due to poverty and mounting debts. They took the extreme step due to crop failures and no way out of the debt traps they had fallen in. It is a different issue that they have left behind their families to face the very same situation as well as to mourn their loss.
Love failure, what can be said about this? Jilted lover sometimes resorts to suicide, maybe as a warning to her/his ex-lover. A jilted lover who does not have inner strength, will resort to taking his/her life, instead of getting over the experience and starting fresh. God has given only one life, why do people not realize this? Life is to be lived, enjoyed, and experienced with all good and bad.
There are some cases where a person ends his/her life because of chronic illness. They probably do not want to be a burden on their family.
There was this gentleman, a very disciplined person, who timed all his actions to perfection. Every activity had a particular time, he did not budge either way, come rain or sunshine. When he aged, his body would not co-operate with him, he was vexed. When he came to know he did not have long to live, he took his own life. He had always controlled everything in his life, he could not accept the fact that his body was failing him. He probably decided that he would die at his chosen time. He left behind a bewildered family. They are taking a long time in recovering.
Those who are suffering major depression, may contemplate suicide. Normally, those who attempt suicide are asking for help. They are unable to cope with their particular problem, so they are seeking a way out.
All the signs and symptoms will be there for anyone to see. A person who is contemplating suicide will show no interest in life, will have problems with sleep and food, will always be in a depressed mood, and will withdraw into him/herself. He/she will have crying spells, will also express thoughts of suicide, and will talk about death. It should not be ignored. He/she is actually asking for help, psychologically. He/she must be counseled, and not left alone for a long time.
Counseling does help a lot. A person lost his brother to suicide, has been guilty ever since. He feels he did not do enough to save him. It took some counseling to make him realize he was not at fault. Suicide has such a devastating effect on the family.
A youngster who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, took his life because he did not want to live with this disease. He was getting the best of treatment, but he could not live with the thought that he could relapse. A very tragic story.
Like it has been stated earlier, suicide is a momentary madness. If a suicide prone person is dissuaded from this act, a life can be saved.
Those who are saved, may resort to it later. That is why they have to be counseled.
But there are some who use the threat of suicide as a blackmailing stunt. They also require counseling. If ignored, they may attempt it.
When a person feels very low, feels there is no future, does not want to be a burden on family or society, and when in pain, either physical or emotional, will contemplate suicide. Be free once and for all. Their emotions need to be handled properly, they must be made to realize they too are important members of society. They too can contribute to the growth of the society and mankind.

ATTRACTION

Attraction is a natural thing. When a beautiful scene, object or person passes by, one is attracted. An appreciative glance is offered. The object that attracts could be a shade of color, a particular style of dress, a lovely and peaceful face, a lovely, lilting song, and/or a stylish car or bike.
Being attracted to an object will not create ripples or raised eyebrows. But if a person is attracted to another person, it can create problems. Especially if the attraction is for the opposite sex.
Though why should such attraction be considered unhealthy, is not understandable. When a beautiful woman passes by, the men around will be attracted towards her. Appreciative glances will be given and normally the woman herself will feel flattered. But the problem arises when the attraction goes a step forward and ends up embarrassing the person who appears attractive.
What happens if a married man is attracted to a married woman, is it wrong? Normally it shouldn’t be. It is possible to be attracted by her smile, her style of dressing, or the way she handles children, etc. Provided the lady is not aware of this attraction, otherwise she would be embarrassed and may avoid appearing before this man. But, to be honest, some women will be secretly pleased. The feminine aspect in them will be flattered.
The attraction should remain just that. Not go beyond this point. Once he/she crosses the line, then trouble is not far behind.
A case came to me where a man said he is happily married and has two children. His wife was away for a few days and he found himself attracted to his neighbor’s wife. He confessed to his wife, who was understandably upset. But he laughed it off, saying it was only a passing phase. He told his wife not to leave him and go anywhere.
But he wrote to say it was no longer a joke, and he found he was constantly thinking of this woman, in fact he was unable to concentrate on anything else. He was truly alarmed with this behavior. He wanted help.
I suggested to him to rationalize this whole thing. He could keep his attraction to a safe level, because there was no way he could express his feelings to that woman. The repercussions would be too messy to handle. But sometimes rational thinking will not help. When one is told to forget something because it is forbidden, it refuses to go away. The mind seeks that thought, and trying to ignore it will not help. The more one pushes such thoughts down, the more it will pop up.
So I suggested to him to replace the image of this lady in his mind with that of his wife. If he persisted enough times, he would succeed. It is like replacing a negative thought with a positive thought.
Or he could try some exposure therapy in his mind. He imagines he is meeting this lady, he expresses his feelings of attractions to her, and she slaps him. All the other people who reside in the same building witness this. Or his children watch their father being thrashed by that lady’s husband. Or his wife witnesses his humiliation and files for divorce. All these scenarios are painful ones, one that is filled with pain and humiliation. Soon his thoughts of this lady will get associated with humiliation, insults, physical attacks and the hurts of his family.
Such exposure therapy, when done in the mind, will lead to aversion. Surely visions of his family witnessing his humiliation will hopefully bring him out of his unhealthy attraction.
This gentleman wrote back saying my mail has helped him to see his folly.

Good Friend Make so Much better!

As we walk our path of life,
We meet people everyday.
Most are simply met by chance.
But, some are sent our way.

These become special friends
Whose bond we can't explain;
The ones who understand us
And share our joy and pain.

Their love contains no boundaries.
So, even we are apart.
Their presence enhances us
With a warmth felt in the heart.

This love becomes a passageway,
When even the miles disappear.
And so, these friends, God sends our way,
Remain forever near.

Friends Forever

Friends are friends forever together 'till the end.
You promised me that you would always be my friend.
One day something changed I'm not sure what it was.
I lost you on that day and the reason was because
it was a late dark night and we had a stupid fight.
And for some reason, I don't know why, we couldn't make it right.

We went our separate ways.
This went on for days and days.
I made new friends and you made yours,
but that hole in my heart could not be filled for that hole was only yours.
Times got really tough,
my road of life was, oh, so rough.
I needed friends, not the kind you see from day to day,
but the kind that will always and forever stay.

Memories were all I had
and just the thought of them made me sad.
I cried every night wondering how to make it right.
I wish you could erase that day and that fight.
Would you please forgive me? I don't know where to start.
It hurts me so bad to have this hole in my heart!

I don't want our friendship to totally end.
I need you! You are my best friend!
So can we make a promise to stay together 'till the end?
A vow to each other to ALWAYS be BEST FRIENDS?

Forever Friends...

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.

Life Still Has A Meaning

If there is a future there is time for mending-
Time to see your troubles coming to an ending.
Life is never hopeless however great your sorrow-
If you're looking forward to a new tomorrow.
If there is time for wishing then there is time for hoping-
When through doubt and darkness you are blindly groping.
Though the heart be heavy and hurt you may be feeling-
If there is time for praying there is time for healing.

So if through your window there is a new day breaking-
Thank God for the promise, though mind and soul be aching,
If with harvest over there is grain enough for gleaning-
There is a new tomorrow and life still has meaning.


I knelt to pray but not for long,
I had too much to do.
I had to hurry and get to work
For bills would soon be due.

So I knelt and said a hurried prayer,
And jumped up off my knees.
My duty toward god was now done
My soul could rest at ease.

All day long I had no time
To spread a word of cheer.
No time to speak of God to friends,
They'd laugh at me I'd fear.

No time, no time, too much to do,
That was my constant cry,
No time to give to souls in need
But at last the time the time to die.
I went before the Lord,
I came, I stood with downcast eyes.
For in his hands God held a book;
It was the book of life.

God looked into his book and said
"Your name I cannot find.
I once was going to write it down...
But never found the time"

One day when u feel like crying....
call me. ! . ! . !
I dont promise that I will make u laugh,
but I can cry with u. If one day u want to
run away dont be afraid to call me.
I dont promise to ask u to stop......
but I can run with u.
If one day u dont want to listen to anyone.....call me.
I promise to be there for u
but also promise to remain quiet.
But one day if u call......
and there is no answer.....
come fast to see me.
Perhaps I need you.

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Good Friend

I thought you were my friend
That you would always be there
But now you’ve gone and left me
For some other friend somewhere
We had so many secrets
Some that nobody else knew
But now that you have left me
You’ve left those secrets too
Why did you find a new friend
I thought that I was your best
Now it feels like all my heart
Has died and gone to rest
I hope you have new memories
To share with your new friend
I just really want to know
Why our friendship came to an end
I guess now I’m finished
I’m done asking 'why'
But if this friendship is really over
Then why does it hurt to say goodbye?

IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."
There would have been more "I love you's." More "I'm sorry's."
But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute, look at it and really see it , live it and never give it back.

I Can't....

I can't promise I'll always be by your side
To give you a hug
But I will always be on the other side of a phone
I can't promise everything will be alright
Because sometimes I just don't know
But I will always do my best to make everything ok

I can't promise I can stop your tears
When they're falling so hard you could drown in them
But I can cry with you

I can't promise I can catch you
When you're falling so fast you're just a blur
But I can fall with you, and hold your hand when we crash

I can't promise I can help you out of your hole
Because the truth is I'm right down there with you
But I can try and ease your pain

I can't promise I can stop the voices
Because I can't even control them myself
But I can understand

I can't promise I can make you better
When you feel like you're not strong enough to go on
But I can be strong for you

I can't promise to give you a reason to live
When you feel like you can't take anymore
But if you let me, I can hold you as you slip into an eternal sleep

And I can't promise
That things will be ok soon
But I can promise that I love you

Now,
Forever,
And always.

A Friend

A friend is something special, it cannot be defined
To become as close as sisters, that’s very hard to find
I consider myself lucky since I found all this in you
Without you in my life, who knows what I may do

Throughout our years of friendship, you’ve always stuck by my side
Holding me in your arms as I just sat and cried
Through all the ups and downs,
From my smiles to my frowns
To see your face everyday
There is no price I wouldn’t pay

I know that no matter what happens we’ll be together until the end
Only for the very reason that you are my very best friend
And as we grow older we may go our separate ways,
But until the day I’m 99 I’ll think of you always

If ever we get into a fight and end things once and for all
Know that I’m by the phone just waiting for your call
As our days together shorten and our laughter comes to an end
Please do know this one thing, my very special friend

If there were something that you need, anything at all
Please pick up the phone and dial…never be afraid to call
I owe you so many things, though you may never know
Whenever I am with you, my face begins to glow

If there were something I could give you, this is what it would be
To be as good a friend to you as you have been to me
You are such a rare jewel that is so hard to find
Absolutely amazing…one of a kind

There are a mere ten words I must say before I am through
You are my best friend, thanks, and I love you.

*My BeSt FrIeNdS*

Sometimes you feel like you cant live without them,
Or sometimes, with them.
You can talk to them about everything and anything
Even if it's about your crush and they really dont wanna hear anymore,
About how cute so-and-so is
But they would never tell you to shut up (to an extent).
They care about you, do anything for you.
When you're excited,
They're excited.
When you're happy,
They're smiling right along with you.
When you're upset
They come prepared with a tissue box,
And chocolate,
Lots and lots of chocolate.
A best friend is someone you can rely on to tell you the truth,
Even if its the last thing you want to hear.
They are the only ones who can cheer you up
When you thought you thought you could never laugh again.
They can be goofy with you
no matter how weird the two of you may look.
They know what you are thinking and how you feel,
Even if you dont say a single word.
This person is like your other half
And it's these people who you shoud hold on to.

Who you should treasure with all of your heart.
Because they make life worth living.

The Friendship

There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.

Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. "There's one more thing," she said excitedly.

"What's that?" came the Pastor's reply.

"This is very important," the young woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand."

The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.

"That surprises you, doesn't it?" the young woman asked.

"Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the Pastor.

The young woman explained. "My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement. In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean overand say, 'Keep your fork.' It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance! 'So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder 'What's with the fork?'" Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork ..the best is yet to come."

The Pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, "What's with the fork?" And over and over he smiled. During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation hehad with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. He was right.

So the next time you reach down for your fork let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to opentheirhearts to us.Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them, even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to "Keep your fork." Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share ... being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND even if it means sending back to the person who sent it to you. And keep your fork.

Friend, Best Friend

Friend: calls your parents by mr. and mrs.
Best friend: calls your parents by their first names.

Friend: has never seen you cry
Best friend: has always had the best shoulder to cry on

Friend: never asks for anything to eat or drink
Best friend: opens the fridge and makes herself at home

Friend: asks you to write down your number.
Best friend: they ask you for their number
(cuz they can't remember it!)

Friend: borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
Best friend: has a closet full of your stuff

Friend: only knows a few things about you
Best friend: could write a biography on your life story

Friend: will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing
Best friend: will always go with you…

A Special freind

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you're down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times an dthe confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.

The Best Friendship

When we first talked to each other
I knew we would always be friends.
Our friendship has kept on growing
And I'll be here for you to the end.

You listen when I have a problem
And help dry the tears from my face.
You take away my sorrow
And put happiness in its place.

We can't forget the fun we've had
Laughing 'til our faces turn blue.
Talking of things only we find funny
People think we're insane-If they only knew!

I guess this is my way of saying thanks
For catching me when I fall.
Thanks once again for being such a good friend
And being here with me through it all.

A stranger stabs you in the front; a friend stabs you in the back; a boyfriend stabs you in the heart, but best friends only poke each other with straws.
A friend is someone who can see the truth and pain in you even when you are fooling everyone else.
It's the times we're so crazy,
that people think we're high.
It's the times we laugh so hard,
we can't help but cry.
It's all the inside jokes
and "remember whens".
those are all the reasons
that we're best friends!
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.
In Kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who counted the slowest for you when it was your turn at the water fountain.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-doing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan.

In fifth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In sixth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that is they said "no" you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who let you copy the Social Studies homework from the night before that you had.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball stuff, but didn't laugh when you finished and burst into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would still have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, counseled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get in, and helped you deal with your parents who where having a hard time adjusting to letting you go.

