Moments with you

There are many things in life that I need to enjoy
I want to savor every moment of them with you

I want to stand in the rain closing my eyes,
feeling the water touch my senses

But it will be much nicer if you’re with me in the rain
and I’m touching your hand

I want to stroll and relax, to feel the cool wind
under the cozy shade of a tree, I’ll watch the sunset

But it will be much nicer if you’re with me watching the sight
and I can see your heart-melting smile.

I want to enjoy a long quite sleep at night
thinking of sweet dreams and happy thoughts

But it will be much nicer if you’re at my side as I close my eyes
and I can smell your hair as I hug you tight

I want to wake up in the morning full of life
as the warm sun greets me with a smile

But it will much nicer if I wake up and see your face
to be greeted by your warm sweet embrace

All I want is to enjoy every moment of my life with you..

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"It's definitely different when you love someone and when you're inlove with someone"

explanation:

alin nga ba ang mas malalim?

Loving someone or Being in love with someone?

marami sa atin ang na confuse tungkol dito.

Ikaw ba ay may girlfriend o boyfriend ngayon?

Mahal mo ba siya pero parang may isang tao na parang mahalaga din sayo.
o may mahal ka na akala mo eh mahal mo nga siya pero meron ka pa rin isang tao na minamahal ng totoo.

Kapag love mo ang isang tao masaya ka...
Feeling mo ok na ang lahat...

pero ang ma-inlove ka, ang siyang pinakamasakit sa lahat!

Kasi ang mga taong inlove ay ang mga taong ngsasakripisyo at ngpaparaya.

Teka bakit ka nga ba ngpaparaya?

Dahil ba hindi ka niya mahal o dahil hindi ka siguradong ok lang sa kanya?

Kung yan ang dahilan mo, walang duda na inlove ka nga sa kanya.
Kasi iniisip mo kung anong meron kayo sa ngayon ang tanging mahalaga at kontento ka na.
Pero isipin mo paano kung mawala ang taong yon at talagang hindi na kayo mag-usap at magkita,

kaya mo ba?

Paano naman kung sayo siya inlove at ibinigay niya ang lahat para sayo pero hindi mo napahalagahan ang lahat ng ito kaagad!

Paano kung isang araw naguluhan na siya sayo ng husto at maisipang lumayo na lang?
Paano kung sa sobrang pagiging iba mo sa kanya di ka na niya kausapin at tuldukan na niya ng tuluyan kung ano na ang meron kayo?

Then bigla mong na realize kung gaano sya kaimportante sayo kaya lang wala na siya!
Kaya mo ba?

Kung hindi ang sagot mo, malinaw na inlove ka nga...

Paano naman pag mahal mo lang?

Kapag mahal mo lang, alam mo na palagi kang may choice at ayaw mo siyang mawala dahil alam
mong wala kang ipapalit.

Yung masaya ka sa kanya pero sa gabi hindi naman siya ang iniisip mo.
Mahal mo siya pero aminado ka sa sarili mo na balang araw hindi siya ang pakakasalan mo.
Mahal mo siya pero ang puso mo hindi lang pra sa kanya..
Mahal mo at masasaktan ka pagnawala siya pero alm mo na kaya mo yon.

Ngayon anong nararamdaman mo
ngayon: DO YOU LOVE SOMEONE or YOU'RE
INLOVE WITH SOMEONE?

Isang araw magigising ka na lang na
INLOVE ka na
nga pero kahit anong gawin mo ay huli
na.

Dahil maaaring yung taong INLOVE din
sayo ay
wala
na pala.

Tandaan mo: Masyadong mapaglaro ang
puso
huwag
tayo magpaloko!!!

We learn to love someone pero minsan
lang
dumating
sa atin ang pagkakataong ma-inlove!!!

Kaya kapag dumating ito, ano ang gagawin mo?

With infatuation....

ive observed tht therr is only a thin line between love and infatuation, kaya nga karamihan ng infatuated sa isang tao ay masyadong overjoyed sa feelings nya, kaya madalas ay inaakala na nyang love ito....

with infatuation....

its more than like but not enough to be considered as love.... hindi kasing lalim ng pagmamahal ang nadarama... na mimis-interpret lang ng taong infatuated, dahil it has the same signs as being inlove..... dahil kadalasan ang infatuation ay nahahaluan ng matinding obesession for the person they like..... kaya nagiging head over heels ka sa tao.... lagi sya ang laman ng isip mo... sya ang hinahanap mo.. feeling mo mahal mo sya.... but sa katotohanan ay hindi pala... dahil pag may nakita or nakilala kang bago at nakakahigit sa kanya, ay lumilipat yung nadarama mo ng di mo namamalayan hanggang sa napunta na sa iba yung feelings mo....

sa love naman..its something more lasting.. permanent... hindi ka sumusuko.. at lahat kakayanin mo, dahil mahal mo yung tao.. lahat kaya mong unawain at intindihan dahil sa pagmamahal mo sa kanya... at kahit na nasasaktan ka at naiinsulto ay sige ka pa din sa pagmamahal sa kanya......

masarap maranasan ang infatuation at ang love.... dahil nai express mo yung feelings mo sa isang taong mahalaga sayo.... at may kilig....higit sa lahat... mabokya at mabasted ka man ...luhaan ka man at talunan.... one would still want to have this kind of feeling dahil u learn a lot from it and it makes u a better person.....kaya kug saan ka masaya andoon ka huwag mung pilitin ang feeling mu na hindi ka naman masaya doon... kasi ikaw naman ang masasaktan sa huli! di ba?

How Opposite-Sex Friendships Can Enrich One's Life

Can there be anything like friendship between two people of the opposite sex? Many people think that this is impossible but i think that platonic relationship between a man and a woman is very healthy. Many women confess to having spent wonderful time with their male best friends with the absence of their husbands. Their husbands think it is great and i think they are right. A good marriage is based on trust and something like friendships with an opposite-sex becomes completely inconsequential. You must agree with me that this is a new relationship phenomenon featuring in only this generation. The previous generations believed that opposite-sex friendships were a potential bombs to many marriages. Family and marriage therapists believe that the easiest opposite-sex friendships to maintain are the friendships which were established long before someone got married. Such relationships are not threatening since you had them before you were married.

Some of these friends are helpful when it comes to shoe shopping, some offer perfect shoulders to cry on and some good ones are good at both. They respect each others partners a lot. Problems come in if one spouse in marriage does not have friends from the opposite sex. If your husband has some girlfriends he will rarely have a problem with you having man friends. Dramas start when partners create new opposite-sex friendships and keeps it a secret from her/his spouse. It is a clear indication that the person feels romantically attracted to the new friend. Such behaviors greatly interferes with issues concerning trust and harbors romantic jealousy. If one partner is so outgoing and the other one is reserved. The reserved one always thinks that the other one has romantic relationships with his female friends. Such unclear speculations can lead to divorce.

Deep insecurity in a relationship leads to thriving jealousy which shoots form zero to somewhere close to paranoia. You should introduce all your friends to your partner to avoid panic attacks. Couples should establish an honest and open communication about opposite-sex friendships. They are very beneficial. John who maintains a close relationship with females some of who are married including his high school friend, Staicy. They usually meet once or twice a week with Staicy who is sometimes accompanied by her husband. John says that he values the perspective provided by married women. They are more knowledgeable when it comes to relationship and are far better listeners. Their advice is always great. It is quiet unrealistic to expect one person to meet all your social needs. Your spouse cannot be everything to you. Well-managed cross-sex friendships are healthy to any marriage.

When people get married they tend to place so many expectations on marriage. They expect the relationship to fulfill all the social needs which might be impossible. People who hang out in mixed gender groups are more happy than those who only interact with people of their own gender. Opposite-sex friendships are more fulfilling. It is described as a spiritual form of love just like sisterly or brotherly love. in most cases the two friends share some interests or hobbies which are not usually shared by the spouse. It is a wonderful feeling to have a platonic relationship. However your partner should always have an open invitation.

Friendships - How Losing Your Best Friend Leaves A Gapping Hole In Women

Best Friends are really special. We talk about how wonderful to have them, but we don't talk about the pain of losing them.

