I was drawn into a heated discussion with Dot this week. We discussed the never ending issue of heartbreak. We talked about this before, but it decided to resurface again. How does heartbreak differ between different relationship situations? The situations we saw were, 1) Jumping into a relationship without knowing a person first and 2) falling in love or jumping into a relationship with a close friend. I wanted to know how did getting over these relationship breakups differ?
I’ve had all sorts of relationships, some weird and some which felt like I had found the one, and I’ve also fallen in love. When I broke up from a relationship with a guy or girl who I didn’t really know completely about the period of heartbreak was only short. It took only about a week to 2-3 months to get over. When I was in a serious relationship with a person who was once a close friend and we broke up, it took me a year to get over it and to be able to talk to that person again. Still now I hold a tiny grudge against that relationship. Then I fell in love with someone I couldn’t have. Someone who I knew and just admired.
In most short-term relationship we get over them pretty well. The hardest relationship breakups to get over though are the ones where we’ve poured our whole heart and soul into it. Not only were you just holding each other in a relationship, but you’re also each others bestfriend. When things go wrong though you feel betrayed. Friendship is hard to hold onto after a breakup because you just focus too much on the hurt. Unless you had a ‘real’ mutual breakup then it’d be easier to handle. The heart works in mysterious ways.
Falling in love and getting over that person after being rejected though is another story. You try to do whatever’s best for the situation. Sometimes you see things which cause you to be confused. You prioritise what is important, having a relationship with this person? or maintaining a healthy friendship? Then you think everything is right now, until change suddenly happens after commiting yourself to maintaining that friendship. I have felt betrayal, I have felt left out. Sometimes the obsessiong can turn into hate. So I try to express myself in ways which don’t harm me. As an artsy person I express my feelings through my music or scribbles. I also try not to put myself in situations where i’m aggravated by thoughts.
There are no real answers to heartbreak. All I did was a slight comparison in my own opinion. People see things and experience things differently. I guess it just takes a few burns before we find the right partner or the right friend.
God bless & Peace out
Thursday, December 27, 2007
pinkie promise…
I haven’t touched this Wordpress in ages. It’s time I updated with a brief look on my thoughts about ‘Promises.’
Making promises.We’ll always say that we’d keep them but somehow our tongue always slips or we just simply forget we made them. To be honest, i for one do not like to keep promises. I’m a very forgetful person and so therefore when a person asks me to do something for them I only say, “I’ll try, but I can’t promise.” Making promises sometimes puts us into a lot of trouble. Sometimes we get hurt when a promise isn’t kept.
She what?! He what?! Forgot their promise with you, broke it? It hurts. Yes it hurts. I see making promises a way of putting candy floss, cushions, clouds and other sweet things ontop a mountain of selfishness. To me a promise is like the sugar ontop. It’s a sign of ownage. You make someone promise, that is a sign of power. I don’t want promises, i want to be certain that what I ask for is done now. But if you see a task that is hard to do yet you force a person to promise on it, please don’t complain you’re hurt. If they promised to buy you something understand their circumstances, maybe they’re just making you wait so that yo appreciate things more. If it is something serious that tears you apart, pulls your heart out and throws it against the wall, then obviously who’s fault is it? You own for trusting this person. There you learn your mistakes.
“Oh…oops sorry I forgot about that.” The line that we wish will never leave our lips. I put my hands up to forgetting things i’ve promised to people. They get angry with you and if it’s something really important, like a close friend’s engagement party, then they don’t talk to you for a long time (lucky for me that engagement broke up, i saw the end of it coming). The only way to squeeze our way out of these problems. Think before you speak. We make promises to the people we love, but sometimes (because we’re all human!) we forget. If you’re sure you’re going to keep the promise freaking stick post-its everywhere to remind yourself (like me). If it’s a promise meant to be kept secret well my strategy? “Oh it’ll stay a secret if you want to tell me because I forget.” Most secrets i’ve sworn not to telling are all forgotten and are only triggered by things that remind me about it. Sometimes i’d forget it for about a year, then something will spark me to remember it. But still avoid making hard-to-do promises. If you’re really sure about it then make that promise, if not, just take my line, “I’ll will or will not, I can’t make it a promise.” It should be understandable, unless the person is everly selfish and wants you to be owned by them. That is called PAWNAGE! Don’t become his/her bitch! Think before you speak, that is something extremely valuable to me.
Promises, promises, promises. If you can’t keep them then don’t make them. If they can’t keep them, then don’t tell them. Learn to contemplate promises. Promises can draw people together, but remember, the hurt that sometimes comes from broken promises can tear people apart. You just have to understand that not all promises can be kept, just like how people like to say, “rules were made to be broken.” *sigh* how I love cliches.
Making promises.We’ll always say that we’d keep them but somehow our tongue always slips or we just simply forget we made them. To be honest, i for one do not like to keep promises. I’m a very forgetful person and so therefore when a person asks me to do something for them I only say, “I’ll try, but I can’t promise.” Making promises sometimes puts us into a lot of trouble. Sometimes we get hurt when a promise isn’t kept.
She what?! He what?! Forgot their promise with you, broke it? It hurts. Yes it hurts. I see making promises a way of putting candy floss, cushions, clouds and other sweet things ontop a mountain of selfishness. To me a promise is like the sugar ontop. It’s a sign of ownage. You make someone promise, that is a sign of power. I don’t want promises, i want to be certain that what I ask for is done now. But if you see a task that is hard to do yet you force a person to promise on it, please don’t complain you’re hurt. If they promised to buy you something understand their circumstances, maybe they’re just making you wait so that yo appreciate things more. If it is something serious that tears you apart, pulls your heart out and throws it against the wall, then obviously who’s fault is it? You own for trusting this person. There you learn your mistakes.
“Oh…oops sorry I forgot about that.” The line that we wish will never leave our lips. I put my hands up to forgetting things i’ve promised to people. They get angry with you and if it’s something really important, like a close friend’s engagement party, then they don’t talk to you for a long time (lucky for me that engagement broke up, i saw the end of it coming). The only way to squeeze our way out of these problems. Think before you speak. We make promises to the people we love, but sometimes (because we’re all human!) we forget. If you’re sure you’re going to keep the promise freaking stick post-its everywhere to remind yourself (like me). If it’s a promise meant to be kept secret well my strategy? “Oh it’ll stay a secret if you want to tell me because I forget.” Most secrets i’ve sworn not to telling are all forgotten and are only triggered by things that remind me about it. Sometimes i’d forget it for about a year, then something will spark me to remember it. But still avoid making hard-to-do promises. If you’re really sure about it then make that promise, if not, just take my line, “I’ll will or will not, I can’t make it a promise.” It should be understandable, unless the person is everly selfish and wants you to be owned by them. That is called PAWNAGE! Don’t become his/her bitch! Think before you speak, that is something extremely valuable to me.