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside, but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you on all you had achieved.

The summer after graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now you and Nick or Susan were back together you could make it through anything. Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through misty eyes back at 18 years of memories you where going to leave behind. Finally, on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had the past 18 years, and most importantly, sent you off knowing you were loved.

Now your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you’re scared, helps you fight off those who try to bring you down, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understand when you need to hold onto it for just a bit longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, and most of all, lets you know that you will always be loved.
Never explain yourself. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it.
There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will.

Cancer

The Uterus
The uterus is part of a woman's reproductive system. It is the hollow, pear-shaped organ where a baby grows. The uterus is in the pelvis between the bladder and the rectum.
The narrow, lower portion of the uterus is the cervix. The broad, middle part of the uterus is the body, or corpus. The dome-shaped top of the uterus is the fundus. The fallopian tubes extend from either side of the top of the uterus to the ovaries.

The wall of the uterus has two layers of tissue. The inner layer, or lining, is the endometrium. The outer layer is muscle tissue called the myometrium.
In women of childbearing age, the lining of the uterus grows and thickens each month to prepare for pregnancy. If a woman does not become pregnant, the thick, bloody lining flows out of the body through the vagina. This flow is called menstruation.

Understanding Cancer
Cancer is a group of many related diseases. All cancers begin in cells, the body's basic unit of life. Cells make up tissues, and tissues make up the organs of the body.
Normally, cells grow and divide to form new cells as the body needs them. When cells grow old and die, new cells take their place.
Sometimes this orderly process goes wrong. New cells form when the body does not need them, and old cells do not die when they should. These extra cells can form a mass of tissue called a growth or tumor.
Tumors can be benign or malignant:
Benign tumors are not cancer. Usually, doctors can remove them. Cells from benign tumors do not spread to other parts of the body. In most cases, benign tumors do not come back after they are removed. Most important, benign tumors are rarely a threat to life.
Benign Conditions of the Uterus
Fibroids are common benign tumors that grow in the muscle of the uterus. They occur mainly in women in their forties. Women may have many fibroids at the same time. Fibroids do not develop into cancer. As a woman reaches menopause, fibroids are likely to become smaller, and sometimes they disappear.
Usually, fibroids cause no symptoms and need no treatment. But depending on their size and location, fibroids can cause bleeding, vaginal discharge, and frequent urination. Women with these symptoms should see a doctor. If fibroids cause heavy bleeding, or if they press against nearby organs and cause pain, the doctor may suggest surgery or other treatment.
Endometriosis is another benign condition that affects the uterus. It is most common in women in their thirties and forties, especially in women who have never been pregnant. It occurs when endometrial tissue begins to grow on the outside of the uterus and on nearby organs. This condition may cause painful menstrual periods, abnormal vaginal bleeding, and sometimes loss of fertility (ability to get pregnant), but it does not cause cancer. Women with endometriosis may be treated with hormones or surgery.
Endometrial hyperplasia is an increase in the number of cells in the lining of the uterus. It is not cancer. Sometimes it develops into cancer. Heavy menstrual periods, bleeding between periods, and bleeding after menopause are common symptoms of hyperplasia. It is most common after age 40.
To prevent endometrial hyperplasia from developing into cancer, the doctor may recommend surgery to remove the uterus (hysterectomy) or treatment with hormones (progesterone) and regular followup exams.
Malignant tumors are cancer. They are generally more serious and may be life threatening. Cancer cells can invade and damage nearby tissues and organs. Also, cancer cells can break away from a malignant tumor and enter the bloodstream or lymphatic system. That is how cancer cells spread from the original (primary) tumor to form new tumors in other organs. The spread of cancer is called metastasis.
When uterine cancer spreads (metastasizes) outside the uterus, cancer cells are often found in nearby lymph nodes, nerves, or blood vessels. If the cancer has reached the lymph nodes, cancer cells may have spread to other lymph nodes and other organs, such as the lungs, liver, and bones.
When cancer spreads from its original place to another part of the body, the new tumor has the same kind of abnormal cells and the same name as the primary tumor. For example, if cancer of the uterus spreads to the lungs, the cancer cells in the lungs are actually uterine cancer cells. The disease is metastatic uterine cancer, not lung cancer. It is treated as uterine cancer, not lung cancer. Doctors sometimes call the new tumor "distant" disease.
The most common type of cancer of the uterus begins in the lining (endometrium). It is called endometrial cancer, uterine cancer, or cancer of the uterus. In this booklet, we will use the terms uterine cancer or cancer of the uterus to refer to cancer that begins in the endometrium.
A different type of cancer, uterine sarcoma, develops in the muscle (myometrium). Cancer that begins in the cervix is also a different type of cancer.

Uterine Cancer: Who's at Risk
No one knows the exact causes of uterine cancer. However, it is clear that this disease is not contagious. No one can "catch" cancer from another person.
Women who get this disease are more likely than other women to have certain risk factors. They are:
Age. Cancer of the uterus occurs mostly in women over age 50.
Endometrial hyperplasia. The risk of uterine cancer is higher if a woman has endometrial hyperplasia. This condition and its treatment are described above.
Hormone replacement therapy (HRT). HRT is used to control the symptoms of menopause, to prevent osteoporosis (thinning of the bones), and to reduce the risk of heart disease or stroke.
Obesity and related conditions. The body makes some of its estrogen in fatty tissue. That's why obese women are more likely than thin women to have higher levels of estrogen in their bodies. High levels of estrogen may be the reason that obese women have an increased risk of developing uterine cancer. The risk of this disease is also higher in women with diabetes or high blood pressure (conditions that occur in many obese women).
Tamoxifen. Women taking the drug tamoxifen to prevent or treat breast cancer have an increased risk of uterine cancer. This risk appears to be related to the estrogen-like effect of this drug on the uterus.
Race. White women are more likely than African-American women to get uterine cancer.
Colorectal cancer. Women who have had an inherited form of colorectal cancer have a higher risk of developing uterine cancer than other women.
Other risk factors are related to how long a woman's body is exposed to estrogen. Women who have no children, begin menstruation at a very young age, or enter menopause late in life are exposed to estrogen longer and have a higher risk.
Women with known risk factors and those who are concerned about uterine cancer should ask their doctor about the symptoms to watch for and how often to have checkups. The doctor's advice will be based on the woman's age, medical history, and other factors.

Recognizing Symptoms
Uterine cancer usually occurs after menopause. But it may also occur around the time that menopause begins. Abnormal vaginal bleeding is the most common symptom of uterine cancer. Bleeding may start as a watery, blood-streaked flow that gradually contains more blood. Women should not assume that abnormal vaginal bleeding is part of menopause.
A woman should see her doctor if she has any of the following symptoms:
Unusual vaginal bleeding or discharge
Difficult or painful urination
Pain during intercourse
Pain in the pelvic area
These symptoms can be caused by cancer or other less serious conditions. Most often they are not cancer, but only a doctor can tell for sure.

Diagnosis
If a woman has symptoms that suggest uterine cancer, her doctor may check general signs of health and may order blood and urine tests. The doctor also may perform one or more of the exams or tests described on the next pages.
Pelvic exam -- A woman has a pelvic exam to check the vagina, uterus, bladder, and rectum. The doctor feels these organs for any lumps or changes in their shape or size. To see the upper part of the vagina and the cervix, the doctor inserts an instrument called a speculum into the vagina.
Pap test -- The doctor collects cells from the cervix and upper vagina. A medical laboratory checks for abnormal cells. Although the Pap test can detect cancer of the cervix, cells from inside the uterus usually do not show up on a Pap test. This is why the doctor collects samples of cells from inside the uterus in a procedure called a biopsy.
Transvaginal ultrasound -- The doctor inserts an instrument into the vagina. The instrument aims high-frequency sound waves at the uterus. The pattern of the echoes they produce creates a picture. If the endometrium looks too thick, the doctor can do a biopsy.
Biopsy -- The doctor removes a sample of tissue from the uterine lining. This usually can be done in the doctor's office. In some cases, however, a woman may need to have a dilation and curettage (D&C). A D&C is usually done as same-day surgery with anesthesia in a hospital. A pathologist examines the tissue to check for cancer cells, hyperplasia, and other conditions. For a short time after the biopsy, some women have cramps and vaginal bleeding.

Staging
If uterine cancer is diagnosed, the doctor needs to know the stage, or extent, of the disease to plan the best treatment. Staging is a careful attempt to find out whether the cancer has spread, and if so, to what parts of the body.
The doctor may order blood and urine tests and chest x-rays. The woman also may have other x-rays, CT scans, an ultrasound test, magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), sigmoidoscopy, or colonoscopy.
In most cases, the most reliable way to stage this disease is to remove the uterus (hysterectomy). (The description of surgery in the "Methods of Treatment" section has more information.) After the uterus has been removed, the surgeon can look for obvious signs that the cancer has invaded the muscle of the uterus. The surgeon also can check the lymph nodes and other organs in the pelvic area for signs of cancer. A pathologist uses a microscope to examine the uterus and other tissues removed by the surgeon.
These are the main features of each stage of the disease:
Stage I -- The cancer is only in the body of the uterus. It is not in the cervix.
Stage II -- The cancer has spread from the body of the uterus to the cervix.
Stage III -- The cancer has spread outside the uterus, but not outside the pelvis (and not to the bladder or rectum). Lymph nodes in the pelvis may contain cancer cells.
Stage IV -- The cancer has spread into the bladder or rectum. Or it has spread beyond the pelvis to other body parts.

Treatment for Uterine Cancer
Women with uterine cancer have many treatment options. Most women with uterine cancer are treated with surgery. Some have radiation therapy. A smaller number of women may be treated with hormonal therapy. Some patients receive a combination of therapies.
Most women with uterine cancer have surgery to remove the uterus (hysterectomy) through an incision in the abdomen. The doctor also removes both fallopian tubes and both ovaries. (This procedure is called a bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy.)
The doctor may also remove the lymph nodes near the tumor to see if they contain cancer. If cancer cells have reached the lymph nodes, it may mean that the disease has spread to other parts of the body. The length of the hospital stay may vary from several days to a week.
In radiation therapy, high-energy rays are used to kill cancer cells. Like surgery, radiation therapy is a local therapy. It affects cancer cells only in the treated area.
Some women with Stage I, II, or III uterine cancer need both radiation therapy and surgery. They may have radiation before surgery to shrink the tumor or after surgery to destroy any cancer cells that remain in the area. Also, the doctor may suggest radiation treatments for the small number of women who cannot have surgery.
Doctors use two types of radiation therapy to treat uterine cancer:
External radiation: In external radiation therapy, a large machine outside the body is used to aim radiation at the tumor area. The woman is usually an outpatient in a hospital or clinic and receives external radiation 5 days a week for several weeks. This schedule helps protect healthy cells and tissue by spreading out the total dose of radiation. No radioactive materials are put into the body for external radiation therapy.
Internal radiation: In internal radiation therapy, tiny tubes containing a radioactive substance are inserted through the vagina and left in place for a few days. The woman stays in the hospital during this treatment. To protect others from radiation exposure, the patient may not be able to have visitors or may have visitors only for a short period of time while the implant is in place. Once the implant is removed, the woman has no radioactivity in her body.
Some patients need both external and internal radiation therapies.
Hormonal therapy involves substances that prevent cancer cells from getting or using the hormones they may need to grow. Hormones can attach to hormone receptors, causing changes in uterine tissue. Before therapy begins, the doctor may request a hormone receptor test. This special lab test of uterine tissue helps the doctor learn if estrogen and progesterone receptors are present. If the tissue has receptors, the woman is more likely to respond to hormonal therapy.
Hormonal therapy is called a systemic therapy because it can affect cancer cells throughout the body. Usually, hormonal therapy is a type of progesterone taken as a pill.
The doctor may use hormonal therapy for women with uterine cancer who are unable to have surgery or radiation therapy. Also, the doctor may give hormonal therapy to women with uterine cancer that has spread to the lungs or other distant sites. It is also given to women with uterine cancer that has come back.

Side Effects of Cancer Treatment
Because cancer treatment may damage healthy cells and tissues, unwanted side effects sometimes occur. These side effects depend on many factors, including the type and extent of the treatment. Side effects may not be the same for each person, and they may even change from one treatment session to the next. Before treatment starts, doctors and nurses will explain the possible side effects and how they will help you manage them.
Surgery
After a hysterectomy, women usually have some pain and feel extremely tired. Most women return to their normal activities within 4 to 8 weeks after surgery. Some may need more time than that.
Some women may have problems with nausea and vomiting after surgery, and some may have bladder and bowel problems. The doctor may restrict the woman's diet to liquids at first, with a gradual return to solid food.
Women who have had a hysterectomy no longer have menstrual periods and can no longer get pregnant. When the ovaries are removed, menopause occurs at once. Hot flashes and other symptoms of menopause caused by surgery may be more severe than those caused by natural menopause. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is often given to women who have not had uterine cancer to relieve these problems. However, doctors usually do not give the hormone estrogen to women who have had uterine cancer. Because estrogen is a risk factor for this disease (see "Uterine Cancer: Who's at Risk?"), many doctors are concerned that estrogen may cause uterine cancer to return. Other doctors point out that there is no scientific evidence that estrogen increases the risk that cancer will come back. NCI is sponsoring a large research study to learn whether women who have had early stage uterine cancer can take estrogen safely.
For some women, a hysterectomy can affect sexual intimacy. A woman may have feelings of loss that may make intimacy difficult. Sharing these feelings with her partner may be helpful.
Radiation Therapy
The side effects of radiation therapy depend mainly on the treatment dose and the part of the body that is treated. Common side effects of radiation include dry, reddened skin and hair loss in the treated area, loss of appetite, and extreme tiredness. Some women may have dryness, itching, tightening, and burning in the vagina. Radiation also may cause diarrhea or frequent and uncomfortable urination. It may reduce the number of white blood cells, which help protect the body against infection.
Doctors may advise their patients not to have intercourse during radiation therapy. However, most can resume sexual activity within a few weeks after treatment ends. The doctor or nurse may suggest ways to relieve any vaginal discomfort related to treatment.
Hormonal Therapy
Hormonal therapy can cause a number of side effects. Women taking progesterone may retain fluid, have an increased appetite, and gain weight. Women who are still menstruating may have changes in their periods.