The love you feel for a close girl friend is different from a love relationship but it is not less meaningful. Unfortunately, in our society today the love for a best friend does not have the same value and support as for romantic love. Losing a lover through death or divorce fits within our understanding out loss and grief. But the loss of a best friend, through death or divorce - that is, a permanent falling out - has no socially Accepted guidelines.

"Linda and I had a long distance relationship," Carla sadly chuckles. "We talked at least once a week, sometimes more often. We were two time zones away but for 11 years since I moved away, we worked around that. We made a point of getting together 3 or 4 times a year. I love my husband, but loving Linda is a different kind of love.

"She was the first person I called when Terry asked me to marry him, even before I called my mom and sister. Whenever he and I are at odds, she is always there to listen to me vent about Terry, to help me see the situation more realistically, and to walk me through the mess with him.

"We used to joke what would we do without each other."

Carla's voice breaks. She takes a deep breath, as if gulping in air would ease her pain. "I guess I'm finding out. Six months ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was a quick decline. She was dead within three months.

"What makes me so mad is that if it were Terry who had died, I'd get time off from work; my friends would be calling on me, offering me sympathy. But Linda is 'just a friend.' Baloney. She's my best friend, my soul, my stabilizer, my special other half, in a way Terry - as much as I love him - can't be. But she's just my friend, so life expects me to carry on."

We live in a world with rigid ideas about love and affection. We have work place rules and social etiquette rules. The inflexibility of these rules, though, ignores some realities. Carla would be able to get time off from work, or a reduced price plane ticket, for the funeral of her sister, even though they haven't spoken in decades, but not for her best friend.

In many communities, when there's a death, friends and neighbors come with the proverbial casseroles and pies. The bereaved gets company, food, sympathy. Carla, though, did not have any of that. Most people don't think about the depth of the loss when it is a non-family member.

The same lack of understanding occurs when best friends have a permanent quarrel, or to put it another way, when best friends divorce.

"Mary just dropped me; I don't know any other way to put it," bemoans Laurie. "Although this was 10 years ago, I still get teary thinking about it. I have no idea why she just stopped talking with me, stopped returning my calls. We had been such good friends for years. After several months, I wrote her saying she at least owed me an explanation. Boy that was a mistake. She wrote back tearing me to pieces."

Laurie's eyes water as she goes back a decade in her memory. "I don't know what was worse. Hearing all the things she didn't like about me or having no one to talk to about losing my best friend. You know, if Laurie were a Larry, everyone would understand why I moped around for months, my work performance flagged, but you don't get sympathy for breaking up with your best friend."

Carla and Laurie understand the power of best friends - having them and losing them. There are rituals for dealing with the death of a spouse and a family member, but there are none for the death of a best friend. People know how to respond if a friend gets divorced, but they have no idea how to respond if that friend gets divorced from a best friend - even though the pain can be just as intense and the loss just as big.

Chances are Carla's and Laura's bosses have had similar experiences because losing a best friend is not uncommon, it's just not often acknowledged, and the pain is rarely discussed.

There are many different ways you can lose a close friend -- through death, a quarrel, changing interests or growing in different directions. When couples split up, their friends may drift away, not wanting to choose sides. No matter how you lose a best friend, it always hurts and leaves a hole in your life. The loss needs to be respected and given the same credence as the loss of any loved one. It hurts just as much to lose a best friend.

If friendships are important to you, get your free copy of "Rules For Enhancing Your Friendships" from the Special Gift link on the home page of http:/WomenAndThePeopleTheyLove.com. Be sure to use the Code: FRIENDS. And, consider treating you and your best friend to a special weekend, check out

Signs That Your Friendship is Not a A Long Lasting One

True friends or best friends can never part ways, yes very correct ,so you think but in reality a true friend is hard to come by. It is always better to do a little inspection or introspection of the friendship which will be helpful for the health of the friendship.

Think about the fact that whether you and your friend are alike or very different .Does it seem like coming from two different worlds? Then next ask yourself about how long you have been friends. This then leads to next question about how much do you share your thoughts and how much do you communicate with each other?

The true friend, even if having contrasting hobbies, would support each other and will make every effort to be there for you when you need them. As an example let us take sports then a true friend of yours will always be at a game even if he or she did not like sports and vice versa. True friends will never forget you wherever they are, for example, if they go on a vacation then they will send you postcards or emails about what happened or is happening at the vacation which will help you at least be part of the vacation of that friend.

What all this above means is that basis of friendship is communication and separate personalities communicating with each other . This helps to understand that a true friendship is always built on a foundation of communication and openness. You always will share your most intimate thoughts with your best friend and will hope to hear from him an unbiased opinion on those.

To make all this special between friends there is unsaid bonding which can stand the test of time, pressure of outside forces and some resistance from others who are jealous about your friendship. Nurture your relationship like you would take care of small baby and the friendship will blossom into a mature relationship which is far ahead of any other relationships you have.

ENOUGH

It took me over a year to make my final decision to end a friendship with a woman I'd socialized with on a weekly basis for more than five years. Perhaps I was afraid that I was being selfish or shortsighted by calling it quits. I worried that it was somehow wrong of me to seriously consider throwing away a friendship that wasn't particularly bad. It just wasn't good enough to continue spending time on.

My ruminating thoughts of uncertainty and the accompanying feelings of guilt persisted. I didn't want to make a big mistake and regret taking what could easily be an irreversible step. I wasn't able to come up with anything legitimate sin my friend had committed. Nevertheless my mind was made up. I knew I'd had my fill of this person. I felt stifled. It was the same old thing week after week, month after month year after year. It was like repeating a school grade over and over again. My dilemma was no longer a question of if but when and how I would say good-bye.

It wasn't as though I hadn't given the easier, softer way a shot. I'd tried the tapering approach for several months. I hoped if slowly untangled myself from our weekly commitment by being busy some of the time, she would gradually adjust to the idea of socializing less frequently. Perhaps I gently push her into a new habit of meeting once or twice a month. But just when I thought she was adjusting to the idea, she'd rev up her efforts to get us back on track to meet weekly.

I suffered some anticipatory nostalgia at the the thought of walking away. Close friends don't grow on trees, at least not in my world. This woman and I had walked and talked our way through divorces, new relationships, subsequent break-ups and reconciliations. The two of us had also been equally guilty spending plenty of time of analyzing and judging the lives of our mutual "recovery" acquaintances.

"I don't trust him. We're friends."

While there had been some give and take over the years, we essentially had a therapist/patient dynamic going much of the time with me playing the role of the counselor. I never got terribly upset about the imbalance because I was aware my basic personality type was in large part to blame. I typically ask a lot of questions and tend to steer the conversation away from sharing my deepest feelings. So it was natural then for me to gravitate toward someone who likes to talk about themselves and asked little about my life.

Don't walk in front of me, I might not follow. Don't walk behind me, I might not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.


Despite our differences in personality, I often reassured myself that the two of us shared a solid and deepening .I believed I'd found a lifelong friend and the only thing that would ever change is that we'd grow closer. So I was surprised and confused when I noticed that I was looking less and less forward to our regularly scheduled outings. I wondered what my problem was.

Although I was craving to make an exit, a little voice inside kept questioning my sanity. She's was, after all, one of the few friends I have on earth. What if someday I am on my death bed ravaged by some unspeakably painful illness and no one else is around. Will I be sorry then? Will I be kicking myself with what little energy my fragile body has left then for so carelessly tossing her out of my life?

My last straw came (and I admit I was probably looking for one) when she called on a Tuesday to book our Saturday. She wanted to make sure we were scheduled before I made other plans. When I listened to that message I knew my tiptoeing away approach was a total failure. I'd had enough.

I decided to sleep on what my next move would be but I knew I had to take action. I was not willing to blow her off completely and I didn't want the stress of telling her the truth.

I chose a medium path and one she'd advocated for her in situations when she didn't want to deal with a person directly. I would mail her a card! What a brilliant idea.