Promises, promises, promises. If you can’t keep them then don’t make them. If they can’t keep them, then don’t tell them. Learn to contemplate promises. Promises can draw people together, but remember, the hurt that sometimes comes from broken promises can tear people apart. You just have to understand that not all promises can be kept, just like how people like to say, “rules were made to be broken.” *sigh* how I love cliches.
Monday, December 17, 2007
why only now?…
We can have very strong feelings for people, but it doesn't mean we should act on it. There will always be struggles between the heart and mind. For myself, i'm a person who tends to follow her heart, a lot. Then there are times when I need to think logically. Yet again i'm notorious for not thinking before I speak or act.
Feelings are hard to get rid off, but be reminded, feelings don't always last. What the heart wants isn't always what the mind wants. Still we keep thinking about these feelings, breaking them down and looking at them over again. sometimes it hurts other times we look at them blankly. Feelings, emotions, can really screw around with your perception though. It can cause you to lose focus on goals in your life.
People sacrifice a lot of things to follow their heart. The outcome can either be good or bad. I guess this is why we put a lot of thoughts in our feelings. It's hard to tell the difference between love and lust. Like in my previous post about finding "the one." How do you know? How can you tell? What is it that you're meant to feel when you find them? There's just too many questions to ask. How can you trust what you're feeling right now? Have you noticed how we don't really choose carefully who we fall in love with, yet we take our time to carefully choose our enemies? Love, is unpredictable.
Currently i'm raged by a million thoughts which I thought I had forgotten. Really I don't want them in my mind, but they are there. I can keep denying it to myself, I can distract myself, but they will always float back. My body isn't handling it well. There's so many thoughts which I wish I could just tell to go away. My mind is in a jumble, my heart is yelling out insults and pulling rude gestures at it. My "feelings" are extremely strong. I've tried everything possible to suppress them, but they've always been there. Really I just wish I could die, but it's pretty much craziness. The only question I can ask myself is, "Why?"
As strong as feelings can be we have to have the right reasons to make the right decisions. The mind and heart are like split entities. They like to argue with each other and sometimes they like to agree with one another. So it's confusing when you want to act on your heart's desires, but your brain is screaming "NO" at you.
God Bless & Peace Out!
Feelings are hard to get rid off, but be reminded, feelings don't always last. What the heart wants isn't always what the mind wants. Still we keep thinking about these feelings, breaking them down and looking at them over again. sometimes it hurts other times we look at them blankly. Feelings, emotions, can really screw around with your perception though. It can cause you to lose focus on goals in your life.
People sacrifice a lot of things to follow their heart. The outcome can either be good or bad. I guess this is why we put a lot of thoughts in our feelings. It's hard to tell the difference between love and lust. Like in my previous post about finding "the one." How do you know? How can you tell? What is it that you're meant to feel when you find them? There's just too many questions to ask. How can you trust what you're feeling right now? Have you noticed how we don't really choose carefully who we fall in love with, yet we take our time to carefully choose our enemies? Love, is unpredictable.
Currently i'm raged by a million thoughts which I thought I had forgotten. Really I don't want them in my mind, but they are there. I can keep denying it to myself, I can distract myself, but they will always float back. My body isn't handling it well. There's so many thoughts which I wish I could just tell to go away. My mind is in a jumble, my heart is yelling out insults and pulling rude gestures at it. My "feelings" are extremely strong. I've tried everything possible to suppress them, but they've always been there. Really I just wish I could die, but it's pretty much craziness. The only question I can ask myself is, "Why?"
As strong as feelings can be we have to have the right reasons to make the right decisions. The mind and heart are like split entities. They like to argue with each other and sometimes they like to agree with one another. So it's confusing when you want to act on your heart's desires, but your brain is screaming "NO" at you.
God Bless & Peace Out!
heal over…
It’s a strange feeling when you smile even though life is really tough. It’s also a greater feeling when you know your heart has been healed. The only reason why we can’t get over heartbreak and pain is because we don’t allow ourselves to. It’ll heal naturally, but sometimes we unconsciously tear it open again. The truth though is, the remedy to heartbreak is within yourself to find it and allow it to heal.
The things we do to “get over it” are only short term because eventually the thoughts cross back into your mind. For now I can only scratch the surface about being healed. I’ve found something great, and to be honest i’ve never felt as much joy in my heart. It feels great to look at a person and just smile. It’s awesome to wake up knowing that a heartbreak doesn’t mean the end of life. Sometimes we get so dilusional about finding the one in our lives we hold so fast to it. Our minds go crazy and we no longer think properly. Be a little logical, if you were to find “the one” would they cause you hurt in the first place? Would they tear your heart out, throw it on the floor and compromise everything they’ve said and done? I think not, and maybe mutual decisions were for the greater good. To some of us, maybe we really need to re-examine ourselves. How do you know what true love isif you haven’t being burned more than once? Some people find it without having to go through past failures. Eventually though, things will fall into place and something deep inside you will tell you that you’ve made the right choice.
My joy is unexplainable. For a long time I was heavy-hearted but I can now feel a heavy burden lifted off my chest. Where did I find my remedy? Well that’s for you to ask, and for you to find. I can only speak how I feel and if you wish to know I will point you in that direction. If you don’t like that decision it is your loss. I’m not only smiling because of a broken heart, but i’m also smiling because I have found my strength and inspiration again. There are decisions in life A) and B). We can’t choose both nor can we leave it for too long to answer. Sometimes decisions are made too late and the consequences can never be changed back.
God bless & peace out...
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The things we do to “get over it” are only short term because eventually the thoughts cross back into your mind. For now I can only scratch the surface about being healed. I’ve found something great, and to be honest i’ve never felt as much joy in my heart. It feels great to look at a person and just smile. It’s awesome to wake up knowing that a heartbreak doesn’t mean the end of life. Sometimes we get so dilusional about finding the one in our lives we hold so fast to it. Our minds go crazy and we no longer think properly. Be a little logical, if you were to find “the one” would they cause you hurt in the first place? Would they tear your heart out, throw it on the floor and compromise everything they’ve said and done? I think not, and maybe mutual decisions were for the greater good. To some of us, maybe we really need to re-examine ourselves. How do you know what true love isif you haven’t being burned more than once? Some people find it without having to go through past failures. Eventually though, things will fall into place and something deep inside you will tell you that you’ve made the right choice.
My joy is unexplainable. For a long time I was heavy-hearted but I can now feel a heavy burden lifted off my chest. Where did I find my remedy? Well that’s for you to ask, and for you to find. I can only speak how I feel and if you wish to know I will point you in that direction. If you don’t like that decision it is your loss. I’m not only smiling because of a broken heart, but i’m also smiling because I have found my strength and inspiration again. There are decisions in life A) and B). We can’t choose both nor can we leave it for too long to answer. Sometimes decisions are made too late and the consequences can never be changed back.