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This is without a doubt one of the nicest good luck forwards I have received. I hope it works for you -- and me!

Lotus Touts: You have 6 minutes

There's some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you're not superstitious. This Lotus Touts has been sent to you for good luck from the Anthony Robbins organization. It has been sent around the world ten times so far.

Do not keep this message.

The Lotus Touts must leave your hands in 6 MINUTES. Otherwise you will get a very unpleasant surprise. This is true, even if you are not superstitious, agnostic, or otherwise faith impaired.

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

A FRIEND

Many people will walk in and out of your life.
But only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.
To handle yourself, use your head;
To handle others, use your heart.



Friends


Anger is only one letter short of danger
If someone betrays you once, it is his fault;
If he betrays you twice, it is your fault.

Great minds discuss ideas;
Average minds discuss events;
Small minds discuss people.

He, who loses money, loses much;
He, who loses a friend, loses much more;
He, who loses faith, loses all.

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature,
But beautiful old people are works of art.

Learn from the mistakes of others
You can’t live long enough to make them all
yourself.

Friends, you and me…
You brought another friend…
And then there were 3…
We started our group…
Our circle of friends…
And like that circle…
There is no beginning or end…

Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is a gift.
That is why it is called the present.


Show your friends how much you care…
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND.
If it comes back to you, then you’ll know you
have a circle of friends.



When you receive this letter,
I recommend that you send it to all your friends,
including the person who sent it to you!

You don’t have to send it to your friends, it’s your choice.
I don’t want to force you to do it, but trust me;
it’s always good to tell your friends
some nice words now and then
and that you care…

(-: Don’t make them disappointed!

When best friends make perfect lovers

It is one of the most hotly debated questions about relationships, famously posed in the film When Harry Met Sally: can men and women be just good friends?

According to the neurotic Sally, played by Meg Ryan, they can, but Billy Crystal's Harry insists that platonic friendships are doomed because physical attraction always interferes. "Men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way," he says when they first meet.

But a survey shatters Harry's cynicism by suggesting that friends who become lovers can maintain their friendship even if the sexual relationship breaks down.

The website Friends Reunited polled 2,000 people and found that only a third of friendships ended as a result of friends becoming lovers.

More than eight in 10 of those questioned admitted that they were aware of the so-called "Harry met Sally syndrome" and feared that having sex with a friend would ruin the friendship.

However, of those who had close friends of the opposite sex, 56 per cent of women and 65 per cent of men said they had considered taking the friendship to another level. And of the seven in 10 people who did, only a third said sex had destroyed the friendship.

A third said they were still in the relationship and a third had returned to being good friends.

"If one of your closest friends is a member of the opposite sex and available, and you are looking for a partner, then this does seem the obvious place to start," said Rhoda Moore, head of the website's dating division.

"It's just as likely that if it doesn't work out, you'll go back to just being friends. Best-friend dating makes sense because deep friendship is at the core of any longlasting romantic relationship."

Asked why they had not dated a best friend, half of women said it was because they "just didn't fancy him" and a fifth said they feared it would destroy the friendship. Around a third of men and women shied away from romance with a best friend because "we just know each other too well".

Experts remain divided over whether men and women can ever be just good friends. Susan Quilliam, a relationship psychologist, said she believed that friendship was an excellent foundation for a long-lasting relationship.

"Friends have common values and relationships work if they are built on common values," she said. "The problem is that many people get together on the basis of chemical attraction alone.

"Once the sex 'kicks out', they don't have anything left to maintain a friendship."

But Peter Spalton, who runs workshops on dating, said platonic friendships were possible only if both sides did not want to take the relationship further.

"If one person fancies the other, then the friendship is doomed," he said. "Once someone has made a pass, the whole thing becomes difficult and very awkward."

NICE BOOK

he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out
/ an excuse is a polite rejection. men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship"
/ don't get tricked into asking him out. if he likes you, he'll do the asking
/ if you can find him, then he can find you. if he wants to find you, he will
/ just because you like to lead doesn't mean he wants to dance. some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.
/ "hey, let's meet at so-and-so's party/any bar/friend's house" is not a date. even if you live in new york.
/ men don't forget how much they like you. so put down the phone.
/ you are good enough to be asked out.

he's just not that into you if he's not calling you
men know how to use the phone
/ if he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind.
/ if he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. be aware of this and realize that he's okay with disappointing you.
/ don't be with someone who doesn't do what they say they're going to do.
/ if he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
/ "busy" is another word for "asshole." "asshole" is another word for the guy you're dating.
/ you deserve a freaking phone call.

he's just not that into you if he's not dating you
"hanging out" is not dating
/ guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen or believe them. "i don't want to be in a serious relationship" truly means "i don't want to be in a serious relationship with you" or "i'm not sure that you're the one." (sorry)
/ better than nothing is not good enough for you!
/ if you don't know where the relationship is going, it's okay to pull over and ask.
/ murky? not good.
/ there's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. quit goofing around and go find him!

he's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else
there's never going to be a good excuse for cheating
/ there is no excuse for cheating let me say it again. there is no excuse for cheating. now you say it. there is no excuse for cheating.
/ your only responsibility;ity in someone else's lapse in judgment is to yourself.
/ cheating is cheating. it doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened.
/ cheating gets easier every time it's done. it's only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone's trust.
/ cheaters never prosper.
/ a cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn't get to be with you.

he's just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he's drunk
if he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgment isn't impaired
/ it doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. an "i love you" (or any semblance thereof) while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won't hold up in court or in life.
/ drinking and drug use are not a path to one's innermost feelings. otherwise people wouldn't smash empty beer cans against their skulls or stick their fingers in fire to see if they can feel anything.
/ if he only wants to see you, talk to you, etc., when he's inebriated, it ain't love---it's sport.
/ bad boys are actually bad.
/you deserve to be with someone who doesn't have to get loaded to be around you.

he's just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you
love cures commitment-phobia
/ "doesn't want to get married" and "doesn't want to get married to me" are very different things. be sure about which category he falls under.
/ if you have different views about marriage, what else are you not on the same page about? time to take inventory.
/ if you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting?
/ there's a guy out there who wants to marry you.

he's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you
"i don't want to go out with you" means just that
/ you can't talk your way out of a breakup. it is not up for discussion. a breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one.
/ he doesn't need to be reminded that you're great.
/ there's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

he's just not that into you if he's disappeared on you
sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself.
/ he might be lying in the hospital with amnesia, but more likely he's just not that into you.
/ no answer is your answer.
/ don't give him the chance to reject you again.
/ let his mother yell at him. you're too busy.
/ he wasn't good enough for you.

he's just not that into you if he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak
if you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy
/ life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
/ you deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.
/ you already have one asshole. you don't need another.
make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve.
/ have faith. what other choice is there?

Forget Him

Forget his name, forget his face.
Forget his kiss, his warm embrace.
Forget his love that once was true
Remember now, there's someone new

Forget the love you two once shared.
Forget the fact that he once cared.
Forget the times you spent together.
Remember now he's gone forever.

Forget how you cried all night long.
Forget it when they play your song.
Forget how close you two once were.
Remember now that he chose her.

Forget the times he used to phone.
Forget the times you were alone.
Forget he made your dreams come true.
Remember now there’s someone new.

Forget his gentle teasing ways.
Forget how you saw him everyday.
Forget the things you planned to do.
Remember now, she loves him too.

Forget the thrills when he came by.
Forget the times he made you cry.
Forget the way he spoke your name.
Remember now things aren't the same.

Forget the way he held your hand.
Forget the sweet things if you can.
Forget the times that went so fast.
Forget them all, they are in the past.

Forget he said, “I’ll leave you never."
Remember now, he's gone forever.

My Brain Is In Haywire Again

I want nothing more than to be through with you
But how can I be through when there is
nothing to throw away?
Nothing but a friendship that will never blossom
A friendship that I ponder over night and day

I cannot hear you

Thoughts of you run through my head as the sun rises
A phantom in my mind never gone
A brief respite during the moon's journey in the sky
And once again you haunt me with the dawn

I cannot hear you

You pluck the strings of your guitar with familiarity and love
Would that you would pluck the strings of my heart
Instead, your presence torments me for you are not mine
Never will we be together, but neither far apart

I cannot hear you

You will never let me go
You will always unconsciously hold on tight
I will never be free, nor would I want to be
But never will I hear the words to make my soul take flight

I cannot hear you

I have the courage to tell you, but you will never see
You will never tell me what I want to hear
Instead you'll give your soul to another
And my lonely heart will cease to beat and disappear

You cannot see my broken heart,shattered on the floor
I will never hear your heart…

……You will always be blind to me.

Givin` Up On You

Silence and quiet
Again in my life
Far from these moments, I wish I was

Passion and truth
We were about
Before these shadows stole the beat of our hearts

After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight

Undo this leash
When you say I tied
When only our fears are to blame this time
And what am I to you
Just spit it out
I'm not afraid of the words that you hide

After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride

I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight

Where do we go
When did it all crash
When did it start to fall apart

Silence and quiet
Passion, the truth
Shadows, only shadows

After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up

After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Givin' up, givin' up this fight
Givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up this fight
I'm givin' up, givin' up tonight
Givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight

For The Brokenhearted

Love hurts. It's a fact that has been established millions of times since people took over this planet. The havoc love can wreak on one's life is a universal truth. Which makes me wonder why no one ever taught us how to deal with it. In school, we were taught our 123s and ABCs. We were equipped with knowledge on sciences and sports. We were instructed on how to cut frogs open, how electricity works, we were even drilled on what to do during an earthquake. But why were we never given a step-by-step recovery guide in case someone trampled on our hearts?

Or were our teachers just as clueless? Were they hurting too? Most people - like us - were left with no choice but to let love be the teacher. And love has a lot of lessons to teach.

You haven't known love if you haven't experienced staring at a phone that just refuses to ring, sobbing loudly into a pillow, wondering why sad songs suddenly become gospel.

True, it's not fun. There is no joy in waking up with swollen eyes, in figuring out what went wrong, in guessing if he still thinks about you, in weighing if there was any truth to anything he ever said, in hoping that there is still a chance.

But find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. There are broken hearts all over the world.

Somewhere in South Africa, a girl is looking through old photos, wondering if she should burn them.

Somewhere in New York, a girl just sent an angry e-mail to an ex and immediately regretted it after.

Somewhere in New Zealand, a boy is getting drunk because the girl he loves is getting married tomorrow.

Somewhere in Spain, a woman just broke down after finding out that her husband is cheating.

You are not alone. Yours is not the first heart to be broken nor will it be the last. But know that the human heart is strong enough to withstand pain and powerful enough to move on and start again.

You will heal, like all the others did, like everyone else will.

Things will get better, although it's hard to imagine now. One day, when you wake up and realize that not all men are evil, you might even decide that you are ready to love again.

In the meantime, I will be here to listen to you denounce love even if we know you don't really mean it. I will be here for late-night pigout sessions. I will be the audience to your drama queen. I will participate in memento-burning ceremonies. I will strap my seatbelt on and go where your mood swings take me. And I will try to stop you from drunk-dialling - and intoxicated texting and e-mailing.

Because if there's one thing a broken heart needs - it's the presence of a friend.

I should know - you showed me that.

Please remember - only your heart is broken..

But you will always be whole to me.

Reasons why I'm not in a relationship right now

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings

A free bird leaps on the back of the wind
and floats downstream till the current ends
and dips his wing in the orange suns rays and dares to claim the sky.

But a bird that stalks down his narrow cage
can seldom see through his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied so he opens his throat to sing.

The caged bird sings with a fearful trill
of things unknown but longed for still
and his tune is heard on the distant hill
for the caged bird sings of freedom.

The free bird thinks of another breeze
and the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn and he names the sky his own.

But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied so he opens his throat to sing.

The caged bird sings with a fearful trill
of things unknown but longed for still
and his tune is heard on the distant hill
for the caged bird sings of freedom.

I want to be a like a free bird.
Hinihiritan ako ng friend ko na tibo kasi hindi pa ako nagkakaboyfriend at ayoko pa magkaboyfriend. Hindi naman ako na-ooffend kung tinatanong ako ng ganun dahil I know myself naman. Meron ba na tibo na mahilig sa PINK? hehe.. :D

Anyway, on my way home.. sa tagal nang aking biyahe naisip ko ang mga rason kung
bakit ayaw ko pa talaga pumasok sa isang relasyon.

Naikumpara ko tuloy sa sitwasyon ng isang ibon na nakakulong. Ako, si Cheryl na optimistic lagi ay nagiging pessimist pagdating sa isang relasyon. Hahaha! :D

Being in a romantic relationship with someone is like a cage... with all the retrictions, commitment, etc. Pero di mo rin maaalis ang mga good things na naidudulot nito.
Di ba kapag ang isang ibon, kapag kinulong mo at nasanay sa kulungan tapos bigla mo pinakawalan o iniwan na mag-isa maari itong mamatay? Pwede siguro magsurvive din ang ibon depende sa pagiging adaptive ng ibon. Hay, kawawang ibon. After matuwa at maaliw ang tao sa iyo kaya ka niya ginawang alaga, pagkatapos iiwan na lang ang ibon kung bigla nagsawa ang tao.
Heartbreak. I never want to experience this. I fear the feeling of being so vunerable.
Pride. When there is pride in your heart, there is no room for love.
Love. I'm not yet ready for this. But I believe when the right time comes, I will be able to face my fears in having a relationship even the fear of getting my first heartache just to spend one day with a guy I love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Random Thoughts

* i watched legally blonde for the nth time last night. it's so funny. anyway, elle woods mentioned a lot of things regarding one's hair. i want to change the look of my hair. i just don't know what exactly to do with it. i can have it cut or have it permed. let's see…

* it's annoying that people always demands an explanation, even at situations where it isn't necessary. i hate explaining why i do some things, especially if they're unconventional things.

