where did it all go wrong?

I was drawn into a heated discussion with Dot this week. We discussed the never ending issue of heartbreak. We talked about this before, but it decided to resurface again. How does heartbreak differ between different relationship situations? The situations we saw were, 1) Jumping into a relationship without knowing a person first and 2) falling in love or jumping into a relationship with a close friend. I wanted to know how did getting over these relationship breakups differ?
I’ve had all sorts of relationships, some weird and some which felt like I had found the one, and I’ve also fallen in love. When I broke up from a relationship with a guy or girl who I didn’t really know completely about the period of heartbreak was only short. It took only about a week to 2-3 months to get over. When I was in a serious relationship with a person who was once a close friend and we broke up, it took me a year to get over it and to be able to talk to that person again. Still now I hold a tiny grudge against that relationship. Then I fell in love with someone I couldn’t have. Someone who I knew and just admired.
In most short-term relationship we get over them pretty well. The hardest relationship breakups to get over though are the ones where we’ve poured our whole heart and soul into it. Not only were you just holding each other in a relationship, but you’re also each others bestfriend. When things go wrong though you feel betrayed. Friendship is hard to hold onto after a breakup because you just focus too much on the hurt. Unless you had a ‘real’ mutual breakup then it’d be easier to handle. The heart works in mysterious ways.
Falling in love and getting over that person after being rejected though is another story. You try to do whatever’s best for the situation. Sometimes you see things which cause you to be confused. You prioritise what is important, having a relationship with this person? or maintaining a healthy friendship? Then you think everything is right now, until change suddenly happens after commiting yourself to maintaining that friendship. I have felt betrayal, I have felt left out. Sometimes the obsessiong can turn into hate. So I try to express myself in ways which don’t harm me. As an artsy person I express my feelings through my music or scribbles. I also try not to put myself in situations where i’m aggravated by thoughts.
There are no real answers to heartbreak. All I did was a slight comparison in my own opinion. People see things and experience things differently. I guess it just takes a few burns before we find the right partner or the right friend.
God bless & Peace out