God bless & peace out...
I’ve recently realised that some people are actually coming across this journal by searching my actual name. It’s a little freaky because nobody leaves comments either. Feedback to any of my posts though is encouraged.
Saturday, December 15, 2007
how far apart…
How long does it take you to realise that a person means everything to you? Sometimes we take it for granted because the person is always there. It isn’t until that they are gone we realise how much they mean to our heart. I say this because, it doesn’t just happen between lovers, but in all degrees of relationships.
The same old jokes will make you laugh and reminicing about the past will make you cry. When you find a special person in your life you treasure them just like you treasured your very first toy. Friendship isn’t always easy to hold fast to because people are forever changing. Also sometimes we carelessly choose our friends. Have you noticed how we take more time to choose our enemies than we do to choose our friends? Sometimes we dwell upon the thought of our enemies that it turns into an obsession and then that obsession can also turn into love. Pretty crazy isn’t it? There are also different types of friends you can find. Those who are close, but not too close, those who only know you by what they see, and those who are literally like a sister/brother to you.
Why am I discussing this topic? My reason is that recently a lot of ‘old’ friends have started contacting me again. It’s strange, but sweet at the same time. A lot of them I stopped talking to after graduating from highschool and only saw them at random parties or around the city. All of them though have left a small impression in my life.
The friends I have now I care for very much. My bestfriend means a lot to me too, but during that process of friendship was a lot of confusion and pain going through my heart. I only have my faith to thank for seeing me through because I suddenly realised why she meant so much to me. You realise that someone means so much to you when your hearts are apart. You feel a sense of emptiness and longing to at least hear that person’s voice again. But time spent apart can also create a stronger bond between two people. How you may ask?
The abilities that we have are more than amazing. No we’re not X-men. We can do anything to keep in touch with the person we love. Sending letters, phone calls, e-mails, and diaries. Yet it’s amazing that sometimes the time apart brings two people closer together, it can even bring a group closer together. Real friendship though is when no matter how long the time apart is, it could even be years, you can still bump into each other and love each other as if the time apart never even existed. One thing I learnt from a friend of mine is that, some of the friendships I have are more than just words and seeing each other. It’s about trust, knowing that the person will continue to love you no matter how far they are, knowing that you’ve made that much of a impression in their life. Only the heart knows who your real friends are, and it will tell you when the time comes.
The same old jokes will make you laugh and reminicing about the past will make you cry. When you find a special person in your life you treasure them just like you treasured your very first toy. Friendship isn’t always easy to hold fast to because people are forever changing. Also sometimes we carelessly choose our friends. Have you noticed how we take more time to choose our enemies than we do to choose our friends? Sometimes we dwell upon the thought of our enemies that it turns into an obsession and then that obsession can also turn into love. Pretty crazy isn’t it? There are also different types of friends you can find. Those who are close, but not too close, those who only know you by what they see, and those who are literally like a sister/brother to you.
Why am I discussing this topic? My reason is that recently a lot of ‘old’ friends have started contacting me again. It’s strange, but sweet at the same time. A lot of them I stopped talking to after graduating from highschool and only saw them at random parties or around the city. All of them though have left a small impression in my life.
The friends I have now I care for very much. My bestfriend means a lot to me too, but during that process of friendship was a lot of confusion and pain going through my heart. I only have my faith to thank for seeing me through because I suddenly realised why she meant so much to me. You realise that someone means so much to you when your hearts are apart. You feel a sense of emptiness and longing to at least hear that person’s voice again. But time spent apart can also create a stronger bond between two people. How you may ask?
The abilities that we have are more than amazing. No we’re not X-men. We can do anything to keep in touch with the person we love. Sending letters, phone calls, e-mails, and diaries. Yet it’s amazing that sometimes the time apart brings two people closer together, it can even bring a group closer together. Real friendship though is when no matter how long the time apart is, it could even be years, you can still bump into each other and love each other as if the time apart never even existed. One thing I learnt from a friend of mine is that, some of the friendships I have are more than just words and seeing each other. It’s about trust, knowing that the person will continue to love you no matter how far they are, knowing that you’ve made that much of a impression in their life. Only the heart knows who your real friends are, and it will tell you when the time comes.
will you remember me?…
It’s scary when you realise you’ve forgotten someone who is meant to be or was once important to you. The one thing I fear is to be forgotten by a person who says they love me. It is true that time and distance is what holds people together and apart. My state of mind isn’t stable at the moment. I may seem calmed and relaxed on the outside, but that is only a mask to cover the thoughts raging in my mind. I humor myself sometimes with my thoughts too, I ask myself why I think so much.
Let’s look at the truth though, we have being blessed with this gift of thought, reasoning, and contemplating. There’s just some of us who don’t embrace this gift or there’s some of us who take it too seriously. Thinking too much can destroy a person. Dwelling on things and not letting things take their path, questioning situations, contemplating truths, it can destroy a person’s soul.
How do you avoid this pathway of thoughts to destruction? Trying to ignore them, trying to find distractions are only short term solutions. Instead confront what causes these questions, stop asking yourself the questions and ask someone else. Obviously you don’t know the answers, but maybe someone else does. If it’s a different type of question, like, why do certain things happen, let it take its course. Be an observer, things happen because they were meant to. I don’t know why or how, but things happen. Thinking doesn’t do anything, doing does something. You can’t change situations by thinking about it, you change situations by doing something about it. Even though I said be and observer, if you know you can do something about it then stop hesitating and confront it or make that difference. But be sure that your motivation is of good value because sometimes your actions can hurt or discourage other people along the way.
To be forgotten, or to forget. Which is the worse feeling to feel? Who is the one who is most hurt? I don’t know the answer to my question, but for now I sit patiently and wait to see its outcome. If I do crack it will be my own fault for not acting on my thoughts. Either way i’m prepared to wait, and i’m prepared to be hurt. Life was never meant to be perfect. People are not perfect, but at least some of us try to be by being honest with ourselves and with one another. You’d think that being afraid of heights is scary, i’m afraid of distance.
god bless & peace out
Let’s look at the truth though, we have being blessed with this gift of thought, reasoning, and contemplating. There’s just some of us who don’t embrace this gift or there’s some of us who take it too seriously. Thinking too much can destroy a person. Dwelling on things and not letting things take their path, questioning situations, contemplating truths, it can destroy a person’s soul.
How do you avoid this pathway of thoughts to destruction? Trying to ignore them, trying to find distractions are only short term solutions. Instead confront what causes these questions, stop asking yourself the questions and ask someone else. Obviously you don’t know the answers, but maybe someone else does. If it’s a different type of question, like, why do certain things happen, let it take its course. Be an observer, things happen because they were meant to. I don’t know why or how, but things happen. Thinking doesn’t do anything, doing does something. You can’t change situations by thinking about it, you change situations by doing something about it. Even though I said be and observer, if you know you can do something about it then stop hesitating and confront it or make that difference. But be sure that your motivation is of good value because sometimes your actions can hurt or discourage other people along the way.