* it feels so weird whenever i go out with some guy friends [i don't go out on dates, esp. after reading "i kissed dating goodbye." i just hang out with friends once in a while]. i guess, i've been so used to going out with only one guy. but i'm having fun now, anyway.

* there are opportunities to go out on a date, i just don't take them. i'm not comfortable with it. i meet some guys because of work, but no one has really caught my attention. they're awesome guys, but they're not "somebody" nor "someone." [the hell with me, i can't think of creative codenames].

* loraine wants to play matchmaker and wants to pair me up with a writer she met in a media trip to lb. oh well, let's see if he's interesting. she said, he looks like dennis trillo. hmm…

* there are things about me that i want to tell "someone." but i'm a bit scared of what his reaction might be. it has nothing to do with him, but i think telling him this will make me feel at peace and will somehow shed light on why i'm acting like this now.

* i don't want to be pretentious when i deal with "someone." i don't care if he thinks i'm weird, malabo, maldita and mataray. i tell him what's on my mind [most of it]. i tell him what i feel [well, at least about my faith, depression, confusion and feelings for my ex. i'm quiet about my feelings for him]. whenever i'm with him and whenever i talk to him, i can be myself. there are no masks, no covers, no fronting images -just my flawed imperfect self.

* i'm reading the book, "let me be a woman." it has become one of my favorite books even if i hadn't finished it yet. it talks about being a woman and being a woman for God. cool.

* i need a prayer journal. there are a lot of things and a lot of people t'm praying for.

* i don't understand why books that doubles as a journal are too expensive. there's less text and less ink is needed to print, but they're still too expensive!

* quoting ricky: is it possible for things to become a lot worse when they're already bad enough.

* musing on what ricky said: yup, things can still be a lot worse. when it rains, it really pours…

* a friend and i were talking one time. we were talking about the issue that when you have become a Christian, that's actually when the temptation is greater and the tests are harder. when you've become a Christian that doesn't mean you've become a saint or an angel. and it doesn't mean you won't have problems anymore. things change though because you learn to trust everything to God.

* God gives the best to those who leave Him the choice.

* i like reading joanna's blog. well, maybe because i see similarities between her situation and mine. anyway, she had a recent entry where she said she thought that maybe she's a jerk magnet. well, she's not alone…

* well, "someone" isn't a jerk [but we're not romantically involved anyway]. he's actually a nice guy, that's the reason why i don't want to do anything stupid and make things unpleasant between us.

* i have a friend who had a crush on "someone" when we were all still in high school. she knows about my current feelings about "someone," she said it's fine with her [i hope it really is]. but i assured her that nothing romantic is going on between us. "someone" is very loyal to "some girl."

* i miss "somebody" [the hell ma-anne, the hell]

* i received a free ringtone today from gentext and it's "sa kanya" of mymp. i hate that song. i hate it so much.. anyway, i don't want its lyrics to be applicable to me. hello! i want to be happy with someone else [not necessarily "someone" hahaha].

* i told a friend last night that i believe men are naturally polygamous and women just have to bear with it [words from a martyr, i guess]. i don't know what he thought of what i said.

* sometimes i can be such a silly girl.

* what friends say regarding me ending up back to my ex:
"huwag na ma-anne, masasaktan ka lang lalo." -gnd friends
"it wouldn't work." -loraine
"light and darkness cannot co-exist. saved ka na. hindi mo na dapat icompromise iyon." -Christian friend.

* i don't know if i should be flattered, but i'm actually annoyed that there are guys who use lousy pick-up lines to get my attention when I walk alone inside a mall. and there are guys who take my picture without permission. [what the hell will they do with my photos?!?]

* a friend asked me when was the last time i cried. hmmm… the other sunday? cool, i haven't cried for a week.

* ignorance is bliss… what you don't know, won't hurt you.

* sarah is abraham's wife. God promised abraham that he'll be the father of all nations through his wife sarah. but they became old and still they had no child. so sarah gave her servant hagar to abraham so that hagar will bear children for her. but God fulfilled His promise to sarah and abraham, even if it took a long time. they had a son - isaac. now conflict arose with sarah and hagar because of their children. hagar was sent away. and up to this day this conflict between these two women is still manifested between israelites and other tribes in their area. moral of the story: God has His own timetable. we might not understand it, but He'll fulfill His promise in the best time. and if we do something that isn't according to His plan, things wouldn't turn out well.

Ever After Ends

No one wants to have a sad ending but there’s no such thing a happily ever after.
I was running away without think where to go and until when should I run I just want to get away from here, from everybody and most of all from you. I keep stumbling on strangers who offered their hands but just like anybody they wanted something in return something I can’t give them.
If I tried to indulge myself on every opportunity I wonder what could have been left of me now. Why can’t they need me because they wanted to give me something instead they needed me because they wanted something from me. Is it how the world works now?
It’s happening once again. History is just repeating on to me. Am I to be blame? Yes I know I should be the one to be blame. I was careless and I never really learned. I keep on rushing on love and look where it took me. I believe in your words but tears flowed in my eyes. But in the end I should have known; you where just a boy but I expected a man out of you.
You have said your goodbyes I didn’t mind for it is what I’m dying to hear just let me have my peace once again. Yes you have hurt me I have cried to it but please I’m not begging you anything because when it ends it’s really over. I don’t usually look back to it. I don’t mind my loneliness again I’m used to live my life, I breathe and I live. I could say that I had enough for myself to live and yet why is it that I’m still incomplete?
Hope someday you’ll remember me this way: ea is sweet, she’s caring, thoughtful, she’s special, she’s my friend and I’m glad for once she’s been mine.


screaming thoughts
On twist of faith I was brought to this stranger’s arms without hesitation on the consequences of such actions. Now in my confusion I’m asking myself: was my quest been concluded then or this is just the succession of one’s endeavor for another pursuit.
Sweet resentments still lingered in my heart that I find things hard to let go. But being cuddled warmly and pampered with such touch how can I be oblivious with it. Every embrace promises love and every kiss burns with such ardor unraveling within me making me forget that once I lay freezing in the sands on one cold night.
I feel like indulging if this is what being with him awaits me I want to kiss yesterday goodbye. Finally I was able to stop the madness that slowly wrecking me. If only he’ll give me enough time to rearrange everything so that I can wholly bestow thy heart that longed for and to love.
Is this for real maybe where just moving too fast….
It’s not easy to be me; it’s not easy to disregard a year of living a half-life. Hoping, chasing and dreaming that one-day you will be loved too. Waiting in vain. Giving and losing yourself at once. I’m aware he found it hard to know me as well.
Sometimes I’m blunt I hate the feeling of being helpless and vulnerable to someone. Cause when your weak people tend to take advantage of you. And when I’m on the verge of anger I breakdown and cry. Tears the remedy for pain.
But twice I’ve been save by the coldness of the night from terrible pain. I can’t bear the hurt but because of too much coldness I felt numb I wasn’t able to shed my tears.
Why such things had to happen, does everybody doesn’t want me to be happy? It must be me, I shall take the blame, the fault is my own. Everything is going in circles it’s happening again.
What a perfect setting: one rainy night I lay all my cards; I wasn’t hoping for anything just the end of this misery. Coldness surrounding me willing and ready to comfort me. Shall I tell you now? Or I’ll just continue torturing myself thinking of what the hell is going on with you?
Is this your definition of love? Then you haven’t loved at all. I tried on any level of comprehension a person can do, to understand you but how long does it going to be like this? If you no longer needed me in your life then please let me fly someone else might want to take care of me.
After all I alone made all the decisions for my actions and its evident that I shall be blame on the consequence of these. Sometimes you have to see yourself on a different angle to know your mistakes..

100% true.

1. There are at least two people in
this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world
love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever
hate you is because they want to be
just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring
happiness to anyone, even if they
don't like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about
you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique.
8. Someone that you don't even know
exists loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake
ever, something good comes from it.
10. When you think the world has
turned its back on you take another
look.
11. Always remember the compliments
you received. Forget about the rude
remarks.

So..........If you are a loving
friend, send this to everyone,
including the one that sent it to you.
If you get it back, then they really
do love you.
And always remember....when life hands
you Lemons, ask for tequila and salt
and call me over!

Good friends are like stars........You
don't always see them,
But you know they are always there.

"Whenever God Closes One Door He
Always Opens Another, Even Though
Sometimes It's Hell in the Hallway"

I would rather have one rose and a
kind word from a friend while I'm here
than a whole truck load when I'm gone.

RETURN TO SENDER
Forward to all your friends, including
me. And don't tell me you're too busy
for this. Don't you know the
phrase "stop and smell the flowers"?
See how many "bouquets" you end up
with.

Take just a minute to take this test & see what happens!

1. Which is your favorite color: RED, BLACK, BLUE, GREEM, or YELLOW?
2. Your first initial?
3. Your month of birth?
4. Which color do you like more , BLACK or WHITE?
5. Name of a person of the same sex as yours.
6. Your favorite number?
7. Do you like MANILA or CEBU more?
8. Do you like a LAKE or the OCEAN more?
9. Write down a wish (a realistic one)


When you're done, scroll down. Don't cheat


ANSWERS:

1. If you choose:
RED - You are alert and your life is full of love.
BLACK - you are conservative an d aggressive.
GREEN - Your soul is relaxed and you are laid back
BLUE - You are spontaneous and love kisses and affection from the
ones you love.
YELLOW - You are a very happy person and give good advice to those
who are down.

2. If your initial is:
A-K - You have a lot of love and friendships in your life.
L-R - You try to enjoy your life to the maximum and your love life
is soon to blossom.
S-Z - You like to help others and you r future love life looks very good.

3. If you were born in:
JAN - MAR: The year will go very well for you and you will discover
that you fall in love with someone totally unexpected.
APR - JUN: You will have a strong love relationship that will last forever.
JUL - SEP: You will have a great year and will experience a major life-changing experience for the good.
OCT - DEC: Your love life will be great, you will find your soul mate.

4. If you chose...
BLACK: Your life will take on a different direction, it will be the
best thing for you, and you will be glad for the change.
WHITE: You have a friend who Completely confides in you and would do anything for you, but you may not realize it.

5. This person should be your best friend.

6. This is how many close friends you will have in your lifetime.

7. If you chose:
MANILA: You like adventure.
CEBU: You are a laid back person.

8 . If you chose:
LAKE: You are loyal to your friends and your lover and are very reserved.
OCEAN: You are spontaneous and like to please people.

Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you..

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.

6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with y our smile.

7. To the world you may be one person, out to one person you may be the world.

8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.

13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

True friends: How many people actually have 8 true friends?

Hardly anyone I know ! But some of us have all right friends and good friends!!!

You have been Tagged by the Green Dog!

I'm sorry, i left a hole

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. WHEN YOU SAY THINGS IN ANGER, THEY LEAVE A SCAR JUST LIKE THIS ONE. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, THE WOUND IS STILL THERE. " A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us."

Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.

YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!

Now send this to every friend you have!!And to your family.


PLEASE FORGIVE ME IF I HAVE EVER LEFT A HOLE...

What a life?

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate,neighbor, coworker, longlost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger) but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience help to create who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

Make every day count!!! Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before,and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

*MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!* If you LOVE someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store!!!

Friendship and Love

Get the best feeling in the world when you say "Hi" or smile at me, because I know that even for a second that I've crossed your mind.


The shortest word for me is I
The sweetest


word for me is LOVE
The only one for me is YOU


Love is like sunshine. It brings a golden glow to its beholder's face. And a warm feeling all over their body. It awakens souls and opens eyes. And when its over, it leaves billions of small memories called stars. To remind the world, that it still exists.


When you love someone, it's something. When someone loves you, it's another thing. When you love the person who loves you back, it's everything


If you're mad with someone , and nobody's there to fix the
situation... You fix it .
Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend . And if u
don't, tomorrow can be too late


If you're in love with somebody , but that person doesn't know... tell her/him.
Maybe today, that person is also in love with you,,,,
And if you don't say it, tomorrow can be too late .


If you still love a person that you think has forgotten you...
tell her/him.
Maybe that person have always loved you. And if you don't tell
her/him today , tomorrow can be too late


If you need a hug of a friend... ask her/him for it.
Maybe they need it more than you do. And if you don't ask for
it today, tomorrow can be too late.


If you really have friends who you appreciate... tell them.
Maybe they appreciate you as well. That if you don't and they
leave or go far away today , tomorrow can be too late.


"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him."


"Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands, but like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides, and following them, you reach your destiny."


To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to."


Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it


Good friends are like stars


Good FRIENDS are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget..


Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."


Can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.


Don't take life too serious. You'll never escape it alive anyway


If I should stay I will only be in your way so i'm go but i know I think of you every step throughway
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where did it all go wrong?