The next day I found a "Thinking of You" card. I felt that would be appropriate and honest because I was thinking of her. The card was blank inside and I filled up the page explaining that while I always consider her a friend, I needed a break and I wasn't up to meeting on a regular basis. I left the door open a bit by ending the note with something about perhaps someday we could meet again. I still don't know if I did that to avoid sparing her feelings or allowing myself a chance to change my mind. Perhaps it was a little of both. I dropped the card in the mail.

About a month later she left me a voice mail like always and said she hoped we could walk that Saturday. She didn't mention anything about receiving my card. I returned her message to let her know I was out of town and told her when I would be returning. That was three months ago and I haven't heard back.

I've been tempted to call my old friends a couple of times but the truth is I'm not interested in resuming a relationship. I still feel some guilt from time to time but I get over it by reminding myself that it's perfectly okay to spend time with the people I want to be around. I wouldn't want someone staying in a friendship with me out of a sense of guilt or obligation.

I researched volumes of advice about ending friendships. It helped me work through my confusion. The list above helped me see that we had grown apart. Maybe I'd changed, maybe she'd changed. Who's at fault didn't really matter. My connection to her had weakened.

I have lost friends, some by death others through sheer inability to cross the street.


After much soul searching I gave myself permission to walk away without carrying a long list of legitimate reasons to justify my decision. It felt wrong to continue this relationship. It felt right to end to it. Enough said.

If Youre Gone...

I think Ive already lost you
I think youre already gone
I think Im finally scared now
You think Im weak - but I think youre wrong
I think youre already leaving
Feels like your hand is on the door
I thought this place was an empire
But now Im relaxed - I cant be sure

I think youre so mean - I think we should try
I think I could need - this in my life
I think Im just scared - I think too much
I know this is wrong its a problem Im dealing

If youre gone - maybe its time to go home
Theres an awful lot of breathing room
But I can hardly move
If youre gone - baby you need to come home
Cuz theres a little bit of something me
In everything in you

I bet youre hard to get over
I bet the room just wont shine
I bet my hands I can stay here
I bet you need - more than you mind

I think youre so mean - I think we should try
I think I could need - this in my life
I think Im just scared - that I know too much
I cant relate and thats a problem Im feeling

If youre gone - maybe its time to go home
Theres an awful lot of breathing room
But I can hardly move
If youre gone - baby you need to come home
Cuz theres a little bit of something me
In everything in you

I think youre so mean - I think we should try
I think I could need - this in my life
I think Im just scared - do I talk too much
I know this is wrong its a problem Im dealing

If youre gone - maybe its time to go home
Theres an awful lot of breathing room
But I can hardly move
If youre gone - baby you need to come home
Cuz theres a little bit of something me
In everything in you

I DON'T WANT TO GO

Here I am
Alone and I don't understand
Exactly how it all began
The dream just walked away

I'm holding on
When all but the passion's gone

And from the start
Maybe I was tryin' to hard
It's crazy coz it's breakin' my heart
Things can fall apart but I know,
That I don't want you to go

And heroes die,
When they ignore the cause inside
But they learn from what's left behind
And fight for something else

And so it goes
That we have both learned how to grow

Oh it's just too much
Takin' all the whole world all by myself
But it's not enough
Unless I stop trusting somebody else,
Somebody else
And love again


And from the start
Maybe we were tryin' to hard
It's crazy coz it's breakin' our hearts
Things can fall apart but I know,
That I don't want you to go, no
Maybe we were tryin' to hard
It's crazy coz it's breakin' our hearts
Things can fall apart but I know,
That I don't want you to go
Oh no, don't want you to go

"Won't Go Home Without You"

I asked her to stay but she wouldn't listen
She left before I had the chance to say
Oh
The words that would mend the things that were broken
But now it's far too late, she's gone away

Every night you cry yourself to sleep
Thinking: "Why does this happen to me?
Why does every moment have to be so hard?"
Hard to believe that

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

The taste of your breath, I'll never get over
The noises that she made kept me awake
Oh
The weight of things that remained unspoken
Built up so much it crushed us everyday

Every night you cry yourself to sleep
Thinking: "Why does this happen to me?
Why does every moment have to be so hard?"
Hard to believe that

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

Of all the things I felt but never really shown
Perhaps the worst is that I ever let you go
I should not ever let you go, oh oh oh

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you

It's not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won't go home without you
And I won't go home without you
And I won't go home without you
And I won't go home without you

Im Bad...:(

It wasn't that bad but it woke me up from slumber. We stayed friends but she still thought we're a 'couple'. I mean, we're not officially a couple, we had a misunderstanding and she thought we still have that connection. We don't see each other as often as before and it's better of that way. As i've said, we were friends, very close friends in fact that I've never expected she'd give me such attention but I was so stupid I believed her. Actually, I got over her. I tried to listen to myself when she's close and am happy I don't have that strong feelings when I get to hear from her. I moved on now and happy being single. =D

I sit here and think back
To these past years
Memories flood to my mind
And in my eyes, appear the tears

Through these years I've experienced
The love, the joy and pain
Learning each and every day
While precious memories remained

I can't believe how fast it came
How quickly four years went by
That part of life seemed to have passed
With just one blink of my eyes

They say we're to enter a new road
And face new challenges ahead
Towards an unknown future
In the life we've already lead

But the sound of that scares me
Because it involves change
It frightens me to go on further
On this road that seems so strange

Yet I know I can't avoid it
Because that's what life is about
Discovering what the future holds
While walking on the different routes

The memories of these past years
Nothing will ever replace
I capture one last picture
Of each and every face

I will never forget these people
The ones I now call my friends
How do I say goodbye
When it all comes to an end?

From them I've learned so much
How to love and how to care
I cannot imagine going on
With some of them not being there

prepared me for everything
Except for how to say goodbye
That moment has now arrived
And all I want to do is cry

But I will hold back my tears
And face this moment in time
I know wherever life may lead us
We will all turn out fine

Someday we will meet again
And be like how we used to
But till that day comes, just know
I will never forget any of you...

What Happens After long long time ago?

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still favoured to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE. You are special - Don't EVER forget it." you may never know the lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to, or the hope that it can bring. Count your blessings!

Maybe Not Forever

There are so many stories I still want to tell
There are so many I love you's left unsaid
There are many tears left uncried
There are many dreams left to fall apart

I miss our long talks
I miss the nights when all was alright
I love you like a sister, you were my angel,
Yet I wonder why you left me here to die

We were forever best friends-
When one fell to the ground
The other one was there to help her back up.
We healed our broken hearts
With a hug and a gentle smile.
We stayed up every night looking at the stars,
Giggling like little girls and having midnight talks.

You said you had to go-
I wished it wasn't so.
You said we'd always write.
You said it would be like old times.
I looked in your eyes as you looked into mine,
With smiles like everything was fine.

Yet we both knew well that this was our last good-bye.
We knew that we would never again
Have those long talks and play like little girls again.
We knew all the pain we'd cause ourselves.
I also knew that my angel was being taken away,
Yet we promised no matter what we'd remain forever best friends...

Goodbye

Well maybe now I should just say goodbye
You used to be my friend
But I never felt I really was yours
So maybe this is the end.
I'm different from you, all of you
Each other we've never understood
I hope that if I do tell you goodbye
That it won't be for good.
Whenever I'm mad it hurts me so bad
And you don't even care
I don't know why, I just want to cry
And someday I won't be there.
The streaks on my arm they've done me no harm
They're only made of pen
But once they are blood that turns brown like mud
They'll be there again and again.
If I'm mad at you I'll hurt myself too
But that doesn't really matter
Although when I hurt I feel like dirt
And my spirit's bruised and battered.
I do not know why it has to be so
I really wish it did not
But the way this has been going
it is basically shot.
You don't need me and we don't need we
And that's how I think I know why
These words are the ones I have to speak-
I love you, but goodbye.

Forever

A long time ago,
When we first met,
I didn't like you,
We had a bet.

Over a stupid guy,
I thought we'd never get along,
My instincts were telling me,
I was so wrong

One day when you went out with him,
I'll admit I was jealous,
Until we started talking,
Later nothing could come between us.