To be forgotten, or to forget. Which is the worse feeling to feel? Who is the one who is most hurt? I don’t know the answer to my question, but for now I sit patiently and wait to see its outcome. If I do crack it will be my own fault for not acting on my thoughts. Either way i’m prepared to wait, and i’m prepared to be hurt. Life was never meant to be perfect. People are not perfect, but at least some of us try to be by being honest with ourselves and with one another. You’d think that being afraid of heights is scary, i’m afraid of distance.
god bless & peace out
The line between lovers and friends…
What makes friends friends and what makes lovers lovers? When does a friend suddenly turn into something more intimate and why? To be honest I have no bloody clue. The human mind is so complex we still can’t figure it out. At least we know why the sky is blue. Let me make this clear before you keep reading, when I say ‘lovers’ I am not referring to the short-term sex-without-feelings (I hate that term) friend, better known as the F.B., i refer to actual relationships which consist of understood feelings.
We each hold friendship as one of the most important things in our lives. The only thing we pray not to happen is to fall in love with our friends. Why? Maybe we’re afraid that if something were to happen the whole world would fall apart. Okay maybe that’s a bit too dramatic. Like I always say, I can’t give the right answers, nor can I give the wrong answers.
I have a friend. He used to be my boyfriend. We jumped into a relationship without knowing each other properly. Look at your friend, are they really showing you their true colours? When I started going out with him, his true colours shone. It hurt, but because I actually did love him (I was sure with myself that I did, but it was more like puppy love) I lived with it. I’m the commited kind of freak who accepts people the way they are. Then that all ended. Problem, we decided, well he decided, that I be his bestfriend. I don’t know what ran through his mind, but I didn’t like it. We just knew each other too much. It hurt to be honest with him because he only wanted to hear the things he wanted me to say. Even though he says i’m just a bestfriend, he doesn’t act that way around me. We’ve had a million fights “as friends,” but I felt trapped. Everything I said and did had to go by him first. The truth is though, I don’t like being “owned” and I don’t like people prying into every corner of my life. If you ask with good reason then yes maybe, but usually I take the initiative to open up. I speak in my own time. Holding my hand while he’s chasing another girl is inappropriate to me because i’m the most ‘penguinistic’ (monogomous) person on earth, in my own mind. I went through accusations of selfishness, vanity, rudeness, and most of all, bitchiness. It hurt, but I pretended that it was all a joke. Thank you for his honesty, but word of discouragement isn’t what’s meant for a close friendship. Yes, be brutally honest, but don’t accuse as if they’ve commited the worse crime on earth and can’t be granted forgiveness. I was put through guilt trip, after guilt trip. The funny thing is, he was the only one complaining. In the end he just wanted me to be something i’m not. Today i’m still his bestfriend. He’s my close friend, whom I don’t have to, or need to, tell everything. He doesn’t own me. *vent* He’s like a 5 year old!
I digress. A real friend, shows every good and bad side of them. A friend takes risks to be there for you. They promise to always be there for you, but also are honest that they will at least try, because in reality a person can’t always be there. They accept you for who you are, but give you advice and correct you. They are a word of encouragement. When they’re angry with you they don’t keep silent, they tell you how they really feel instead of wearing a fake smile. A friend will listen to you, but you must too in turn. Nothing in friendships, in any relationship should be one-way, like the saying goes, ‘It takes two to tango.’
When you fall in love with a friend, it’s usually because all you ever see is the “saint” side. Sometimes though it can be different. You just love them for their whole being. So you’re left confused wondering what’s the next step. My 101. 1) Be honest with yourself, 2) Be honest with them, 3)Get to know each other a little more, 4) Don’t rush. Yes, a lot of us when we jump into relationships, we’re swept off our feet into the tidal wave of love. Sometimes we move so fast things end quicker. Take it step by step, and eventually it may be something that lasts. Maybe you might grow old together. 5) Brush your teeth, okay I pulled that out from stupidity.
But who ever said that one of your closest friends should become your lover? Who ever said that you have to marry them because you both click well? Nobody. The only thing that will tell is time and also listening to not only your heart, but your mind. If two are in conflict, then kill one or the other. Okay I take that back. If you are torn between the two then the answer is, NO. When the heart chooses something, the mind must agree too. Otherwise when you jump into the relationship there will be doubt. Doubt should never be in any relationship. Do not doubt the friendship of your bestfriend, do not doubt the love of your boy/girlfriend. If you do, ask! Don’t be chicken and pretend everything is okay. It only makes the doubt worse. Everybody says this, ‘communication is the best key to a succesful relationship,’ in actual fact, any relationship, be it friendship, family, professional, etc. When you love someone you love them whole heartedly.Sometimes a great friendship is better than a serious relationship. Check yourself first before jumping to conclusions.
We each have our own views. This is mine, what is yours?
God Bless & Peace Out
We each hold friendship as one of the most important things in our lives. The only thing we pray not to happen is to fall in love with our friends. Why? Maybe we’re afraid that if something were to happen the whole world would fall apart. Okay maybe that’s a bit too dramatic. Like I always say, I can’t give the right answers, nor can I give the wrong answers.
I have a friend. He used to be my boyfriend. We jumped into a relationship without knowing each other properly. Look at your friend, are they really showing you their true colours? When I started going out with him, his true colours shone. It hurt, but because I actually did love him (I was sure with myself that I did, but it was more like puppy love) I lived with it. I’m the commited kind of freak who accepts people the way they are. Then that all ended. Problem, we decided, well he decided, that I be his bestfriend. I don’t know what ran through his mind, but I didn’t like it. We just knew each other too much. It hurt to be honest with him because he only wanted to hear the things he wanted me to say. Even though he says i’m just a bestfriend, he doesn’t act that way around me. We’ve had a million fights “as friends,” but I felt trapped. Everything I said and did had to go by him first. The truth is though, I don’t like being “owned” and I don’t like people prying into every corner of my life. If you ask with good reason then yes maybe, but usually I take the initiative to open up. I speak in my own time. Holding my hand while he’s chasing another girl is inappropriate to me because i’m the most ‘penguinistic’ (monogomous) person on earth, in my own mind. I went through accusations of selfishness, vanity, rudeness, and most of all, bitchiness. It hurt, but I pretended that it was all a joke. Thank you for his honesty, but word of discouragement isn’t what’s meant for a close friendship. Yes, be brutally honest, but don’t accuse as if they’ve commited the worse crime on earth and can’t be granted forgiveness. I was put through guilt trip, after guilt trip. The funny thing is, he was the only one complaining. In the end he just wanted me to be something i’m not. Today i’m still his bestfriend. He’s my close friend, whom I don’t have to, or need to, tell everything. He doesn’t own me. *vent* He’s like a 5 year old!