I was drawn into a heated discussion with Dot this week. We discussed the never ending issue of heartbreak. We talked about this before, but it decided to resurface again. How does heartbreak differ between different relationship situations? The situations we saw were, 1) Jumping into a relationship without knowing a person first and 2) falling in love or jumping into a relationship with a close friend. I wanted to know how did getting over these relationship breakups differ?
I’ve had all sorts of relationships, some weird and some which felt like I had found the one, and I’ve also fallen in love. When I broke up from a relationship with a guy or girl who I didn’t really know completely about the period of heartbreak was only short. It took only about a week to 2-3 months to get over. When I was in a serious relationship with a person who was once a close friend and we broke up, it took me a year to get over it and to be able to talk to that person again. Still now I hold a tiny grudge against that relationship. Then I fell in love with someone I couldn’t have. Someone who I knew and just admired.
In most short-term relationship we get over them pretty well. The hardest relationship breakups to get over though are the ones where we’ve poured our whole heart and soul into it. Not only were you just holding each other in a relationship, but you’re also each others bestfriend. When things go wrong though you feel betrayed. Friendship is hard to hold onto after a breakup because you just focus too much on the hurt. Unless you had a ‘real’ mutual breakup then it’d be easier to handle. The heart works in mysterious ways.
Falling in love and getting over that person after being rejected though is another story. You try to do whatever’s best for the situation. Sometimes you see things which cause you to be confused. You prioritise what is important, having a relationship with this person? or maintaining a healthy friendship? Then you think everything is right now, until change suddenly happens after commiting yourself to maintaining that friendship. I have felt betrayal, I have felt left out. Sometimes the obsessiong can turn into hate. So I try to express myself in ways which don’t harm me. As an artsy person I express my feelings through my music or scribbles. I also try not to put myself in situations where i’m aggravated by thoughts.
There are no real answers to heartbreak. All I did was a slight comparison in my own opinion. People see things and experience things differently. I guess it just takes a few burns before we find the right partner or the right friend.
God bless & Peace out

pinkie promise…

I haven’t touched this Wordpress in ages. It’s time I updated with a brief look on my thoughts about ‘Promises.’
Making promises.We’ll always say that we’d keep them but somehow our tongue always slips or we just simply forget we made them. To be honest, i for one do not like to keep promises. I’m a very forgetful person and so therefore when a person asks me to do something for them I only say, “I’ll try, but I can’t promise.” Making promises sometimes puts us into a lot of trouble. Sometimes we get hurt when a promise isn’t kept.
She what?! He what?! Forgot their promise with you, broke it? It hurts. Yes it hurts. I see making promises a way of putting candy floss, cushions, clouds and other sweet things ontop a mountain of selfishness. To me a promise is like the sugar ontop. It’s a sign of ownage. You make someone promise, that is a sign of power. I don’t want promises, i want to be certain that what I ask for is done now. But if you see a task that is hard to do yet you force a person to promise on it, please don’t complain you’re hurt. If they promised to buy you something understand their circumstances, maybe they’re just making you wait so that yo appreciate things more. If it is something serious that tears you apart, pulls your heart out and throws it against the wall, then obviously who’s fault is it? You own for trusting this person. There you learn your mistakes.
“Oh…oops sorry I forgot about that.” The line that we wish will never leave our lips. I put my hands up to forgetting things i’ve promised to people. They get angry with you and if it’s something really important, like a close friend’s engagement party, then they don’t talk to you for a long time (lucky for me that engagement broke up, i saw the end of it coming). The only way to squeeze our way out of these problems. Think before you speak. We make promises to the people we love, but sometimes (because we’re all human!) we forget. If you’re sure you’re going to keep the promise freaking stick post-its everywhere to remind yourself (like me). If it’s a promise meant to be kept secret well my strategy? “Oh it’ll stay a secret if you want to tell me because I forget.” Most secrets i’ve sworn not to telling are all forgotten and are only triggered by things that remind me about it. Sometimes i’d forget it for about a year, then something will spark me to remember it. But still avoid making hard-to-do promises. If you’re really sure about it then make that promise, if not, just take my line, “I’ll will or will not, I can’t make it a promise.” It should be understandable, unless the person is everly selfish and wants you to be owned by them. That is called PAWNAGE! Don’t become his/her bitch! Think before you speak, that is something extremely valuable to me.
Promises, promises, promises. If you can’t keep them then don’t make them. If they can’t keep them, then don’t tell them. Learn to contemplate promises. Promises can draw people together, but remember, the hurt that sometimes comes from broken promises can tear people apart. You just have to understand that not all promises can be kept, just like how people like to say, “rules were made to be broken.” *sigh* how I love cliches.

why only now?…

We can have very strong feelings for people, but it doesn't mean we should act on it. There will always be struggles between the heart and mind. For myself, i'm a person who tends to follow her heart, a lot. Then there are times when I need to think logically. Yet again i'm notorious for not thinking before I speak or act.

Feelings are hard to get rid off, but be reminded, feelings don't always last. What the heart wants isn't always what the mind wants. Still we keep thinking about these feelings, breaking them down and looking at them over again. sometimes it hurts other times we look at them blankly. Feelings, emotions, can really screw around with your perception though. It can cause you to lose focus on goals in your life.

People sacrifice a lot of things to follow their heart. The outcome can either be good or bad. I guess this is why we put a lot of thoughts in our feelings. It's hard to tell the difference between love and lust. Like in my previous post about finding "the one." How do you know? How can you tell? What is it that you're meant to feel when you find them? There's just too many questions to ask. How can you trust what you're feeling right now? Have you noticed how we don't really choose carefully who we fall in love with, yet we take our time to carefully choose our enemies? Love, is unpredictable.

Currently i'm raged by a million thoughts which I thought I had forgotten. Really I don't want them in my mind, but they are there. I can keep denying it to myself, I can distract myself, but they will always float back. My body isn't handling it well. There's so many thoughts which I wish I could just tell to go away. My mind is in a jumble, my heart is yelling out insults and pulling rude gestures at it. My "feelings" are extremely strong. I've tried everything possible to suppress them, but they've always been there. Really I just wish I could die, but it's pretty much craziness. The only question I can ask myself is, "Why?"

As strong as feelings can be we have to have the right reasons to make the right decisions. The mind and heart are like split entities. They like to argue with each other and sometimes they like to agree with one another. So it's confusing when you want to act on your heart's desires, but your brain is screaming "NO" at you.

God Bless & Peace Out!

heal over…

It’s a strange feeling when you smile even though life is really tough. It’s also a greater feeling when you know your heart has been healed. The only reason why we can’t get over heartbreak and pain is because we don’t allow ourselves to. It’ll heal naturally, but sometimes we unconsciously tear it open again. The truth though is, the remedy to heartbreak is within yourself to find it and allow it to heal.

The things we do to “get over it” are only short term because eventually the thoughts cross back into your mind. For now I can only scratch the surface about being healed. I’ve found something great, and to be honest i’ve never felt as much joy in my heart. It feels great to look at a person and just smile. It’s awesome to wake up knowing that a heartbreak doesn’t mean the end of life. Sometimes we get so dilusional about finding the one in our lives we hold so fast to it. Our minds go crazy and we no longer think properly. Be a little logical, if you were to find “the one” would they cause you hurt in the first place? Would they tear your heart out, throw it on the floor and compromise everything they’ve said and done? I think not, and maybe mutual decisions were for the greater good. To some of us, maybe we really need to re-examine ourselves. How do you know what true love isif you haven’t being burned more than once? Some people find it without having to go through past failures. Eventually though, things will fall into place and something deep inside you will tell you that you’ve made the right choice.

My joy is unexplainable. For a long time I was heavy-hearted but I can now feel a heavy burden lifted off my chest. Where did I find my remedy? Well that’s for you to ask, and for you to find. I can only speak how I feel and if you wish to know I will point you in that direction. If you don’t like that decision it is your loss. I’m not only smiling because of a broken heart, but i’m also smiling because I have found my strength and inspiration again. There are decisions in life A) and B). We can’t choose both nor can we leave it for too long to answer. Sometimes decisions are made too late and the consequences can never be changed back.

God bless & peace out...

I’ve recently realised that some people are actually coming across this journal by searching my actual name. It’s a little freaky because nobody leaves comments either. Feedback to any of my posts though is encouraged.

how far apart…

How long does it take you to realise that a person means everything to you? Sometimes we take it for granted because the person is always there. It isn’t until that they are gone we realise how much they mean to our heart. I say this because, it doesn’t just happen between lovers, but in all degrees of relationships.

The same old jokes will make you laugh and reminicing about the past will make you cry. When you find a special person in your life you treasure them just like you treasured your very first toy. Friendship isn’t always easy to hold fast to because people are forever changing. Also sometimes we carelessly choose our friends. Have you noticed how we take more time to choose our enemies than we do to choose our friends? Sometimes we dwell upon the thought of our enemies that it turns into an obsession and then that obsession can also turn into love. Pretty crazy isn’t it? There are also different types of friends you can find. Those who are close, but not too close, those who only know you by what they see, and those who are literally like a sister/brother to you.

Why am I discussing this topic? My reason is that recently a lot of ‘old’ friends have started contacting me again. It’s strange, but sweet at the same time. A lot of them I stopped talking to after graduating from highschool and only saw them at random parties or around the city. All of them though have left a small impression in my life.

The friends I have now I care for very much. My bestfriend means a lot to me too, but during that process of friendship was a lot of confusion and pain going through my heart. I only have my faith to thank for seeing me through because I suddenly realised why she meant so much to me. You realise that someone means so much to you when your hearts are apart. You feel a sense of emptiness and longing to at least hear that person’s voice again. But time spent apart can also create a stronger bond between two people. How you may ask?

The abilities that we have are more than amazing. No we’re not X-men. We can do anything to keep in touch with the person we love. Sending letters, phone calls, e-mails, and diaries. Yet it’s amazing that sometimes the time apart brings two people closer together, it can even bring a group closer together. Real friendship though is when no matter how long the time apart is, it could even be years, you can still bump into each other and love each other as if the time apart never even existed. One thing I learnt from a friend of mine is that, some of the friendships I have are more than just words and seeing each other. It’s about trust, knowing that the person will continue to love you no matter how far they are, knowing that you’ve made that much of a impression in their life. Only the heart knows who your real friends are, and it will tell you when the time comes.

will you remember me?…

It’s scary when you realise you’ve forgotten someone who is meant to be or was once important to you. The one thing I fear is to be forgotten by a person who says they love me. It is true that time and distance is what holds people together and apart. My state of mind isn’t stable at the moment. I may seem calmed and relaxed on the outside, but that is only a mask to cover the thoughts raging in my mind. I humor myself sometimes with my thoughts too, I ask myself why I think so much.

Let’s look at the truth though, we have being blessed with this gift of thought, reasoning, and contemplating. There’s just some of us who don’t embrace this gift or there’s some of us who take it too seriously. Thinking too much can destroy a person. Dwelling on things and not letting things take their path, questioning situations, contemplating truths, it can destroy a person’s soul.

How do you avoid this pathway of thoughts to destruction? Trying to ignore them, trying to find distractions are only short term solutions. Instead confront what causes these questions, stop asking yourself the questions and ask someone else. Obviously you don’t know the answers, but maybe someone else does. If it’s a different type of question, like, why do certain things happen, let it take its course. Be an observer, things happen because they were meant to. I don’t know why or how, but things happen. Thinking doesn’t do anything, doing does something. You can’t change situations by thinking about it, you change situations by doing something about it. Even though I said be and observer, if you know you can do something about it then stop hesitating and confront it or make that difference. But be sure that your motivation is of good value because sometimes your actions can hurt or discourage other people along the way.

To be forgotten, or to forget. Which is the worse feeling to feel? Who is the one who is most hurt? I don’t know the answer to my question, but for now I sit patiently and wait to see its outcome. If I do crack it will be my own fault for not acting on my thoughts. Either way i’m prepared to wait, and i’m prepared to be hurt. Life was never meant to be perfect. People are not perfect, but at least some of us try to be by being honest with ourselves and with one another. You’d think that being afraid of heights is scary, i’m afraid of distance.

god bless & peace out

The line between lovers and friends…

What makes friends friends and what makes lovers lovers? When does a friend suddenly turn into something more intimate and why? To be honest I have no bloody clue. The human mind is so complex we still can’t figure it out. At least we know why the sky is blue. Let me make this clear before you keep reading, when I say ‘lovers’ I am not referring to the short-term sex-without-feelings (I hate that term) friend, better known as the F.B., i refer to actual relationships which consist of understood feelings.

We each hold friendship as one of the most important things in our lives. The only thing we pray not to happen is to fall in love with our friends. Why? Maybe we’re afraid that if something were to happen the whole world would fall apart. Okay maybe that’s a bit too dramatic. Like I always say, I can’t give the right answers, nor can I give the wrong answers.

I have a friend. He used to be my boyfriend. We jumped into a relationship without knowing each other properly. Look at your friend, are they really showing you their true colours? When I started going out with him, his true colours shone. It hurt, but because I actually did love him (I was sure with myself that I did, but it was more like puppy love) I lived with it. I’m the commited kind of freak who accepts people the way they are. Then that all ended. Problem, we decided, well he decided, that I be his bestfriend. I don’t know what ran through his mind, but I didn’t like it. We just knew each other too much. It hurt to be honest with him because he only wanted to hear the things he wanted me to say. Even though he says i’m just a bestfriend, he doesn’t act that way around me. We’ve had a million fights “as friends,” but I felt trapped. Everything I said and did had to go by him first. The truth is though, I don’t like being “owned” and I don’t like people prying into every corner of my life. If you ask with good reason then yes maybe, but usually I take the initiative to open up. I speak in my own time. Holding my hand while he’s chasing another girl is inappropriate to me because i’m the most ‘penguinistic’ (monogomous) person on earth, in my own mind. I went through accusations of selfishness, vanity, rudeness, and most of all, bitchiness. It hurt, but I pretended that it was all a joke. Thank you for his honesty, but word of discouragement isn’t what’s meant for a close friendship. Yes, be brutally honest, but don’t accuse as if they’ve commited the worse crime on earth and can’t be granted forgiveness. I was put through guilt trip, after guilt trip. The funny thing is, he was the only one complaining. In the end he just wanted me to be something i’m not. Today i’m still his bestfriend. He’s my close friend, whom I don’t have to, or need to, tell everything. He doesn’t own me. *vent* He’s like a 5 year old!