Now we look back at the past,
We've been through think and thin,
It came across me,
I found my best friend.

I don't care what happens,
With me by your side,
I will not criticize,
There is nothing to hide.

You can tell me anything,
Don't worry about it,
Won’t let you go through your problems alone,
There is so much more where we can get.

Don't keep things bottled inside,
I will always be there for you,
I will be by your side,
There is nothing our friendship can't do!

You are more than a friend,
You’re like a sister to me,
Together there is nothing,
That we can't see.

You are about to leave,
I can’t say good-bye,
No matter how hard I try,
I will break down and cry!

It is still hard to believe,
I can't see you're leaving,
I will always remember,
I will always be grieving

I want you to remember,
No matter what happens,
We will be friends forever!!

Gone...

ran through my head
I found myself wishing I was dead
All because you were moving away
I knew I would never see you another day

You got in your car and waved goodbye
and then I was left all alone to cry
I felt helpless, and all alone
I could only talk to you on the phone

You were my neighbor, and my best friend
Why, Oh why did it have to end?
You made me so happy, so carefree
You made it feel okay for me to be me

It's been almost a year since you moved away
but it feels like it was only yesterday
I remember everything you used to do
It may seem impossible, but it's true

You were the best friend I ever had
Now that you left me, I am beyond sad
I love and I miss you more than you ever knew
You've taught me so much, and I want to say thank you.

I Love You & Goodbye...

I will never forget you,
Though I may meet someone new
But a part of my heart
Will forever belong to you.

I know it won’t be easy,
And I’ll miss you every second
But everything in life,
Comes with a special lesson.

Letting go is hard
But when all the sadness clears
There will not be a reason
To shed another tear.

What we had was priceless
And you will always hold my heart
But now that our love is gone
We must forever part.

My love you took for granted
But I gave it anyway…
And still you overlook me
Even to this day.

Of all the times you hurt me
And all the times I’ve cried
I think of why I worked so hard
And why I even tried.

You said you’d love me forever
But forever has come and gone
And still I sit and wonder
Where it all went wrong.

But now I see what’s really there
And there’s nothing I could have done
You can’t help who you love
And I just wasn’t the one.

Maybe someday down the road
Our paths will intertwine
And once again I can hold you
And know you are mine.

But until the day, if it even comes
You will only be in my mind
For now it’s time for me to see
If it’s true love I can find.

We had some really good times
And we had some really bad,
But the strength to keep on going
Neither of us had.

I’m sorry our time has ended
And we couldn’t make things work
But then I think of all the times
You acted like a jerk.

I know I wasn’t perfect
But I gave you all I had
And if we were so deep in love
Why does it feel so bad?

I still have a lot of questions
And I still wonder why
But now all I can do is say…
I love you and goodbye.

I Need You Now

Please take me by the hand.
Stand by me in my hour of need,
Take time to understand.

Take my hand, dear friend,
And lead me from this place.
Chase away my doubts and fears,
Wipe the tears from off my face.

Friend, I cannot stand alone.
I need your hand to hold,
The warmth of your gentle touch
In my world that's grown so cold.

Please be a friend to me
And hold me day by day.
Because with your loving hand in mine,
I know we'll find the way.

CONTROLLING BOY-FRIEND

There are some men who are control freaks. They want to control everything, including their partners. What happens when you have a relationship with such a person?Why does he want to control? Maybe he has had a traumatic childhood. He may have imbibed this trait from his parent/s. If he suffers from low self-esteem, he may want to control in order to feel superior. Or he feels his partner is his property.
What ever the reasons, in such a relationship, a girl feels suffocated. When he decides what she wears, who she talks to, who she goes out with, then the relationship is no longer enjoyable. She will feel constricted. How can she handle such a person?
She must learn to taken responsibility for her actions. She must learn not to accept his demands. She must accept she is an individual who has all her rights. She must not support his actions. She must set boundaries which he must learn to respect. She must learn to be assertive and make sure he respects her and her wishes.
There will be emotional controlling done when he realizes she is not willing to accept his control. She must not give in to this. She must talk to him when there is no fight happening, and be assertive in setting boundaries. If he starts to take over the conversation, she must take time off and come back to the discussion later.
A girl who allows herself to be controlled will end up losing her identity. She must introspect and ask herself what she is losing in this kind of relationship. She will be losing her identity, her dreams, and her dignity. Is this relationship worth losing all of these?
Suffering in silence is not love.

SUICIDE

What are the reasons why people commit suicide? Love failure, fear of failure in examination, poverty, debt, marital problems, chronic illness, etc.It is a momentary madness, if the moment passes, then sanity prevails.
When the exams results are round the corner, the tension experienced by the students is terrible. If they are not counseled properly, they are prone to take the extreme step. Fortunately there are centers like Sneha doing such a good job in counseling for those who contemplate suicide.
Students must be made to realize that exams can be repeated next year, but once life is lost, everything is lost. Even failed attempts can be problematic.
Recently it was in the news about farmers committing suicide due to poverty and mounting debts. They took the extreme step due to crop failures and no way out of the debt traps they had fallen in. It is a different issue that they have left behind their families to face the very same situation as well as to mourn their loss.
Love failure, what can be said about this? Jilted lover sometimes resorts to suicide, maybe as a warning to her/his ex-lover. A jilted lover who does not have inner strength, will resort to taking his/her life, instead of getting over the experience and starting fresh. God has given only one life, why do people not realize this? Life is to be lived, enjoyed, and experienced with all good and bad.
There are some cases where a person ends his/her life because of chronic illness. They probably do not want to be a burden on their family.
There was this gentleman, a very disciplined person, who timed all his actions to perfection. Every activity had a particular time, he did not budge either way, come rain or sunshine. When he aged, his body would not co-operate with him, he was vexed. When he came to know he did not have long to live, he took his own life. He had always controlled everything in his life, he could not accept the fact that his body was failing him. He probably decided that he would die at his chosen time. He left behind a bewildered family. They are taking a long time in recovering.
Those who are suffering major depression, may contemplate suicide. Normally, those who attempt suicide are asking for help. They are unable to cope with their particular problem, so they are seeking a way out.
All the signs and symptoms will be there for anyone to see. A person who is contemplating suicide will show no interest in life, will have problems with sleep and food, will always be in a depressed mood, and will withdraw into him/herself. He/she will have crying spells, will also express thoughts of suicide, and will talk about death. It should not be ignored. He/she is actually asking for help, psychologically. He/she must be counseled, and not left alone for a long time.
Counseling does help a lot. A person lost his brother to suicide, has been guilty ever since. He feels he did not do enough to save him. It took some counseling to make him realize he was not at fault. Suicide has such a devastating effect on the family.
A youngster who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, took his life because he did not want to live with this disease. He was getting the best of treatment, but he could not live with the thought that he could relapse. A very tragic story.
Like it has been stated earlier, suicide is a momentary madness. If a suicide prone person is dissuaded from this act, a life can be saved.
Those who are saved, may resort to it later. That is why they have to be counseled.
But there are some who use the threat of suicide as a blackmailing stunt. They also require counseling. If ignored, they may attempt it.
When a person feels very low, feels there is no future, does not want to be a burden on family or society, and when in pain, either physical or emotional, will contemplate suicide. Be free once and for all. Their emotions need to be handled properly, they must be made to realize they too are important members of society. They too can contribute to the growth of the society and mankind.