I digress. A real friend, shows every good and bad side of them. A friend takes risks to be there for you. They promise to always be there for you, but also are honest that they will at least try, because in reality a person can’t always be there. They accept you for who you are, but give you advice and correct you. They are a word of encouragement. When they’re angry with you they don’t keep silent, they tell you how they really feel instead of wearing a fake smile. A friend will listen to you, but you must too in turn. Nothing in friendships, in any relationship should be one-way, like the saying goes, ‘It takes two to tango.’
When you fall in love with a friend, it’s usually because all you ever see is the “saint” side. Sometimes though it can be different. You just love them for their whole being. So you’re left confused wondering what’s the next step. My 101. 1) Be honest with yourself, 2) Be honest with them, 3)Get to know each other a little more, 4) Don’t rush. Yes, a lot of us when we jump into relationships, we’re swept off our feet into the tidal wave of love. Sometimes we move so fast things end quicker. Take it step by step, and eventually it may be something that lasts. Maybe you might grow old together. 5) Brush your teeth, okay I pulled that out from stupidity.
But who ever said that one of your closest friends should become your lover? Who ever said that you have to marry them because you both click well? Nobody. The only thing that will tell is time and also listening to not only your heart, but your mind. If two are in conflict, then kill one or the other. Okay I take that back. If you are torn between the two then the answer is, NO. When the heart chooses something, the mind must agree too. Otherwise when you jump into the relationship there will be doubt. Doubt should never be in any relationship. Do not doubt the friendship of your bestfriend, do not doubt the love of your boy/girlfriend. If you do, ask! Don’t be chicken and pretend everything is okay. It only makes the doubt worse. Everybody says this, ‘communication is the best key to a succesful relationship,’ in actual fact, any relationship, be it friendship, family, professional, etc. When you love someone you love them whole heartedly.Sometimes a great friendship is better than a serious relationship. Check yourself first before jumping to conclusions.
We each have our own views. This is mine, what is yours?
God Bless & Peace Out
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Never Leave FRIEND for something
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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FEW RELATIONS IN EARTH NEVER DIE..
Take first letter from each word of the above said statement &
then u will get that unique word…
FRIEND :=)
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Walk with me when ur hearts needs company,
take my hand when u feel all alone,
turn to me when u need some1 to lean on,
coz I’m a friend u can always depend on
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Fragnance can be defined without Rose.
But, friendship can’t be defined without YOU.
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Friend is one,
who (F)inds you in a (R)ush of people,
(I)nspires you to do something in life,
catch your (E)motions and (N)ever leaves you till (D)eath.
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Friendship is not a big fire which burns all day.
Its a small lamp, that burns till the last day of life.
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Friendship never speaks volumes,
it never demands proof,
it never has a happy ending too simply coz
it doesn’t end as long as friends r true, just like U!
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If ur friendship be money,
I’ll be richest man.
If ur friendship be pounds,
I’ll be heaviest man.
If ur friendship be luv,
I’ll be luckiest man.
But ur friendship is trust & I’m the happiest man
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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Leave SOMETHING for friend..
Never Leave FRIEND for something.. coz in life,
SOMETHINGS will leave u but FRIENDS will always live with u..
If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
==========================================
FEW RELATIONS IN EARTH NEVER DIE..
Take first letter from each word of the above said statement &
then u will get that unique word…
FRIEND :=)
==========================================
Walk with me when ur hearts needs company,
take my hand when u feel all alone,
turn to me when u need some1 to lean on,
coz I’m a friend u can always depend on
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Fragnance can be defined without Rose.
But, friendship can’t be defined without YOU.
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Friend is one,
who (F)inds you in a (R)ush of people,
(I)nspires you to do something in life,
catch your (E)motions and (N)ever leaves you till (D)eath.
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Friendship is not a big fire which burns all day.
Its a small lamp, that burns till the last day of life.
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Friendship never speaks volumes,
it never demands proof,
it never has a happy ending too simply coz
it doesn’t end as long as friends r true, just like U!
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If ur friendship be money,
I’ll be richest man.
If ur friendship be pounds,
I’ll be heaviest man.
If ur friendship be luv,
I’ll be luckiest man.
But ur friendship is trust & I’m the happiest man
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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Leave SOMETHING for friend..
Never Leave FRIEND for something.. coz in life,
SOMETHINGS will leave u but FRIENDS will always live with u..
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Saturday, December 1, 2007
Thoughts On Life
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
A Simple Friend!
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
gave you rides in their new car,
convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded,
consoled you when you broke up with your significant other
and found you a date to the prom.
In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
helped you pick out a college,
assured you that you would get into that college,
helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.
At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
Helped you clean up from that party.
Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents.
Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything.
Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind.
And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years.
But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who
Gives you the better of the two choices.
Holds your hand when you're scared.
Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you.
Thinks of you at times when you are not there.
Reminds you of what you have forgotten.
Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer.
Stays with you so that you have confidence.
Goes out of their way to make time for you.
Helps you clear up your mistakes.
Helps you deal with pressure from others.
Smiles for you when they are sad.
Helps you become a better person.
However most importantly loves you!
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
gave you rides in their new car,
convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded,
consoled you when you broke up with your significant other
and found you a date to the prom.
In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
helped you pick out a college,
assured you that you would get into that college,
helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.
At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
Helped you clean up from that party.
Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents.
Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything.
Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind.
And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years.
But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who
Gives you the better of the two choices.
Holds your hand when you're scared.
Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you.
Thinks of you at times when you are not there.
Reminds you of what you have forgotten.
Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer.
Stays with you so that you have confidence.
Goes out of their way to make time for you.
Helps you clear up your mistakes.
Helps you deal with pressure from others.
Smiles for you when they are sad.
Helps you become a better person.
However most importantly loves you!
Friendship
Which brings me to my topic for this week. I'd love some of your feedback on friendship.
My idea of friendship is that it reflects I Corinthians 13. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut. Doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others. Isn't always me first, doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, Always looks for the best, never looks back but keeps going to the end.
I'm not talking about acquaintance kind of friendship, but the intimate kind, the lifetime kind, the kind that you say to each other," we'll be friends for life" and then you mean it. No matter what comes to try and divide you-you recognize the one who sows discord and you say no way. There are those who will come and go in our lives, but there are those who will be there or should be there always. Jesus had the 3 that He spent the most time with, then the 12, then the 70, then the masses, but He didn't develop the same intimacy with the crowd as He did the 12. In the end they all wound up abandoning Him, or denying Him- yet He came back and restored them to their previous state of friendship. He gave Peter opportunity to become the mighty man of God- the Rock he was called to be. He gave Thomas the opportunity to become the man of faith he was supposed to be, he gave them all the benefit of His forgiveness, His love and His friendship.