I digress. A real friend, shows every good and bad side of them. A friend takes risks to be there for you. They promise to always be there for you, but also are honest that they will at least try, because in reality a person can’t always be there. They accept you for who you are, but give you advice and correct you. They are a word of encouragement. When they’re angry with you they don’t keep silent, they tell you how they really feel instead of wearing a fake smile. A friend will listen to you, but you must too in turn. Nothing in friendships, in any relationship should be one-way, like the saying goes, ‘It takes two to tango.’

When you fall in love with a friend, it’s usually because all you ever see is the “saint” side. Sometimes though it can be different. You just love them for their whole being. So you’re left confused wondering what’s the next step. My 101. 1) Be honest with yourself, 2) Be honest with them, 3)Get to know each other a little more, 4) Don’t rush. Yes, a lot of us when we jump into relationships, we’re swept off our feet into the tidal wave of love. Sometimes we move so fast things end quicker. Take it step by step, and eventually it may be something that lasts. Maybe you might grow old together. 5) Brush your teeth, okay I pulled that out from stupidity.

But who ever said that one of your closest friends should become your lover? Who ever said that you have to marry them because you both click well? Nobody. The only thing that will tell is time and also listening to not only your heart, but your mind. If two are in conflict, then kill one or the other. Okay I take that back. If you are torn between the two then the answer is, NO. When the heart chooses something, the mind must agree too. Otherwise when you jump into the relationship there will be doubt. Doubt should never be in any relationship. Do not doubt the friendship of your bestfriend, do not doubt the love of your boy/girlfriend. If you do, ask! Don’t be chicken and pretend everything is okay. It only makes the doubt worse. Everybody says this, ‘communication is the best key to a succesful relationship,’ in actual fact, any relationship, be it friendship, family, professional, etc. When you love someone you love them whole heartedly.Sometimes a great friendship is better than a serious relationship. Check yourself first before jumping to conclusions.

We each have our own views. This is mine, what is yours?

God Bless & Peace Out

Never Leave FRIEND for something

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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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FEW RELATIONS IN EARTH NEVER DIE..
Take first letter from each word of the above said statement &
then u will get that unique word…
FRIEND :=)
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Walk with me when ur hearts needs company,
take my hand when u feel all alone,
turn to me when u need some1 to lean on,
coz I’m a friend u can always depend on
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Fragnance can be defined without Rose.
But, friendship can’t be defined without YOU.
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Friend is one,
who (F)inds you in a (R)ush of people,
(I)nspires you to do something in life,
catch your (E)motions and (N)ever leaves you till (D)eath.
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Friendship is not a big fire which burns all day.
Its a small lamp, that burns till the last day of life.
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Friendship never speaks volumes,
it never demands proof,
it never has a happy ending too simply coz
it doesn’t end as long as friends r true, just like U!
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If ur friendship be money,
I’ll be richest man.
If ur friendship be pounds,
I’ll be heaviest man.
If ur friendship be luv,
I’ll be luckiest man.
But ur friendship is trust & I’m the happiest man
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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Leave SOMETHING for friend..
Never Leave FRIEND for something.. coz in life,
SOMETHINGS will leave u but FRIENDS will always live with u..

Talking cat in sink

Thoughts On Life

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

A Simple Friend!

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.

A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
gave you rides in their new car,
convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded,
consoled you when you broke up with your significant other
and found you a date to the prom.
In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
helped you pick out a college,
assured you that you would get into that college,
helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
Helped you clean up from that party.
Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents.
Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything.
Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind.
And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years.
But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who
Gives you the better of the two choices.
Holds your hand when you're scared.
Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you.
Thinks of you at times when you are not there.
Reminds you of what you have forgotten.
Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer.
Stays with you so that you have confidence.
Goes out of their way to make time for you.
Helps you clear up your mistakes.
Helps you deal with pressure from others.
Smiles for you when they are sad.
Helps you become a better person.
However most importantly loves you!

Friendship

Which brings me to my topic for this week. I'd love some of your feedback on friendship.

My idea of friendship is that it reflects I Corinthians 13. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut. Doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others. Isn't always me first, doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, Always looks for the best, never looks back but keeps going to the end.

I'm not talking about acquaintance kind of friendship, but the intimate kind, the lifetime kind, the kind that you say to each other," we'll be friends for life" and then you mean it. No matter what comes to try and divide you-you recognize the one who sows discord and you say no way. There are those who will come and go in our lives, but there are those who will be there or should be there always. Jesus had the 3 that He spent the most time with, then the 12, then the 70, then the masses, but He didn't develop the same intimacy with the crowd as He did the 12. In the end they all wound up abandoning Him, or denying Him- yet He came back and restored them to their previous state of friendship. He gave Peter opportunity to become the mighty man of God- the Rock he was called to be. He gave Thomas the opportunity to become the man of faith he was supposed to be, he gave them all the benefit of His forgiveness, His love and His friendship.

What do we give one another? Are you a lifelong friend? Are you willing to lay down your pride and restore friendship? Or do you let them go? Knowing that God even called you to them? And at what price are we sacrificing friendships? Do we continue on in the call of God and ministry to others when things go askew? Or do we withdraw and put up those awful walls? Do we become angry and bitter people or do we obey the Word of God and do all that is in our power to reconcile?

That line, love believes the best is so powerful! The Bible says, he who tells a matter first seems to be right. When someone comes to you with some stuff about a friend, we have a choice at that moment to listen or to be the friend we should be. The problem is, we don't think another brother would lie to us, so we listen and then those terrible seeds of discord are sown (which God hates by the way). I recognize when people have faults, but don't you be the one to tell me. SMILE I'll find out what I need to know and I will love them anyway and restore them when I need to. I trust the Lord that He knows what I need to know, I have His mind. And He has been faithful to us always, just ask one of our kids.

Ask God why that person is acting that way, what is wrong in their heart and then pray for them. If your motives are right, He will let you know that something has happened, or you will ask them and they will tell you, and you have saved a relationship that the enemy was trying to destroy. Friends know each other's stuff, love you in spite of it, can have a year or two apart and come back together and be good friends again, can forgive, can forget, can talk about anything and don't judge each other for wrong attitudes and ideas, in other words, we love because He first loved us.

IF there is anything that we can learn at this time it is that there is nothing that should be able to separate us from each other, because we are in Christ and who can separate us from His love? By our love they will know we are His disciples.

How to Make Friends

There's a certain beauty in being a lone wolf (people with no friends). You have more time to do things you want to do, like talk to yourself, play solitaire, write poetry, or try to carry that couch into your new apartment all by yourself. If that's not your bag, though, there are literally billions of potential friends in the world. What's more, many of these people want to make friends just as much as you do. So just follow these steps to meet new people and form strong, lasting friendships.

1. Get out and meet people! If you want to make friends, you first need to meet people. No matter where you live, this should be fairly easy. Just in case you're stumped, here are just a few suggestions.

* If you're in school or work and have a lot of co-workers and peers, you're surrounded by potential friends for a large portion of your day. A way to make a friend is to not be shy; go up to that person ask questions, like "what is your name?" "Are you on a team?" Act friendly and be honest and trustworthy.

* Join a club with people of common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them--in fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all--but if you have something in common with people, it can make it a lot easier to talk to them and plan activities initially. Whatever your age and whatever your interests, there is a club or organization for you.

* Join a team. Especially if you're in school, joining a sports team can be great way to make friends. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but this isn't true. As long as you enjoy the sport, try your best, and acknowledge that you're not a pro, your teammates will usually be more than happy to accept you for who you are.

* Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and the fact that you're devoting your time to something free of charge shows that you're compassionate and unselfish, two traits of good friends.

* Get online. In general, the internet isn't a great place to make real friends, the kind who will be there for you when you really need them. Never use the internet to meet some one you now will consider your "best friend". You don't know this person and making them your best friend will not do anything good in your life. If you live in a really isolated place, the internet can also help you find other people around the world that share your interests.

2. Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, and you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to talk to people, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you on the lunch line. Don't be picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, in that you may never talk to that person again or you'll just remain acquaintances, but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.

* Introduce yourself early in the conversation. Your name doesn't necessarily need to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if you're looking to make friends, knowing each other's names is a good start. Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name, and use it later in the conversation.

* Make small talk. Friends can talk about just about anything, but you don't want to get too personal when you first meet someone. Just make good, inoffensive small talk at first.

* Open up the opportunity for another meeting. When you meet someone whom you think might make a good friend, try to exchange contact information. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!

* If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others, in a club, for example, to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.

* If you're new in town or at school and are just looking to meet people, don't be afraid to mention this. People are often excited about meeting new people, showing them around, and introducing them to their friends.

3. Be fun to be around. You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you. From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.

4. Be a good listener. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you're interested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. People love to talk about themselves, and the easiest way to be likable is to listen. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends.

5. Be reliable. The steps above are great for making acquaintances, but how do acquaintances become lifelong friends? One important trait of a good friend is reliability. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.

6. Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors.

7. Be there. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.

8. Be true to yourself. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never feel pressured to do something you think is wrong. Stay true to your convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win a lot of other friends, and if you just be yourself you'll make friends who like you for who you are.

• Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if they've done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity. If you don't get along with someone, try avoidance instead of creating a rivalry.
• Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.

• Don't be clingy or annoying. Over-obsessing over someone makes you seem weird and strange, not friendly.

• You never want to seem desperate. Don't chide acquaintances for failing to invite you to a party, for example; don't call someone over and over or stop by uninvited; and never overstay your welcome anywhere. In general, take friendship slowly, and don't try to become close to somebody right away. The move from acquaintance to friend can take a long time, and if you appear too clingy, potential friends may think you're too much work.

• Keep the lines of communication open. Lasting friendships don't just happen. They require work, especially if one friend moves away for an extended period or for good. Even if you don't get to see a friend, you should try to call or email him or her regularly just to check in and say "hi." With any luck, they'll do the same. It's easy to lose friends to distance, but it isn't necessary.

People Like to Put Us Down

And I’m not just talkin’ about my generation. Every generation that reads romances gets the same put down from someone: “When are you going to read a real book?” “Why do you read those sex stories?” “You should read something important.” “Why don’t you read about real life?”

Uh, excuse me? Real life? What could be more real than feelings that develop between two people that are so overwhelming they are willing to forsake their families and even lose their lives for love?

It’s worth bringing up Romeo and Juliet, because they were famous lovers whose desperate feelings we find it easy to dismiss today merely because they were young teenagers. Yet in their time, they were of marriageable age. Throughout history, families have married off their children as it suited the family, not the individual, no matter how much personal misery ensued. Romeo and Juliet epitomize personal rebellion against centuries of social tradition. No wonder they ended up dead.

It has only been in the last century or so in the western world that both men and women have had the luxury of arranging their own lives and choosing their own mates. The difficulty of choice in an open field should not be underestimated, since we do not have thousands of years of social history to guide our freedom. Maybe divorce holds out hope that mistakes can be left behind. But most of us don’t want to make mistakes in the first place.

Given this situation, you could say that romances are a tool to help people figure out how to recognize the right mate. Even though romances are about an area of human feeling that has always existed, that has frequently been sung about, and that has inspired countless poems, plays, paintings, and myths. Because classical artistry is based on life situations in which the commanding interference of others is a key element in the romantic relationship. We still suffer interference from interested family members, but modern romance is pretty much up to just the two people who fall in love.

Yes, it is natural to fall in love, but it is not logical. Loving feelings simply are not rational. And every person falls in love a different way. When those irrational feelings and high emotions strike, how do we decide what to do? How do we distinguish between infatuation and love? Between sincerity and flattery? Between protectiveness and power plays? We need a road map. And because every person is unique, we need many variations on this road map. Hence, all manner of romances. It’s so simple when you think about it logically: We need romances!

Of course a romance about a lonely billionaire and a spunky sculptor isn’t an exact blueprint for a happy future. If it were, we’d have fewer unhappy billionaires and starving sculptors. But learning how to recognize the person with whom you could happily spend all your life is important. Learning how to negotiate conflicts with that person in an era in which you could just walk out the door and find someone else is also important. Romances present many varieties of scenarios in which the heroines learn more about themselves and about the men for whom they care. What to fight over and what to let go. How to fight fair, for that matter. It’s marriage counseling in advance, if you will.

Do romances present plans for saving the world? Actually, yes, sometimes they do. Sometimes there’s an environmental or political issue at stake, and often there is a serious moral situation, too. Romance heroines and heroes frequently are shown asking themselves what is right and what is wrong. Many romances also deliver an inspiring message of hope in a troubled world. The characters love and survive despite hideous odds against them.

Romances are rooted in the personal, and because they are, they have tremendous emotional impact. Which means that as teaching mechanisms, they are unmatched. I guess the spoonful of sugar theory comes into play here, too. For many of us, it is easier to confront difficult life choices when they are embodied by someone else and prettied up a bit, too. Romances fulfill a very useful function of drawing us in while at the same time engaging us in a safe manner.

So, when people try to put you down for reading romances, don’t let them. You don’t have to reply with a snarl or a sneer at their ignorance. But you don’t have to feel defensive, either. Romances are big in more than one way.

Things Girls Should Know About Guys?

2. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.

3. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it's up put it down.
4. Don't cut your hair. Ever.

5. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!

6. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.

7. Sometimes, he's not thinking about you. Live with it.

8. Don't ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.

9. Get rid of your cat. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other cat.
10. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.

11. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.

12. Shopping is not a sport.

13. Anything you wear is fine. Really.

14. You have enough clothes.

15. You have too many shoes.
16. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don't expect us to like it.

17. Your brother is an idiot, you ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.

18. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.

19. No, he doesn't know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.

20. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.

21. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes -- What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?

22. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.

23. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.

24. Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.

25. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.

26. Check you oil.

27. Don't give us 50 rules when 25 will do.

28. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.

29. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together.

30. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.

31. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.

32. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.

33. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?

34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done -- not both.

35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

36. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.

37. Women wearing Wonder bras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.

38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.

39. Telling us that the models in the men's magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it's certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazine.

40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.

AND FINALLY, THE NUMBER ONE RULE:
1. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.