ATTRACTION

Attraction is a natural thing. When a beautiful scene, object or person passes by, one is attracted. An appreciative glance is offered. The object that attracts could be a shade of color, a particular style of dress, a lovely and peaceful face, a lovely, lilting song, and/or a stylish car or bike.
Being attracted to an object will not create ripples or raised eyebrows. But if a person is attracted to another person, it can create problems. Especially if the attraction is for the opposite sex.
Though why should such attraction be considered unhealthy, is not understandable. When a beautiful woman passes by, the men around will be attracted towards her. Appreciative glances will be given and normally the woman herself will feel flattered. But the problem arises when the attraction goes a step forward and ends up embarrassing the person who appears attractive.
What happens if a married man is attracted to a married woman, is it wrong? Normally it shouldn’t be. It is possible to be attracted by her smile, her style of dressing, or the way she handles children, etc. Provided the lady is not aware of this attraction, otherwise she would be embarrassed and may avoid appearing before this man. But, to be honest, some women will be secretly pleased. The feminine aspect in them will be flattered.
The attraction should remain just that. Not go beyond this point. Once he/she crosses the line, then trouble is not far behind.
A case came to me where a man said he is happily married and has two children. His wife was away for a few days and he found himself attracted to his neighbor’s wife. He confessed to his wife, who was understandably upset. But he laughed it off, saying it was only a passing phase. He told his wife not to leave him and go anywhere.
But he wrote to say it was no longer a joke, and he found he was constantly thinking of this woman, in fact he was unable to concentrate on anything else. He was truly alarmed with this behavior. He wanted help.
I suggested to him to rationalize this whole thing. He could keep his attraction to a safe level, because there was no way he could express his feelings to that woman. The repercussions would be too messy to handle. But sometimes rational thinking will not help. When one is told to forget something because it is forbidden, it refuses to go away. The mind seeks that thought, and trying to ignore it will not help. The more one pushes such thoughts down, the more it will pop up.
So I suggested to him to replace the image of this lady in his mind with that of his wife. If he persisted enough times, he would succeed. It is like replacing a negative thought with a positive thought.
Or he could try some exposure therapy in his mind. He imagines he is meeting this lady, he expresses his feelings of attractions to her, and she slaps him. All the other people who reside in the same building witness this. Or his children watch their father being thrashed by that lady’s husband. Or his wife witnesses his humiliation and files for divorce. All these scenarios are painful ones, one that is filled with pain and humiliation. Soon his thoughts of this lady will get associated with humiliation, insults, physical attacks and the hurts of his family.
Such exposure therapy, when done in the mind, will lead to aversion. Surely visions of his family witnessing his humiliation will hopefully bring him out of his unhealthy attraction.
This gentleman wrote back saying my mail has helped him to see his folly.

Good Friend Make so Much better!

As we walk our path of life,
We meet people everyday.
Most are simply met by chance.
But, some are sent our way.

These become special friends
Whose bond we can't explain;
The ones who understand us
And share our joy and pain.

Their love contains no boundaries.
So, even we are apart.
Their presence enhances us
With a warmth felt in the heart.

This love becomes a passageway,
When even the miles disappear.
And so, these friends, God sends our way,
Remain forever near.

Friends Forever

Friends are friends forever together 'till the end.
You promised me that you would always be my friend.
One day something changed I'm not sure what it was.
I lost you on that day and the reason was because
it was a late dark night and we had a stupid fight.
And for some reason, I don't know why, we couldn't make it right.

We went our separate ways.
This went on for days and days.
I made new friends and you made yours,
but that hole in my heart could not be filled for that hole was only yours.
Times got really tough,
my road of life was, oh, so rough.
I needed friends, not the kind you see from day to day,
but the kind that will always and forever stay.

Memories were all I had
and just the thought of them made me sad.
I cried every night wondering how to make it right.
I wish you could erase that day and that fight.
Would you please forgive me? I don't know where to start.
It hurts me so bad to have this hole in my heart!

I don't want our friendship to totally end.
I need you! You are my best friend!
So can we make a promise to stay together 'till the end?
A vow to each other to ALWAYS be BEST FRIENDS?

Forever Friends...

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.

Life Still Has A Meaning

If there is a future there is time for mending-
Time to see your troubles coming to an ending.
Life is never hopeless however great your sorrow-
If you're looking forward to a new tomorrow.
If there is time for wishing then there is time for hoping-
When through doubt and darkness you are blindly groping.
Though the heart be heavy and hurt you may be feeling-
If there is time for praying there is time for healing.

So if through your window there is a new day breaking-
Thank God for the promise, though mind and soul be aching,
If with harvest over there is grain enough for gleaning-
There is a new tomorrow and life still has meaning.


I knelt to pray but not for long,
I had too much to do.
I had to hurry and get to work
For bills would soon be due.

So I knelt and said a hurried prayer,
And jumped up off my knees.
My duty toward god was now done
My soul could rest at ease.

All day long I had no time
To spread a word of cheer.
No time to speak of God to friends,
They'd laugh at me I'd fear.

No time, no time, too much to do,
That was my constant cry,
No time to give to souls in need
But at last the time the time to die.
I went before the Lord,
I came, I stood with downcast eyes.
For in his hands God held a book;
It was the book of life.

God looked into his book and said
"Your name I cannot find.
I once was going to write it down...
But never found the time"

One day when u feel like crying....
call me. ! . ! . !
I dont promise that I will make u laugh,
but I can cry with u. If one day u want to
run away dont be afraid to call me.
I dont promise to ask u to stop......
but I can run with u.
If one day u dont want to listen to anyone.....call me.
I promise to be there for u
but also promise to remain quiet.
But one day if u call......
and there is no answer.....
come fast to see me.
Perhaps I need you.

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Good Friend

I thought you were my friend
That you would always be there
But now you’ve gone and left me
For some other friend somewhere
We had so many secrets
Some that nobody else knew
But now that you have left me
You’ve left those secrets too
Why did you find a new friend
I thought that I was your best
Now it feels like all my heart
Has died and gone to rest
I hope you have new memories
To share with your new friend
I just really want to know
Why our friendship came to an end
I guess now I’m finished
I’m done asking 'why'
But if this friendship is really over
Then why does it hurt to say goodbye?

IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."
There would have been more "I love you's." More "I'm sorry's."
But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute, look at it and really see it , live it and never give it back.

I Can't....

I can't promise I'll always be by your side
To give you a hug
But I will always be on the other side of a phone
I can't promise everything will be alright
Because sometimes I just don't know
But I will always do my best to make everything ok

I can't promise I can stop your tears
When they're falling so hard you could drown in them
But I can cry with you

I can't promise I can catch you
When you're falling so fast you're just a blur
But I can fall with you, and hold your hand when we crash

I can't promise I can help you out of your hole
Because the truth is I'm right down there with you
But I can try and ease your pain

I can't promise I can stop the voices
Because I can't even control them myself
But I can understand

I can't promise I can make you better
When you feel like you're not strong enough to go on
But I can be strong for you

I can't promise to give you a reason to live
When you feel like you can't take anymore
But if you let me, I can hold you as you slip into an eternal sleep

And I can't promise
That things will be ok soon
But I can promise that I love you

Now,
Forever,
And always.

A Friend

A friend is something special, it cannot be defined
To become as close as sisters, that’s very hard to find
I consider myself lucky since I found all this in you
Without you in my life, who knows what I may do

Throughout our years of friendship, you’ve always stuck by my side
Holding me in your arms as I just sat and cried
Through all the ups and downs,
From my smiles to my frowns
To see your face everyday
There is no price I wouldn’t pay

I know that no matter what happens we’ll be together until the end
Only for the very reason that you are my very best friend
And as we grow older we may go our separate ways,
But until the day I’m 99 I’ll think of you always

If ever we get into a fight and end things once and for all
Know that I’m by the phone just waiting for your call
As our days together shorten and our laughter comes to an end
Please do know this one thing, my very special friend

If there were something that you need, anything at all
Please pick up the phone and dial…never be afraid to call
I owe you so many things, though you may never know
Whenever I am with you, my face begins to glow

If there were something I could give you, this is what it would be
To be as good a friend to you as you have been to me
You are such a rare jewel that is so hard to find
Absolutely amazing…one of a kind

There are a mere ten words I must say before I am through
You are my best friend, thanks, and I love you.