What do we give one another? Are you a lifelong friend? Are you willing to lay down your pride and restore friendship? Or do you let them go? Knowing that God even called you to them? And at what price are we sacrificing friendships? Do we continue on in the call of God and ministry to others when things go askew? Or do we withdraw and put up those awful walls? Do we become angry and bitter people or do we obey the Word of God and do all that is in our power to reconcile?
That line, love believes the best is so powerful! The Bible says, he who tells a matter first seems to be right. When someone comes to you with some stuff about a friend, we have a choice at that moment to listen or to be the friend we should be. The problem is, we don't think another brother would lie to us, so we listen and then those terrible seeds of discord are sown (which God hates by the way). I recognize when people have faults, but don't you be the one to tell me. SMILE I'll find out what I need to know and I will love them anyway and restore them when I need to. I trust the Lord that He knows what I need to know, I have His mind. And He has been faithful to us always, just ask one of our kids.
Ask God why that person is acting that way, what is wrong in their heart and then pray for them. If your motives are right, He will let you know that something has happened, or you will ask them and they will tell you, and you have saved a relationship that the enemy was trying to destroy. Friends know each other's stuff, love you in spite of it, can have a year or two apart and come back together and be good friends again, can forgive, can forget, can talk about anything and don't judge each other for wrong attitudes and ideas, in other words, we love because He first loved us.
IF there is anything that we can learn at this time it is that there is nothing that should be able to separate us from each other, because we are in Christ and who can separate us from His love? By our love they will know we are His disciples.
My idea of friendship is that it reflects I Corinthians 13. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut. Doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others. Isn't always me first, doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, Always looks for the best, never looks back but keeps going to the end.
I'm not talking about acquaintance kind of friendship, but the intimate kind, the lifetime kind, the kind that you say to each other," we'll be friends for life" and then you mean it. No matter what comes to try and divide you-you recognize the one who sows discord and you say no way. There are those who will come and go in our lives, but there are those who will be there or should be there always. Jesus had the 3 that He spent the most time with, then the 12, then the 70, then the masses, but He didn't develop the same intimacy with the crowd as He did the 12. In the end they all wound up abandoning Him, or denying Him- yet He came back and restored them to their previous state of friendship. He gave Peter opportunity to become the mighty man of God- the Rock he was called to be. He gave Thomas the opportunity to become the man of faith he was supposed to be, he gave them all the benefit of His forgiveness, His love and His friendship.
What do we give one another? Are you a lifelong friend? Are you willing to lay down your pride and restore friendship? Or do you let them go? Knowing that God even called you to them? And at what price are we sacrificing friendships? Do we continue on in the call of God and ministry to others when things go askew? Or do we withdraw and put up those awful walls? Do we become angry and bitter people or do we obey the Word of God and do all that is in our power to reconcile?
That line, love believes the best is so powerful! The Bible says, he who tells a matter first seems to be right. When someone comes to you with some stuff about a friend, we have a choice at that moment to listen or to be the friend we should be. The problem is, we don't think another brother would lie to us, so we listen and then those terrible seeds of discord are sown (which God hates by the way). I recognize when people have faults, but don't you be the one to tell me. SMILE I'll find out what I need to know and I will love them anyway and restore them when I need to. I trust the Lord that He knows what I need to know, I have His mind. And He has been faithful to us always, just ask one of our kids.
Ask God why that person is acting that way, what is wrong in their heart and then pray for them. If your motives are right, He will let you know that something has happened, or you will ask them and they will tell you, and you have saved a relationship that the enemy was trying to destroy. Friends know each other's stuff, love you in spite of it, can have a year or two apart and come back together and be good friends again, can forgive, can forget, can talk about anything and don't judge each other for wrong attitudes and ideas, in other words, we love because He first loved us.
IF there is anything that we can learn at this time it is that there is nothing that should be able to separate us from each other, because we are in Christ and who can separate us from His love? By our love they will know we are His disciples.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
How to Make Friends
There's a certain beauty in being a lone wolf (people with no friends). You have more time to do things you want to do, like talk to yourself, play solitaire, write poetry, or try to carry that couch into your new apartment all by yourself. If that's not your bag, though, there are literally billions of potential friends in the world. What's more, many of these people want to make friends just as much as you do. So just follow these steps to meet new people and form strong, lasting friendships.
1. Get out and meet people! If you want to make friends, you first need to meet people. No matter where you live, this should be fairly easy. Just in case you're stumped, here are just a few suggestions.
* If you're in school or work and have a lot of co-workers and peers, you're surrounded by potential friends for a large portion of your day. A way to make a friend is to not be shy; go up to that person ask questions, like "what is your name?" "Are you on a team?" Act friendly and be honest and trustworthy.
* Join a club with people of common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them--in fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all--but if you have something in common with people, it can make it a lot easier to talk to them and plan activities initially. Whatever your age and whatever your interests, there is a club or organization for you.
* Join a team. Especially if you're in school, joining a sports team can be great way to make friends. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but this isn't true. As long as you enjoy the sport, try your best, and acknowledge that you're not a pro, your teammates will usually be more than happy to accept you for who you are.
* Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and the fact that you're devoting your time to something free of charge shows that you're compassionate and unselfish, two traits of good friends.
* Get online. In general, the internet isn't a great place to make real friends, the kind who will be there for you when you really need them. Never use the internet to meet some one you now will consider your "best friend". You don't know this person and making them your best friend will not do anything good in your life. If you live in a really isolated place, the internet can also help you find other people around the world that share your interests.
2. Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, and you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to talk to people, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you on the lunch line. Don't be picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, in that you may never talk to that person again or you'll just remain acquaintances, but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.
* Introduce yourself early in the conversation. Your name doesn't necessarily need to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if you're looking to make friends, knowing each other's names is a good start. Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name, and use it later in the conversation.
* Make small talk. Friends can talk about just about anything, but you don't want to get too personal when you first meet someone. Just make good, inoffensive small talk at first.
* Open up the opportunity for another meeting. When you meet someone whom you think might make a good friend, try to exchange contact information. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!
* If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others, in a club, for example, to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.
* If you're new in town or at school and are just looking to meet people, don't be afraid to mention this. People are often excited about meeting new people, showing them around, and introducing them to their friends.
3. Be fun to be around. You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you. From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.
4. Be a good listener. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you're interested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. People love to talk about themselves, and the easiest way to be likable is to listen. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends.
5. Be reliable. The steps above are great for making acquaintances, but how do acquaintances become lifelong friends? One important trait of a good friend is reliability. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.
6. Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors.
7. Be there. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.
8. Be true to yourself. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never feel pressured to do something you think is wrong. Stay true to your convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win a lot of other friends, and if you just be yourself you'll make friends who like you for who you are.
• Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if they've done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity. If you don't get along with someone, try avoidance instead of creating a rivalry.
• Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.
• Don't be clingy or annoying. Over-obsessing over someone makes you seem weird and strange, not friendly.
• You never want to seem desperate. Don't chide acquaintances for failing to invite you to a party, for example; don't call someone over and over or stop by uninvited; and never overstay your welcome anywhere. In general, take friendship slowly, and don't try to become close to somebody right away. The move from acquaintance to friend can take a long time, and if you appear too clingy, potential friends may think you're too much work.
• Keep the lines of communication open. Lasting friendships don't just happen. They require work, especially if one friend moves away for an extended period or for good. Even if you don't get to see a friend, you should try to call or email him or her regularly just to check in and say "hi." With any luck, they'll do the same. It's easy to lose friends to distance, but it isn't necessary.
1. Get out and meet people! If you want to make friends, you first need to meet people. No matter where you live, this should be fairly easy. Just in case you're stumped, here are just a few suggestions.
* If you're in school or work and have a lot of co-workers and peers, you're surrounded by potential friends for a large portion of your day. A way to make a friend is to not be shy; go up to that person ask questions, like "what is your name?" "Are you on a team?" Act friendly and be honest and trustworthy.
* Join a club with people of common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them--in fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all--but if you have something in common with people, it can make it a lot easier to talk to them and plan activities initially. Whatever your age and whatever your interests, there is a club or organization for you.
* Join a team. Especially if you're in school, joining a sports team can be great way to make friends. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but this isn't true. As long as you enjoy the sport, try your best, and acknowledge that you're not a pro, your teammates will usually be more than happy to accept you for who you are.
* Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and the fact that you're devoting your time to something free of charge shows that you're compassionate and unselfish, two traits of good friends.
* Get online. In general, the internet isn't a great place to make real friends, the kind who will be there for you when you really need them. Never use the internet to meet some one you now will consider your "best friend". You don't know this person and making them your best friend will not do anything good in your life. If you live in a really isolated place, the internet can also help you find other people around the world that share your interests.
2. Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, and you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to talk to people, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you on the lunch line. Don't be picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, in that you may never talk to that person again or you'll just remain acquaintances, but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.
* Introduce yourself early in the conversation. Your name doesn't necessarily need to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if you're looking to make friends, knowing each other's names is a good start. Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name, and use it later in the conversation.
* Make small talk. Friends can talk about just about anything, but you don't want to get too personal when you first meet someone. Just make good, inoffensive small talk at first.
* Open up the opportunity for another meeting. When you meet someone whom you think might make a good friend, try to exchange contact information. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!
* If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others, in a club, for example, to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.
* If you're new in town or at school and are just looking to meet people, don't be afraid to mention this. People are often excited about meeting new people, showing them around, and introducing them to their friends.
3. Be fun to be around. You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you. From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.
4. Be a good listener. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you're interested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. People love to talk about themselves, and the easiest way to be likable is to listen. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends.
5. Be reliable. The steps above are great for making acquaintances, but how do acquaintances become lifelong friends? One important trait of a good friend is reliability. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.
6. Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors.
7. Be there. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.
8. Be true to yourself. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never feel pressured to do something you think is wrong. Stay true to your convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win a lot of other friends, and if you just be yourself you'll make friends who like you for who you are.
• Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if they've done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity. If you don't get along with someone, try avoidance instead of creating a rivalry.
• Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.
• Don't be clingy or annoying. Over-obsessing over someone makes you seem weird and strange, not friendly.
• You never want to seem desperate. Don't chide acquaintances for failing to invite you to a party, for example; don't call someone over and over or stop by uninvited; and never overstay your welcome anywhere. In general, take friendship slowly, and don't try to become close to somebody right away. The move from acquaintance to friend can take a long time, and if you appear too clingy, potential friends may think you're too much work.
• Keep the lines of communication open. Lasting friendships don't just happen. They require work, especially if one friend moves away for an extended period or for good. Even if you don't get to see a friend, you should try to call or email him or her regularly just to check in and say "hi." With any luck, they'll do the same. It's easy to lose friends to distance, but it isn't necessary.
People Like to Put Us Down
And I’m not just talkin’ about my generation. Every generation that reads romances gets the same put down from someone: “When are you going to read a real book?” “Why do you read those sex stories?” “You should read something important.” “Why don’t you read about real life?”
Uh, excuse me? Real life? What could be more real than feelings that develop between two people that are so overwhelming they are willing to forsake their families and even lose their lives for love?
It’s worth bringing up Romeo and Juliet, because they were famous lovers whose desperate feelings we find it easy to dismiss today merely because they were young teenagers. Yet in their time, they were of marriageable age. Throughout history, families have married off their children as it suited the family, not the individual, no matter how much personal misery ensued. Romeo and Juliet epitomize personal rebellion against centuries of social tradition. No wonder they ended up dead.
It has only been in the last century or so in the western world that both men and women have had the luxury of arranging their own lives and choosing their own mates. The difficulty of choice in an open field should not be underestimated, since we do not have thousands of years of social history to guide our freedom. Maybe divorce holds out hope that mistakes can be left behind. But most of us don’t want to make mistakes in the first place.
Given this situation, you could say that romances are a tool to help people figure out how to recognize the right mate. Even though romances are about an area of human feeling that has always existed, that has frequently been sung about, and that has inspired countless poems, plays, paintings, and myths. Because classical artistry is based on life situations in which the commanding interference of others is a key element in the romantic relationship. We still suffer interference from interested family members, but modern romance is pretty much up to just the two people who fall in love.
Yes, it is natural to fall in love, but it is not logical. Loving feelings simply are not rational. And every person falls in love a different way. When those irrational feelings and high emotions strike, how do we decide what to do? How do we distinguish between infatuation and love? Between sincerity and flattery? Between protectiveness and power plays? We need a road map. And because every person is unique, we need many variations on this road map. Hence, all manner of romances. It’s so simple when you think about it logically: We need romances!
Of course a romance about a lonely billionaire and a spunky sculptor isn’t an exact blueprint for a happy future. If it were, we’d have fewer unhappy billionaires and starving sculptors. But learning how to recognize the person with whom you could happily spend all your life is important. Learning how to negotiate conflicts with that person in an era in which you could just walk out the door and find someone else is also important. Romances present many varieties of scenarios in which the heroines learn more about themselves and about the men for whom they care. What to fight over and what to let go. How to fight fair, for that matter. It’s marriage counseling in advance, if you will.
Do romances present plans for saving the world? Actually, yes, sometimes they do. Sometimes there’s an environmental or political issue at stake, and often there is a serious moral situation, too. Romance heroines and heroes frequently are shown asking themselves what is right and what is wrong. Many romances also deliver an inspiring message of hope in a troubled world. The characters love and survive despite hideous odds against them.