Why Beer is Better Than Women

1. You can enjoy beer all month long.

2. Beer stains wash out.

3. You don't have to wine and dine a beer.

4. Your beer will always wait patiently in the car while you play football.

5. When your beer goes flat, you toss it out.

6. Beer is never late.

7. Hangovers go away.

8. A beer doesn't get jealous when you grab another beer.

9. Beer labels come off without a fight.

10. When you go to a bar, you know you can always pick up a beer.

11. Beer never has a headache.

12. After you've had a beer the bottle is still worth a dime.

13. A beer won't get upset if you come home and have another beer on your breath.

14. If you pour a beer right, you'll always get good head.

15. You can have more than one beer a night and not feel guilty.

16. A beer always goes down easy.

17. You can share a beer with your friends.

18. You always know when you're the first one to pop a beer.

19. Beer is always wet.

20. Beer doesn't demand equality.

21. You can have a beer in public.

22. A beer doesn't care when you come.

23. A frigid beer is a good beer.

24. You don't have to wash a beer before it tastes good.

25. If you change beers you don't have to pay alimony.

Real Love

4 person in your life how many have u found?
1st-urself,
2nd-1 u love most,
3rd-1 who love u most,
4th-1 you spend the rest of your life with. ]

firstly u'll meet the 1 u love most, and learn how love feels.
Because u know how love feels, so u can find the person who loves u most.
When u've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, u'll then know what it is u need most. Then u will find the person who is most suitable for u, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly,in real life,these 3 people are usually not the same person.
The one u love most doesn't love you. The one,who love u most,is never the one u love most. And the one u spend your life with,is never the one u love most or the one who love u most.

He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Which person are u in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves u, he/she really loves u.
But when he/she doesn't love u anymore, he/she really doesn't love u anymore.
When he/she loves u, he/she can't pretend that he/she doesn't.
same goes, when he/she loves u no more, there's no way he/she can pretend he/she loves u. When a person doesn't love u and wants to leave u. u must ask yourself if u still love him/her, If u also don't love him/her anymore, do not keep him/her just to save your pride. If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness, and hope that he/she will be with the one he/she loves most, not stop him/her from it. If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one he/she loves, it shows u already don't love him/her, And if you don't love him/her, what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?

Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.

Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.

When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other,
they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.

A stupid mixed emotions.

Long Lost

In a dream
I can be anything
When I close my eyes
I can remember what I once had
But now you’re gone
I’m looking for you
Don’t let me fall into the darkness
The way you gave me life
I had once thought was meaningless
But you gave me hope once again
You said we would always keep each other alive
But you tried to take your life away
Leaving me alone once again
In the darkness
I lay here and cry
Hoping maybe these tears will bring you back
In my dreams we can talk forever
I just want to be with you
But when I wake up
You are gone
My first love
And my only
When they let you out
I will stand by your side
They say they love you, or they try to help
Just making it all worse
They just don’t get you
But in those dreams I can talk to you
We will laugh about those times
And even cry
I miss you more
Only a few weeks left
And maybe you will say anything that comes
They will say were too much to be
A pair that causes no good
I was once in darkness
You brought me light
The bulb has burst leaving a fallen night
A dreamless night
Bring me back my light
A tear runs down my cheek
Let me close my eyes
And fall away
So I can dream some more
For when I wake up
Its just may not be a dream anymore
Ill grave that hand
You will pull me up
From this darkness
And back into your light
Those eyes they glow an eerie mist
Because when I see you
I see the world and future
So before I die
Kiss me goodnight
Just kiss me goodnight


I Want To Be Happy

I want to be loved
I want to belong
Don’t want to cry alone
I want to laugh
Don’t want to cry
My days away
I want to be happy
I want to smile
I want my life
To be worth while …


Blinded

Standing in a meadow
Where no one can see her
Standing in a meadow
No one wants to be her
Standing in a meadow
Alone except for her
She is blinded
That’s what they say
She is blinded
But she know its ok
She is blinded
By love each and every day


Giving My Heart to You

I found you
At last
Through all of
My past
I’ve been searching
For someone like you
You’re not perfect
But that’s the way I want you
And your true
Oh but you were stolen
From me
I wish I’d have told you
I wish you could see
That my heart
I was giving you
To someone that’s not perfect
Because that’s just how I like you


Every Time

Every time I talk to you
I forget the words
That I was going to say
It is then I know I love him
All the words you say to me
I goof up and say a stupid thing
But when you say you care
It gives me such a rush


You Don’t Love Me

I realize
When you talk to me
You don’t love me
No you don’t love me
You never think of me
I’m left here alone
And alone I cry
I’m missing you
What should I do
I stand here and think of you
I even dream
Of you too
I see your face when I close my eyes
And when I talk to you
I realize
You don’t love me
And you never have


Them

People are always
Who they are not
They are never happy
With what they’ve got
They can never be real
Or let people see the way they feel
They always want what they get
If they don’t seem cool
They start to fret
Well I can see
I don’t want to be like that
I want to be more like me


Letter to Myself

Save yourself the heartache
Save yourself the pain
Save yourself the trouble
Don’t fall in love again
All you get is heartbreak
All you do is cry
All you get is heartache
And you just wish that you could die
Every time you see the guy
Your heart breaks again
Till you want to cry
But you still pretend to be nice
You feel like
You’re starting to fall
Like you’ve been slammed into a wall
Your breathing is slowing down
You lay there trying to scream
But you can’t make a sound
You lay there silently
Sobbing
And all of a sudden
Your head starts throbbing
You wonder why me
Oh what did I do
You didn’t fall for me
But I fell for you
You’re not so perfect
You’re weird like me
The way you act
In the arts
I’ll tell this to myself
I’ll never let you steal
My heart ever again
From now until forever
I’ll only call you friend
But if you promise not to brake my heart
I’ll trust you enough to borrow it


Lovers Lost

Tears stream down my face
My tongue is tied
I cannot speak
I wonder if I’ll live another day
Or for what this price I pay
My life is crumbling
Down on me
Things block my face
I cannot see
Stuff in my throat
Makes it so I cannot scream
I sit here wondering
If I will die
I sit here
And silently cry
I cannot breath I’m losing oxygen fast
One second, two seconds,
Three seconds pass
I sit here
Gasping for air
Breathing right now
Is my only care
When will someone
Find me
When will someone
Set me free
All this started
When he said no
When he said
I couldn’t do
People say it’s a Lovers Loss
But the loss isn’t mine
Because I will love to the end of tim...

Which Baby are you?

Jan. Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth. Stubborn. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance your personality


Feb. Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing personality. Attractive. Sexiest out of everyone. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest And loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.


March Attractive personality. Sexy. Affectionate Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others. If you repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your new love in 8 days.


April Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confidant. Sensitive. Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and traveling. Systematic. Hot but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that's caught your eye will introduce themselves and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days.


May Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Shy towards opposite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike being at home. Restless. Not having many children. Hardworking. High-spirited. If you repost this in the next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone you do not speak too much in the next 4 days.


June You've got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt and more than likely have an a very attractive partner. a wicked hottie. It is also more than likely that you have a massive record collection. You have a great choice in films, and may one day become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck, you've got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you will meet someone that may possibly become one of your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.


July Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover. Repost this in the next 5 mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days.


Aug. Outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on attention. No self-control. Kind hearted. Self-confident. Loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful. Easy to get along with and talk to. Has an "every thing's peachy" attitude. Likes talking and singing. Loves music. Daydreamer. Easily distracted. Hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. Loves to be loved. Hates studying. in need of "that someone". Longs for freedom. Rebellious when withheld or restricted. Lives by "no pain no gain" caring. Always a suspect. Playful. Mysterious. "charming" or "beautiful" to everyone. stubborn. curious. Independent. Strong willed. A fighter. Repost in 5 mins and you will meet the love of your life sometime next month.


Sept. Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional. Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand. If you do not repost this in the next 5 mins, someone very close to you will become mad at you in the next 8 days.


Oct. Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all. repost this in 5 mins or you will not meet the love of your life for 10 years.


Nov. Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards your inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people easily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, the greatest men are born in this month. If you ever begin a relationship with someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of a kind. Repost in 5 mins & you will excel in a major event coming up sometime this month.


Dec. This straight-up means you are the most good-looking person possible... Better than all of these other months! Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Has that someone always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer. Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character. One guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. Loves music. Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. [A hot new guy/girl will catch your eye & you will catch theirs too in the next 6 days, if you

Squirrels!

You can tell that Iran is feeling a little beleaguered these days when there are reports that Tehran may be under attack from rodents!
That is what the official Islamic Republic News Agency reported this week, that police had, ahem, "arrested" 14 squirrels on charges of espionage.
The rodents were found near the Iranian border, allegedly equipped with eavesdropping devices, according to IRNA.
When asked to confirm the story, Esmaeel Ahmadi Moghadam, the national police chief, said, "I have heard about it, but I do not have precise information." He declined to give any more details.
IRNA said that the squirrels were discovered by intelligence services – but were captured by police officers several weeks ago.
'Are you serious?'
The reaction to the report on Tehran’s streets was varied – from disbelief to assigning guilt for the alleged infraction.
"No, I had not heard about this, but it does not surprise me, foreign countries are always meddling in Iran," said Hassan Mohmmadi, a fast-food vendor.
Mohammadi asked me if I knew where the squirrels were from, and I told him that I didn’t know. Then he came to his own conclusions. "I bet they were British squirrels, they are the most cunning," he replied.
Meantime, an independent journalist, Sepher Sopli, was not surprised by the idea that another country would spy on Iran, so much as he was dumbfounded by their methods.
"I read this story in the papers and though it was very bizarre; what struck me as odd was that in this age of modern technology, people were relying on squirrels to do their spying," Sopli said.
But, the report was still strange enough to surprise. "That's very funny, but you’re not serious are you?" said Soraya Jafari, a student in Tehran.
Maybe not a first
Espionage not entirely foreign to animals. If true, this would not be the first time animals have been used for military endeavors.
During World War II, Allied forces used pigeons to fly vital intelligence out of occupied France.
More recently, U.S. Marines stationed in Kuwait trained chickens for a low-tech chemical detection system. It’s also well documented that dolphins have been used to seek out underwater mines.
Spying is something that is taken seriously in any country, especially in a place like Iran, where numerous people are currently being held on charges of espionage.
Still, the squirrels that breached the Iranian border carrying sensitive spying equipment must have been nuts.

sick or sane?

Its been over a year since I've turned into the person I am. I don't know what turned me like this. The lady who writes and questions me thinks its my family. They don't know what to think. They miss the smileing little girl with long blond hair that told them of her day. I'm not the same kid I was when I was younger, and they will never know. I was the best they said. Now I'm not longer trusted by him, but atleast she still does. I want to find a way to forget everything that I know. They dont get this. I've just been going down hill. This house I live in is cursed. They don't undestand why I want to end this all. They think if I just swallow them down my throat it will cure this all. Well thats how I tried to end it all. I sew my mouth and they think its all okay. Maybe I'm okay and I've lost control of the only thing in life I thought I had a hold of. So I can't control myself. They think If I talk about it everything will be okay. What am I to say to them to leave me alone. ' I'M OKAY! I'M NOT CRAZY! NOTHINGS WRONG!' They dont get this. He wants me to get all the help I need. I dont need it he does, but he doesnt get it! I lost a perfect person to drugs, and anouther to an abuser. I can't forget a someone who was a deep love. They tell me somethings not right with all of this. It's like a cloud is always following me. Im a plauge. I don't know what has changed me. They think Its her. Shes a bad influence. You take her away you midaswell pull the triger. The little girl they all know has died and she will never come back, but they don't see that. I murdered her a long time ago. I don't trust anyone anymore. They never see what this does to them. Am I the only one that sees what this mass media does? They always expect something from me. They are expecting me to give them the answer of whats wrong with me. Its not that easy. They want to know why I chose to do all the things I've done. Well I dont know. So tell me how I'm to answer this and what to do. I have no control of what my life chooses! I didn't choose to be this like they believe. This is what holds me down. Why do we even care. Its not like its gonna matter in anouther 100 years. This life is a game of Russian Rulet. I swear that if I could I would take away all the pain I've caused everyone. I hold something, but I should just set it free before its taken away. I want it all to stop. Theres no bright side to this. Maybe this time I won't pretend to be alright and smile. Maybe I am alright if I can think and function.

friendship

Love You Guys!

Met my friends on net!.. I am proud to say our friendship still lives on and is growing stronger each day. Many people had doubts that we would remain friends for such a long period of time since we are total opposites in everything...clothes, music, taste in guys (which is a good thing)....people ask me how is it possible that we remained such wonderful friends if we had nothing in common but the reason that people couldn't understand our close bond was because they weren't looking hard enough, they couldn't see that we did have something in common and that was we both knew how to laugh. Every time we would see each other we would be laughing and having fun, we never took ourselves too seriously and accepted each other's differences and faults, which is what I think kept that strong bond between us. People make mistakes and friends will always make mistakes but you have to learn to shrug your shoulders and accept that we're all only human! and we can't be perfect which is what most people are looking for....that PERFECT friend who will never slip up or do anything wrong, but I'm afraid they are searching for something that does not exist, nobody is perfect, people have to learn to forgive and forget. But most importantly my best friend and I have trust which is the key to any friendship, without trust you have nothing. If you don't trust the person with your life then that person is not a friend but merely an acquaintance. We have shared of good times and bad times, of laughter and tears, we have guided and helped each other through the hard times. Our footsteps have always been side by side never behind or in front. I've loved her & I've hated her but I've never given up or abandoned her, and I know it goes both ways since I haven't exactly been a flawless friend and I'm sorry for that. I love the fact that I could leave for years and not see her (it would kill me though) and know without a doubt that when I return she will still be here for me waiting with open arms. She is my guardian angel fallen from heaven. Thank you to all my friends for all that you've given me and taught me through the years and for always being there and I'm sorry for all the times I let you down. I love you with all my heart and soul. Forever Friends… LOVE YOU GUYS! hehehehe!