*My BeSt FrIeNdS*

Sometimes you feel like you cant live without them,
Or sometimes, with them.
You can talk to them about everything and anything
Even if it's about your crush and they really dont wanna hear anymore,
About how cute so-and-so is
But they would never tell you to shut up (to an extent).
They care about you, do anything for you.
When you're excited,
They're excited.
When you're happy,
They're smiling right along with you.
When you're upset
They come prepared with a tissue box,
And chocolate,
Lots and lots of chocolate.
A best friend is someone you can rely on to tell you the truth,
Even if its the last thing you want to hear.
They are the only ones who can cheer you up
When you thought you thought you could never laugh again.
They can be goofy with you
no matter how weird the two of you may look.
They know what you are thinking and how you feel,
Even if you dont say a single word.
This person is like your other half
And it's these people who you shoud hold on to.

Who you should treasure with all of your heart.
Because they make life worth living.

The Friendship

There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.

Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. "There's one more thing," she said excitedly.

"What's that?" came the Pastor's reply.

"This is very important," the young woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand."

The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.

"That surprises you, doesn't it?" the young woman asked.

"Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the Pastor.

The young woman explained. "My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement. In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean overand say, 'Keep your fork.' It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance! 'So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder 'What's with the fork?'" Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork ..the best is yet to come."

The Pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, "What's with the fork?" And over and over he smiled. During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation hehad with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. He was right.

So the next time you reach down for your fork let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to opentheirhearts to us.Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them, even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to "Keep your fork." Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share ... being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND even if it means sending back to the person who sent it to you. And keep your fork.

Friend, Best Friend

Friend: calls your parents by mr. and mrs.
Best friend: calls your parents by their first names.

Friend: has never seen you cry
Best friend: has always had the best shoulder to cry on

Friend: never asks for anything to eat or drink
Best friend: opens the fridge and makes herself at home

Friend: asks you to write down your number.
Best friend: they ask you for their number
(cuz they can't remember it!)

Friend: borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
Best friend: has a closet full of your stuff

Friend: only knows a few things about you
Best friend: could write a biography on your life story

Friend: will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing
Best friend: will always go with you…

A Special freind

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you're down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times an dthe confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.

The Best Friendship

When we first talked to each other
I knew we would always be friends.
Our friendship has kept on growing
And I'll be here for you to the end.

You listen when I have a problem
And help dry the tears from my face.
You take away my sorrow
And put happiness in its place.

We can't forget the fun we've had
Laughing 'til our faces turn blue.
Talking of things only we find funny
People think we're insane-If they only knew!

I guess this is my way of saying thanks
For catching me when I fall.
Thanks once again for being such a good friend
And being here with me through it all.

A stranger stabs you in the front; a friend stabs you in the back; a boyfriend stabs you in the heart, but best friends only poke each other with straws.
A friend is someone who can see the truth and pain in you even when you are fooling everyone else.
It's the times we're so crazy,
that people think we're high.
It's the times we laugh so hard,
we can't help but cry.
It's all the inside jokes
and "remember whens".
those are all the reasons
that we're best friends!
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.
In Kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who counted the slowest for you when it was your turn at the water fountain.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-doing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan.

In fifth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In sixth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that is they said "no" you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who let you copy the Social Studies homework from the night before that you had.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball stuff, but didn't laugh when you finished and burst into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would still have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, counseled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get in, and helped you deal with your parents who where having a hard time adjusting to letting you go.

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside, but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you on all you had achieved.

The summer after graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now you and Nick or Susan were back together you could make it through anything. Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through misty eyes back at 18 years of memories you where going to leave behind. Finally, on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had the past 18 years, and most importantly, sent you off knowing you were loved.

Now your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you’re scared, helps you fight off those who try to bring you down, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understand when you need to hold onto it for just a bit longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, and most of all, lets you know that you will always be loved.
Never explain yourself. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it.
There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will.

Cancer

The Uterus
The uterus is part of a woman's reproductive system. It is the hollow, pear-shaped organ where a baby grows. The uterus is in the pelvis between the bladder and the rectum.
The narrow, lower portion of the uterus is the cervix. The broad, middle part of the uterus is the body, or corpus. The dome-shaped top of the uterus is the fundus. The fallopian tubes extend from either side of the top of the uterus to the ovaries.

The wall of the uterus has two layers of tissue. The inner layer, or lining, is the endometrium. The outer layer is muscle tissue called the myometrium.
In women of childbearing age, the lining of the uterus grows and thickens each month to prepare for pregnancy. If a woman does not become pregnant, the thick, bloody lining flows out of the body through the vagina. This flow is called menstruation.

Understanding Cancer
Cancer is a group of many related diseases. All cancers begin in cells, the body's basic unit of life. Cells make up tissues, and tissues make up the organs of the body.
Normally, cells grow and divide to form new cells as the body needs them. When cells grow old and die, new cells take their place.
Sometimes this orderly process goes wrong. New cells form when the body does not need them, and old cells do not die when they should. These extra cells can form a mass of tissue called a growth or tumor.
Tumors can be benign or malignant:
Benign tumors are not cancer. Usually, doctors can remove them. Cells from benign tumors do not spread to other parts of the body. In most cases, benign tumors do not come back after they are removed. Most important, benign tumors are rarely a threat to life.
Benign Conditions of the Uterus
Fibroids are common benign tumors that grow in the muscle of the uterus. They occur mainly in women in their forties. Women may have many fibroids at the same time. Fibroids do not develop into cancer. As a woman reaches menopause, fibroids are likely to become smaller, and sometimes they disappear.
Usually, fibroids cause no symptoms and need no treatment. But depending on their size and location, fibroids can cause bleeding, vaginal discharge, and frequent urination. Women with these symptoms should see a doctor. If fibroids cause heavy bleeding, or if they press against nearby organs and cause pain, the doctor may suggest surgery or other treatment.
Endometriosis is another benign condition that affects the uterus. It is most common in women in their thirties and forties, especially in women who have never been pregnant. It occurs when endometrial tissue begins to grow on the outside of the uterus and on nearby organs. This condition may cause painful menstrual periods, abnormal vaginal bleeding, and sometimes loss of fertility (ability to get pregnant), but it does not cause cancer. Women with endometriosis may be treated with hormones or surgery.
Endometrial hyperplasia is an increase in the number of cells in the lining of the uterus. It is not cancer. Sometimes it develops into cancer. Heavy menstrual periods, bleeding between periods, and bleeding after menopause are common symptoms of hyperplasia. It is most common after age 40.
To prevent endometrial hyperplasia from developing into cancer, the doctor may recommend surgery to remove the uterus (hysterectomy) or treatment with hormones (progesterone) and regular followup exams.
Malignant tumors are cancer. They are generally more serious and may be life threatening. Cancer cells can invade and damage nearby tissues and organs. Also, cancer cells can break away from a malignant tumor and enter the bloodstream or lymphatic system. That is how cancer cells spread from the original (primary) tumor to form new tumors in other organs. The spread of cancer is called metastasis.
When uterine cancer spreads (metastasizes) outside the uterus, cancer cells are often found in nearby lymph nodes, nerves, or blood vessels. If the cancer has reached the lymph nodes, cancer cells may have spread to other lymph nodes and other organs, such as the lungs, liver, and bones.
When cancer spreads from its original place to another part of the body, the new tumor has the same kind of abnormal cells and the same name as the primary tumor. For example, if cancer of the uterus spreads to the lungs, the cancer cells in the lungs are actually uterine cancer cells. The disease is metastatic uterine cancer, not lung cancer. It is treated as uterine cancer, not lung cancer. Doctors sometimes call the new tumor "distant" disease.
The most common type of cancer of the uterus begins in the lining (endometrium). It is called endometrial cancer, uterine cancer, or cancer of the uterus. In this booklet, we will use the terms uterine cancer or cancer of the uterus to refer to cancer that begins in the endometrium.
A different type of cancer, uterine sarcoma, develops in the muscle (myometrium). Cancer that begins in the cervix is also a different type of cancer.

Uterine Cancer: Who's at Risk
No one knows the exact causes of uterine cancer. However, it is clear that this disease is not contagious. No one can "catch" cancer from another person.
Women who get this disease are more likely than other women to have certain risk factors. They are:
Age. Cancer of the uterus occurs mostly in women over age 50.
Endometrial hyperplasia. The risk of uterine cancer is higher if a woman has endometrial hyperplasia. This condition and its treatment are described above.
Hormone replacement therapy (HRT). HRT is used to control the symptoms of menopause, to prevent osteoporosis (thinning of the bones), and to reduce the risk of heart disease or stroke.
Obesity and related conditions. The body makes some of its estrogen in fatty tissue. That's why obese women are more likely than thin women to have higher levels of estrogen in their bodies. High levels of estrogen may be the reason that obese women have an increased risk of developing uterine cancer. The risk of this disease is also higher in women with diabetes or high blood pressure (conditions that occur in many obese women).
Tamoxifen. Women taking the drug tamoxifen to prevent or treat breast cancer have an increased risk of uterine cancer. This risk appears to be related to the estrogen-like effect of this drug on the uterus.
Race. White women are more likely than African-American women to get uterine cancer.
Colorectal cancer. Women who have had an inherited form of colorectal cancer have a higher risk of developing uterine cancer than other women.
Other risk factors are related to how long a woman's body is exposed to estrogen. Women who have no children, begin menstruation at a very young age, or enter menopause late in life are exposed to estrogen longer and have a higher risk.
Women with known risk factors and those who are concerned about uterine cancer should ask their doctor about the symptoms to watch for and how often to have checkups. The doctor's advice will be based on the woman's age, medical history, and other factors.

Recognizing Symptoms
Uterine cancer usually occurs after menopause. But it may also occur around the time that menopause begins. Abnormal vaginal bleeding is the most common symptom of uterine cancer. Bleeding may start as a watery, blood-streaked flow that gradually contains more blood. Women should not assume that abnormal vaginal bleeding is part of menopause.
A woman should see her doctor if she has any of the following symptoms:
Unusual vaginal bleeding or discharge
Difficult or painful urination
Pain during intercourse
Pain in the pelvic area
These symptoms can be caused by cancer or other less serious conditions. Most often they are not cancer, but only a doctor can tell for sure.

Diagnosis
If a woman has symptoms that suggest uterine cancer, her doctor may check general signs of health and may order blood and urine tests. The doctor also may perform one or more of the exams or tests described on the next pages.
Pelvic exam -- A woman has a pelvic exam to check the vagina, uterus, bladder, and rectum. The doctor feels these organs for any lumps or changes in their shape or size. To see the upper part of the vagina and the cervix, the doctor inserts an instrument called a speculum into the vagina.
Pap test -- The doctor collects cells from the cervix and upper vagina. A medical laboratory checks for abnormal cells. Although the Pap test can detect cancer of the cervix, cells from inside the uterus usually do not show up on a Pap test. This is why the doctor collects samples of cells from inside the uterus in a procedure called a biopsy.
Transvaginal ultrasound -- The doctor inserts an instrument into the vagina. The instrument aims high-frequency sound waves at the uterus. The pattern of the echoes they produce creates a picture. If the endometrium looks too thick, the doctor can do a biopsy.
Biopsy -- The doctor removes a sample of tissue from the uterine lining. This usually can be done in the doctor's office. In some cases, however, a woman may need to have a dilation and curettage (D&C). A D&C is usually done as same-day surgery with anesthesia in a hospital. A pathologist examines the tissue to check for cancer cells, hyperplasia, and other conditions. For a short time after the biopsy, some women have cramps and vaginal bleeding.

Staging
If uterine cancer is diagnosed, the doctor needs to know the stage, or extent, of the disease to plan the best treatment. Staging is a careful attempt to find out whether the cancer has spread, and if so, to what parts of the body.
The doctor may order blood and urine tests and chest x-rays. The woman also may have other x-rays, CT scans, an ultrasound test, magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), sigmoidoscopy, or colonoscopy.
In most cases, the most reliable way to stage this disease is to remove the uterus (hysterectomy). (The description of surgery in the "Methods of Treatment" section has more information.) After the uterus has been removed, the surgeon can look for obvious signs that the cancer has invaded the muscle of the uterus. The surgeon also can check the lymph nodes and other organs in the pelvic area for signs of cancer. A pathologist uses a microscope to examine the uterus and other tissues removed by the surgeon.
These are the main features of each stage of the disease:
Stage I -- The cancer is only in the body of the uterus. It is not in the cervix.
Stage II -- The cancer has spread from the body of the uterus to the cervix.
Stage III -- The cancer has spread outside the uterus, but not outside the pelvis (and not to the bladder or rectum). Lymph nodes in the pelvis may contain cancer cells.
Stage IV -- The cancer has spread into the bladder or rectum. Or it has spread beyond the pelvis to other body parts.

Treatment for Uterine Cancer
Women with uterine cancer have many treatment options. Most women with uterine cancer are treated with surgery. Some have radiation therapy. A smaller number of women may be treated with hormonal therapy. Some patients receive a combination of therapies.
Most women with uterine cancer have surgery to remove the uterus (hysterectomy) through an incision in the abdomen. The doctor also removes both fallopian tubes and both ovaries. (This procedure is called a bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy.)
The doctor may also remove the lymph nodes near the tumor to see if they contain cancer. If cancer cells have reached the lymph nodes, it may mean that the disease has spread to other parts of the body. The length of the hospital stay may vary from several days to a week.
In radiation therapy, high-energy rays are used to kill cancer cells. Like surgery, radiation therapy is a local therapy. It affects cancer cells only in the treated area.
Some women with Stage I, II, or III uterine cancer need both radiation therapy and surgery. They may have radiation before surgery to shrink the tumor or after surgery to destroy any cancer cells that remain in the area. Also, the doctor may suggest radiation treatments for the small number of women who cannot have surgery.
Doctors use two types of radiation therapy to treat uterine cancer:
External radiation: In external radiation therapy, a large machine outside the body is used to aim radiation at the tumor area. The woman is usually an outpatient in a hospital or clinic and receives external radiation 5 days a week for several weeks. This schedule helps protect healthy cells and tissue by spreading out the total dose of radiation. No radioactive materials are put into the body for external radiation therapy.
Internal radiation: In internal radiation therapy, tiny tubes containing a radioactive substance are inserted through the vagina and left in place for a few days. The woman stays in the hospital during this treatment. To protect others from radiation exposure, the patient may not be able to have visitors or may have visitors only for a short period of time while the implant is in place. Once the implant is removed, the woman has no radioactivity in her body.
Some patients need both external and internal radiation therapies.
Hormonal therapy involves substances that prevent cancer cells from getting or using the hormones they may need to grow. Hormones can attach to hormone receptors, causing changes in uterine tissue. Before therapy begins, the doctor may request a hormone receptor test. This special lab test of uterine tissue helps the doctor learn if estrogen and progesterone receptors are present. If the tissue has receptors, the woman is more likely to respond to hormonal therapy.
Hormonal therapy is called a systemic therapy because it can affect cancer cells throughout the body. Usually, hormonal therapy is a type of progesterone taken as a pill.
The doctor may use hormonal therapy for women with uterine cancer who are unable to have surgery or radiation therapy. Also, the doctor may give hormonal therapy to women with uterine cancer that has spread to the lungs or other distant sites. It is also given to women with uterine cancer that has come back.