Recently, one of my best friends,
whom I've shared just about
everything with since the first day of kindergarten, spent the weekend
with me. Since I moved to a new
town several years ago, we've both always looked forward
to the few times a year when we can see each other.

Over the weekend, we spent hours and hours, staying up
late into the night, talking about the people she was
hanging around with. She started telling me stories about
her new boyfriend, about how he experimented with drugs
and was into other self-destructive behavior. I was blown
away! She told me how she had been lying to her parents
about where she was going and even sneaking out to se
e this guy because they didn't want her around him. No
matter how hard I tried to tell her that she deserved better,
she didn't believe me. Her self-respect seemed to have
disappeared.

I tried to convince her that she was ruining her future and
heading for big trouble. I felt like I was getting nowhere. I
just couldn't believe that she really thought it was
acceptable to hang with a bunch of losers, especially her
boyfriend.

By the time she left, I was really worried about her and
exhausted by the experience. It had been so frustrating, I
had come close to telling her several times during the
weekend that maybe we had just grown too far apart to
continue our friendship - but I didn't. I put the power of
friendship to the ultimate test. We'd been friends for far too
long. I had to hope that she valued me enough to know
that I was trying to save her from hurting herself. I wanted
to believe that our friendship could conquer anything.

A few days later, she called to say that she had thought
long and hard about our conversation, and then she told me
that she had broken up with her boyfriend. I just listened on
the other end of the phone with tears of joy running down
my face. It was one of the truly rewarding moments in my
life. Never had I been so proud of a friend.

A story of real friendship

One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.' I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friend tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running towards him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives.' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!' There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play football on Saturday with me and my friends. He said yes. We hung all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him. And my friends thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, 'Damn boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!' He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class . I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than me and all the girls loved him! Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!' He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. 'Thanks,' he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. 'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach… but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story.' I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. 'Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.' I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realise it's depth.Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse. " Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly "

F R I E N D S F O R E V E R !

Sunsets of Yesterday

Things you never have known, never heard, never saw and most of all you never felt;
surely you never knew what you have been missing till it’s gone. You regret that you
haven’t given him a little time to cherish the bond. But it’s never to late.. I hope.

I used to remember way back you don’t want us to go home late because we’ll never
know the danger in the streets and we can’t trust the people around us. I’m used to
ignore you, there were times I was thinking you don’t want us to have fun or meet
friends and just want us to stay and bore ourselves at home. This made me rebel
against you. The more you imprisoned me home the more I tried to go home late and
sneak out at night.

Until I started my life at your back; Doing things I never had done and never thought I
could. Curiosity really kills especially if it satisfies my freedom. Yes I thought I was
free, free to do what I want; go wherever I want to go and be with any person I want to.
But as time passed me by I started to regret that living. There are times when I was so afraid and you have no one to comfort me, I have these questions that none could answer and I experienced unbearable pain that none was there by my side.

Form the looks of it now; though unscathed I am still hurting inside and though untamed I long to be loved. The scars of the past ache and tears keep flowing every night. These tough time I remember you “Dad nobody wants to love your baby”, I cried out. Your little princess had been wounded by those wicked princes who took pleasures of her innocence. I can no longer hear her laugh; I cease to see her smiles. She had her own world and nobody wants to be apart of it.

I can hardly keep up with the pace of life because I continue to dwell on my past that keeps on haunting me. The heat days were ground sweats while lazy dreaming body too sleepy to move just stray. The cold nights were darkness was defied by colored lights and wasted soul’s lust to drink their life away. Waking up on shambles of host you just stumble into and trying to run home before daylight catches you. Burning lines, mosquito bites and late night shows while the other end of the line was already plotting his lies on you. Extravagance on every happy outs were every sweat from your toil been wasted on insensitive souls who never cared at all. And most of all the promises that have been given, broken and I keep on forgiving. All these for a piece of happiness that I longed to possessed.

All the while I was blinded by the flashy lights of desire that I have forgotten what I already have. What I have adhere was totally here with me and now He confiscated you. I have never really told you that I love you. I dreamt of you I already ask for forgiveness and hope you really did as what you have said in my dream. And yes I will change just like what I have promise you. Thank you for everything. I know your always at our side.

i was gang raped.. damn u!

A woman at a bar on a Saturday night
was taken by 5 men, who, according to
hospital and police reports, gang
raped her before dumping her. Unable
to remember the events of the evening,
tests later confirmed the repeat
rapes, along with traces of Rohypnolin
her blood and Progesterex,
esse ntially a small sterilization
pil l.

The drug is now being used by rapist
sat parties to rape AND sterilize their
victims. Progesterex is available tovets to
sterilize large animals.
Progeste rex is being used together
with Rohypnol, the date rape drug.

As with Rohypnol, all they have to do
is drop it into the girl's drink. The
girl can't remember a thing the next
morning, of all that had taken place
the night before. Progesterex, which
dissolves in drinks just as easily, is
such that the victim doesn't get
pregnant; she won't conceive from the
rape and the rapist needn't worry
about having a paternity test
identifying him months later.

The drug's effects ARE NOT TEMPORARY -
They are P*E*R*M*A*N* E*N*T!!!
Progeste rex was designed to sterilize
horses. . Any female who takes it will
NEVER BE ABLE TO CONCEIVE... The
weasels can get this drug from anyone
who is in the vet school or any
university.It's that easy, and Progesterex is
about to break out big on campuses
everywhe re. Believe it or not, there
are even sites on the Internet telling
people how to use it.
Please forward this to everyone you
know, especially girls... Be careful
when you're out and don't leave your
drink unattended.

Many times in my life!

Many times in my life I have disappointed you,
and begun to stray.
But you have pointed me in the right direction,
and sent me on my way.

Many times in my life I've needed a helping hand,
and someone to pull me up.
It was you who gave that helping hand,
and always cheered me up.

Many times I've been sad and down,
and taken it out on you.But you
stood by me and comforted me,
In times that I was bad.

Many times I've needed support,
and to know someone was there.
It was you who held me up,
and showed me how to care.

Many times I've wanted to tell you this,
But never got a chance.
You have helped me out in life,
and got me where I am.

You were there for me through thick and thin,
You never gave up on me and you taught me how to care.
From the deepest of my heart I want to say I love you,
And to thank you for being there for me in times of good or bad.

Who Am I?

I am ...
A womanWith a full heart,
hiddenSomewhere in an empty room ...
With eyes not quite of autumn's gold, and yet
Neither all of summer's green;

I wonder ...
If love is a tale made for children --
A granting of sweet dreams in their innocence --
A honey-coating to help their throats
Choke down the bitter draught ...

I hear ...
A voice that whispers warnings, half-formed,
Bodiless as hope, until I swear I cannot draw
Another breath unless this spectre be unmasked,
His lies mangled ‘neath my righteous tread;

I see ...
A woman, proud, uncompromising,
Diaphanous as air -- less, even, than the tears
That fall in desolation about her weary feet,
Salt poison pooled upon the withered ground ...

I want ...
A measure of quietude, a certain silence,
The echo of alone which heals me of dreaming,T
he nothing that stills the wanting,
The numb, the cold that laughs at pain;

I am
A woman,
hidden ...

I pretend ...
That I can live forever -- that Time
Has no puissance but that which I afford Him --
And so, I can wait, I can be happy tomorrow,
Sleep is for the dead; but its ghosts haunt my waking ...

I feel ...
Too much -- too deeply to be directionless,
Too real for imagining, and yet the familiar eyes
Hold nothing of recognition -- only my reflection --
A meeting of shadows in sunlit glass;

I touch ...
The downy wings of hope, in wonder,
In reverence, in need, in hunger;
Alas, it burns my fingers as a flame,
A sacrilege, self-defined ...

I worry ...
That I am alone; that in my longing
I have forsaken all -- but oh, what reward,
What smile divine should light the path to freedom --
And how can I but heed the siren's call?

I cry ...
For having too much, for fear of bursting,
And then, when by the pouring of my soul
I lie, a vessel emptied, I cry again
For what was had, and lost;

I am...
A woman,
empty ...

I understandThat life is what you make it,
That sometimes, the coat of many colors
That marks your triumphs brightly, blends only
To loneliest of grey ...

I say
That we are made by life, shaped,
Broken, perhaps -- unmade and voided --But always, the core of us remains, waiting
With only faith, with trust, to be reborn;

I dream
Of bluest waters, reaching
With unnatural hands toward the faded sky,
Of dolphins that wander in seas without limits,
Carrying me water-breathing past corals and clouds ...

I try ...
To lead by example, knowing
That merely the telling holds no power;
A gift of giving is merely a day, while
A gift of knowing spans forever;

I hope ...
That my darkness holds you gently,
That pain is halved by sharing, that feeling
Wields nothing past the words it summons,
Except that it touch you with only healing ...
I am
A woman,only.

WE PRAY AND WORK HARD TO BE A SUCCESS IN LIFE

Healthy Eating Is Important
*When you are HIV positive you need to keep your body and mind strong. This help you not to get sick. How to take care of your mind and body.

Eat the correct food
* Food will not cure HIV, but it can hel to keep your immune system strong. * Eat fresh food like fruit and vegetables, beans, chicken and fish.

Stop smoking and drinking alcohol
* Smoking and drinking alcohol make your body weak. It is then easier for theHIV virus to get strong, and for you to get AIDS earlier.

Get support from people *
Join a support group of peole living with HIV and AIDS. * Talk to someone when you feel lonely, sad or angry.

Go for regular medical check - up
*A person with HIV should visit the clinic for a check - up every 3 to 4 month. * The health worker will give you advice, and will help you to deal with anyproblems you may have.

Treat any new diseases or problems
*People with HIV get sick very easily. It is important to go to the clinic if you are sick. This is because everysickness makesthe body weader and less able to fight the HIV virus.

* If the clinic finds that you have any new sickneses or problems, the shouldtreat them.

* If these sicknesses are not treated quickly, they may get worse and make you very sick. About anti-HIV medicine

* There are some new medicines that can slow down the HIV virus and keep ou well for a long time.

* These medicines are very expensive and need to be taken every day, month and year after year.

Just Being Me

The life I seek must be fast

The speed of life makes me laugh!

Death's just around the corner for

a Queer like me!

Well so they say all of them Freaks.

Homophobia I really do detest

What I am is what I do best!

Like if you want, Answer!

This ain't no test

If you like me, "Great," then we're friends

If you hate me don't make me get upset!

I'm just a Dike whom nobody Straight likes

Well forget you all, cause we love each other

my Baby and I!

You don't have to shake my hand,

I'm not asking you to stare.

If you don't like what you see,

then get the Hell out of here!

I am what I am,

So please understand

Even if you don't "Who really gives a damn?"

JOKE JOKE!

Dispatcher: 911 What is your emergency?

Caller: I heard what sounded like gunshots coming from the brown house on the corner.

Dispatcher: Do you have an address?

Caller: No, I have on a blouse and slacks, why?

Dispatcher: 911 What is your emergency?

Caller: Someone broke into my house and took a bite out of my ham and cheese sandwich.

Dispatcher: Excuse me?

Caller: I made a ham and cheese sandwich and left it on the kitchen table and when I came back from the bathroom, someone had taken a bite out of it.

Dispatcher: Was anything else taken?

Caller: No, but this has happened to me before and I'm sick and tired of it!

Dispatcher: 911

Caller: Yeah, I'm having trouble breathing. I'm all out of breath. Darn....I think I'm going to pass out.

Dispatcher: Sir, where are you calling from?

Caller: I'm at a pay phone. North and Foster.

Dispatcher: ! Sir, an ambulance is on the way. Are you an asthmatic?

Caller: No

Dispatcher: What were you doing before you started having trouble breathing?

Caller: Running from the Police.

Dispatcher: 911 What is the nature of your emergency?

Caller: I'm trying to reach nine eleven but my phone doesn't have an eleven on it.

Dispatcher: This is nine eleven.

Caller: I thought you just said it was nine-one-one

Dispatcher: Yes, ma'am nine-one-one and nine-eleven are the same thing.

Caller: Honey, I may be old, but I'm not stupid.

About Life...

Life can seem ungrateful and not always kind.

Life can pull at your heartstrings and play with your mind...

Life can be blissful and happy and free...

Life can put beauty in the things that you see...

Life can place challenges right at your feet...

Life can make good of the hardships we meet...

Life can overwhelm you and make your head spin...

Life can reward those determined to win...

Life can be hurtful and not always fair...

Life can surround you with people who care...

Life clearly does offer its Up and its Downs...

Life's days can bring you both smiles and frowns...

Life teaches us to take the good with the bad...

Life is a mixture of happy and sad...

So...

Take the Life that you have and give it your best...

Think positive, be happy let God do the rest...

Take the challenges that life has laid at your feet...

Take pride and be thankful for each one you meet...

To yourself give forgiveness if you stumble and fall...

Take each day that is dealt you and give it your all...

Take the love that you're given and return it with care...

Have faith that when needed it will always be there...

Take time to find the beauty in the things that you see...

Take life's simple pleasures let them set your heart free...

The idea here is simply to even the score...

As you are met and faced with Life's Tug of War

There are days when

bubbling from us come

sthe innocent child within,

who giggles at the little things

and wears a silly grin.

There are days when

melancholy comes to

visit for a while;

the mind feels tired, the body weak;

we have no strength to smile.

There are days when

joy abundant

grabs a hold of you and me;

wraps us up in all it's splendor,

lifts us up and sets us free.

There are days when

sorrow wraps us

in its cloak of grief and fear,'

till our hearts ache to the breaking,'

till our eyes can't shed a tear.

There are days when

love bestows us

with its wonderment and light;

with its beauty and its mystery,

its power and its might.

And there are days when

life rewards us

and seems to make amends

by granting us a marvelous gift,t

he precious gift of Friends.