Side Effects of Cancer Treatment
Because cancer treatment may damage healthy cells and tissues, unwanted side effects sometimes occur. These side effects depend on many factors, including the type and extent of the treatment. Side effects may not be the same for each person, and they may even change from one treatment session to the next. Before treatment starts, doctors and nurses will explain the possible side effects and how they will help you manage them.
Surgery
After a hysterectomy, women usually have some pain and feel extremely tired. Most women return to their normal activities within 4 to 8 weeks after surgery. Some may need more time than that.
Some women may have problems with nausea and vomiting after surgery, and some may have bladder and bowel problems. The doctor may restrict the woman's diet to liquids at first, with a gradual return to solid food.
Women who have had a hysterectomy no longer have menstrual periods and can no longer get pregnant. When the ovaries are removed, menopause occurs at once. Hot flashes and other symptoms of menopause caused by surgery may be more severe than those caused by natural menopause. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is often given to women who have not had uterine cancer to relieve these problems. However, doctors usually do not give the hormone estrogen to women who have had uterine cancer. Because estrogen is a risk factor for this disease (see "Uterine Cancer: Who's at Risk?"), many doctors are concerned that estrogen may cause uterine cancer to return. Other doctors point out that there is no scientific evidence that estrogen increases the risk that cancer will come back. NCI is sponsoring a large research study to learn whether women who have had early stage uterine cancer can take estrogen safely.
For some women, a hysterectomy can affect sexual intimacy. A woman may have feelings of loss that may make intimacy difficult. Sharing these feelings with her partner may be helpful.
Radiation Therapy
The side effects of radiation therapy depend mainly on the treatment dose and the part of the body that is treated. Common side effects of radiation include dry, reddened skin and hair loss in the treated area, loss of appetite, and extreme tiredness. Some women may have dryness, itching, tightening, and burning in the vagina. Radiation also may cause diarrhea or frequent and uncomfortable urination. It may reduce the number of white blood cells, which help protect the body against infection.
Doctors may advise their patients not to have intercourse during radiation therapy. However, most can resume sexual activity within a few weeks after treatment ends. The doctor or nurse may suggest ways to relieve any vaginal discomfort related to treatment.
Hormonal Therapy
Hormonal therapy can cause a number of side effects. Women taking progesterone may retain fluid, have an increased appetite, and gain weight. Women who are still menstruating may have changes in their periods.

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This is without a doubt one of the nicest good luck forwards I have received. I hope it works for you -- and me!

Lotus Touts: You have 6 minutes

There's some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you're not superstitious. This Lotus Touts has been sent to you for good luck from the Anthony Robbins organization. It has been sent around the world ten times so far.

Do not keep this message.

The Lotus Touts must leave your hands in 6 MINUTES. Otherwise you will get a very unpleasant surprise. This is true, even if you are not superstitious, agnostic, or otherwise faith impaired.

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

A FRIEND

Many people will walk in and out of your life.
But only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.
To handle yourself, use your head;
To handle others, use your heart.



Friends


Anger is only one letter short of danger
If someone betrays you once, it is his fault;
If he betrays you twice, it is your fault.

Great minds discuss ideas;
Average minds discuss events;
Small minds discuss people.

He, who loses money, loses much;
He, who loses a friend, loses much more;
He, who loses faith, loses all.

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature,
But beautiful old people are works of art.

Learn from the mistakes of others
You can’t live long enough to make them all
yourself.

Friends, you and me…
You brought another friend…
And then there were 3…
We started our group…
Our circle of friends…
And like that circle…
There is no beginning or end…

Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is a gift.
That is why it is called the present.


Show your friends how much you care…
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND.
If it comes back to you, then you’ll know you
have a circle of friends.



When you receive this letter,
I recommend that you send it to all your friends,
including the person who sent it to you!

You don’t have to send it to your friends, it’s your choice.
I don’t want to force you to do it, but trust me;
it’s always good to tell your friends
some nice words now and then
and that you care…

(-: Don’t make them disappointed!

When best friends make perfect lovers

It is one of the most hotly debated questions about relationships, famously posed in the film When Harry Met Sally: can men and women be just good friends?

According to the neurotic Sally, played by Meg Ryan, they can, but Billy Crystal's Harry insists that platonic friendships are doomed because physical attraction always interferes. "Men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way," he says when they first meet.

But a survey shatters Harry's cynicism by suggesting that friends who become lovers can maintain their friendship even if the sexual relationship breaks down.

The website Friends Reunited polled 2,000 people and found that only a third of friendships ended as a result of friends becoming lovers.

More than eight in 10 of those questioned admitted that they were aware of the so-called "Harry met Sally syndrome" and feared that having sex with a friend would ruin the friendship.

However, of those who had close friends of the opposite sex, 56 per cent of women and 65 per cent of men said they had considered taking the friendship to another level. And of the seven in 10 people who did, only a third said sex had destroyed the friendship.

A third said they were still in the relationship and a third had returned to being good friends.

"If one of your closest friends is a member of the opposite sex and available, and you are looking for a partner, then this does seem the obvious place to start," said Rhoda Moore, head of the website's dating division.

"It's just as likely that if it doesn't work out, you'll go back to just being friends. Best-friend dating makes sense because deep friendship is at the core of any longlasting romantic relationship."

Asked why they had not dated a best friend, half of women said it was because they "just didn't fancy him" and a fifth said they feared it would destroy the friendship. Around a third of men and women shied away from romance with a best friend because "we just know each other too well".

Experts remain divided over whether men and women can ever be just good friends. Susan Quilliam, a relationship psychologist, said she believed that friendship was an excellent foundation for a long-lasting relationship.

"Friends have common values and relationships work if they are built on common values," she said. "The problem is that many people get together on the basis of chemical attraction alone.

"Once the sex 'kicks out', they don't have anything left to maintain a friendship."

But Peter Spalton, who runs workshops on dating, said platonic friendships were possible only if both sides did not want to take the relationship further.

"If one person fancies the other, then the friendship is doomed," he said. "Once someone has made a pass, the whole thing becomes difficult and very awkward."

NICE BOOK

he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out
/ an excuse is a polite rejection. men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship"
/ don't get tricked into asking him out. if he likes you, he'll do the asking
/ if you can find him, then he can find you. if he wants to find you, he will
/ just because you like to lead doesn't mean he wants to dance. some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.
/ "hey, let's meet at so-and-so's party/any bar/friend's house" is not a date. even if you live in new york.
/ men don't forget how much they like you. so put down the phone.
/ you are good enough to be asked out.

he's just not that into you if he's not calling you
men know how to use the phone
/ if he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind.
/ if he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. be aware of this and realize that he's okay with disappointing you.
/ don't be with someone who doesn't do what they say they're going to do.
/ if he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
/ "busy" is another word for "asshole." "asshole" is another word for the guy you're dating.
/ you deserve a freaking phone call.

he's just not that into you if he's not dating you
"hanging out" is not dating
/ guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen or believe them. "i don't want to be in a serious relationship" truly means "i don't want to be in a serious relationship with you" or "i'm not sure that you're the one." (sorry)
/ better than nothing is not good enough for you!
/ if you don't know where the relationship is going, it's okay to pull over and ask.
/ murky? not good.
/ there's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. quit goofing around and go find him!

he's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else
there's never going to be a good excuse for cheating
/ there is no excuse for cheating let me say it again. there is no excuse for cheating. now you say it. there is no excuse for cheating.
/ your only responsibility;ity in someone else's lapse in judgment is to yourself.
/ cheating is cheating. it doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened.
/ cheating gets easier every time it's done. it's only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone's trust.
/ cheaters never prosper.
/ a cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn't get to be with you.

he's just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he's drunk
if he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgment isn't impaired
/ it doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. an "i love you" (or any semblance thereof) while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won't hold up in court or in life.
/ drinking and drug use are not a path to one's innermost feelings. otherwise people wouldn't smash empty beer cans against their skulls or stick their fingers in fire to see if they can feel anything.
/ if he only wants to see you, talk to you, etc., when he's inebriated, it ain't love---it's sport.
/ bad boys are actually bad.
/you deserve to be with someone who doesn't have to get loaded to be around you.

he's just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you
love cures commitment-phobia
/ "doesn't want to get married" and "doesn't want to get married to me" are very different things. be sure about which category he falls under.
/ if you have different views about marriage, what else are you not on the same page about? time to take inventory.
/ if you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting?
/ there's a guy out there who wants to marry you.

he's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you
"i don't want to go out with you" means just that
/ you can't talk your way out of a breakup. it is not up for discussion. a breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one.
/ he doesn't need to be reminded that you're great.
/ there's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

he's just not that into you if he's disappeared on you
sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself.
/ he might be lying in the hospital with amnesia, but more likely he's just not that into you.
/ no answer is your answer.
/ don't give him the chance to reject you again.
/ let his mother yell at him. you're too busy.
/ he wasn't good enough for you.

he's just not that into you if he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak
if you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy
/ life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
/ you deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.
/ you already have one asshole. you don't need another.
make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve.
/ have faith. what other choice is there?