Romances are rooted in the personal, and because they are, they have tremendous emotional impact. Which means that as teaching mechanisms, they are unmatched. I guess the spoonful of sugar theory comes into play here, too. For many of us, it is easier to confront difficult life choices when they are embodied by someone else and prettied up a bit, too. Romances fulfill a very useful function of drawing us in while at the same time engaging us in a safe manner.
So, when people try to put you down for reading romances, don’t let them. You don’t have to reply with a snarl or a sneer at their ignorance. But you don’t have to feel defensive, either. Romances are big in more than one way.
Uh, excuse me? Real life? What could be more real than feelings that develop between two people that are so overwhelming they are willing to forsake their families and even lose their lives for love?
It’s worth bringing up Romeo and Juliet, because they were famous lovers whose desperate feelings we find it easy to dismiss today merely because they were young teenagers. Yet in their time, they were of marriageable age. Throughout history, families have married off their children as it suited the family, not the individual, no matter how much personal misery ensued. Romeo and Juliet epitomize personal rebellion against centuries of social tradition. No wonder they ended up dead.
It has only been in the last century or so in the western world that both men and women have had the luxury of arranging their own lives and choosing their own mates. The difficulty of choice in an open field should not be underestimated, since we do not have thousands of years of social history to guide our freedom. Maybe divorce holds out hope that mistakes can be left behind. But most of us don’t want to make mistakes in the first place.
Given this situation, you could say that romances are a tool to help people figure out how to recognize the right mate. Even though romances are about an area of human feeling that has always existed, that has frequently been sung about, and that has inspired countless poems, plays, paintings, and myths. Because classical artistry is based on life situations in which the commanding interference of others is a key element in the romantic relationship. We still suffer interference from interested family members, but modern romance is pretty much up to just the two people who fall in love.
Yes, it is natural to fall in love, but it is not logical. Loving feelings simply are not rational. And every person falls in love a different way. When those irrational feelings and high emotions strike, how do we decide what to do? How do we distinguish between infatuation and love? Between sincerity and flattery? Between protectiveness and power plays? We need a road map. And because every person is unique, we need many variations on this road map. Hence, all manner of romances. It’s so simple when you think about it logically: We need romances!
Of course a romance about a lonely billionaire and a spunky sculptor isn’t an exact blueprint for a happy future. If it were, we’d have fewer unhappy billionaires and starving sculptors. But learning how to recognize the person with whom you could happily spend all your life is important. Learning how to negotiate conflicts with that person in an era in which you could just walk out the door and find someone else is also important. Romances present many varieties of scenarios in which the heroines learn more about themselves and about the men for whom they care. What to fight over and what to let go. How to fight fair, for that matter. It’s marriage counseling in advance, if you will.
Do romances present plans for saving the world? Actually, yes, sometimes they do. Sometimes there’s an environmental or political issue at stake, and often there is a serious moral situation, too. Romance heroines and heroes frequently are shown asking themselves what is right and what is wrong. Many romances also deliver an inspiring message of hope in a troubled world. The characters love and survive despite hideous odds against them.
Romances are rooted in the personal, and because they are, they have tremendous emotional impact. Which means that as teaching mechanisms, they are unmatched. I guess the spoonful of sugar theory comes into play here, too. For many of us, it is easier to confront difficult life choices when they are embodied by someone else and prettied up a bit, too. Romances fulfill a very useful function of drawing us in while at the same time engaging us in a safe manner.
So, when people try to put you down for reading romances, don’t let them. You don’t have to reply with a snarl or a sneer at their ignorance. But you don’t have to feel defensive, either. Romances are big in more than one way.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Things Girls Should Know About Guys?
2. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
3. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it's up put it down.
4. Don't cut your hair. Ever.
5. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!
6. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
7. Sometimes, he's not thinking about you. Live with it.
8. Don't ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.
9. Get rid of your cat. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other cat.
10. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.
11. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
12. Shopping is not a sport.
13. Anything you wear is fine. Really.
14. You have enough clothes.
15. You have too many shoes.
16. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don't expect us to like it.
17. Your brother is an idiot, you ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.
18. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.
19. No, he doesn't know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
20. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.
21. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes -- What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
22. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.
23. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
24. Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.
25. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
26. Check you oil.
27. Don't give us 50 rules when 25 will do.
28. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
29. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together.
30. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
31. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
32. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.
33. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?
34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done -- not both.
35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
36. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
37. Women wearing Wonder bras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.
39. Telling us that the models in the men's magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it's certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazine.
40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
AND FINALLY, THE NUMBER ONE RULE:
1. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
3. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it's up put it down.
4. Don't cut your hair. Ever.
5. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!
6. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
7. Sometimes, he's not thinking about you. Live with it.
8. Don't ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.
9. Get rid of your cat. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other cat.
10. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.
11. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
12. Shopping is not a sport.
13. Anything you wear is fine. Really.
14. You have enough clothes.
15. You have too many shoes.
16. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don't expect us to like it.
17. Your brother is an idiot, you ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.
18. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.
19. No, he doesn't know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
20. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.
21. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes -- What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
22. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.
23. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
24. Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.
25. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
26. Check you oil.
27. Don't give us 50 rules when 25 will do.
28. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
29. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together.
30. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
31. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
32. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.
33. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?
34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done -- not both.
35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
36. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
37. Women wearing Wonder bras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.
39. Telling us that the models in the men's magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it's certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazine.
40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
AND FINALLY, THE NUMBER ONE RULE:
1. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
Why Beer is Better Than Women
1. You can enjoy beer all month long.
2. Beer stains wash out.
3. You don't have to wine and dine a beer.
4. Your beer will always wait patiently in the car while you play football.
5. When your beer goes flat, you toss it out.
6. Beer is never late.
7. Hangovers go away.
8. A beer doesn't get jealous when you grab another beer.
9. Beer labels come off without a fight.
10. When you go to a bar, you know you can always pick up a beer.
11. Beer never has a headache.
12. After you've had a beer the bottle is still worth a dime.
13. A beer won't get upset if you come home and have another beer on your breath.
14. If you pour a beer right, you'll always get good head.
15. You can have more than one beer a night and not feel guilty.
16. A beer always goes down easy.
17. You can share a beer with your friends.
18. You always know when you're the first one to pop a beer.
19. Beer is always wet.
20. Beer doesn't demand equality.
21. You can have a beer in public.
22. A beer doesn't care when you come.
23. A frigid beer is a good beer.
24. You don't have to wash a beer before it tastes good.
25. If you change beers you don't have to pay alimony.
2. Beer stains wash out.
3. You don't have to wine and dine a beer.
4. Your beer will always wait patiently in the car while you play football.
5. When your beer goes flat, you toss it out.
6. Beer is never late.
7. Hangovers go away.
8. A beer doesn't get jealous when you grab another beer.
9. Beer labels come off without a fight.
10. When you go to a bar, you know you can always pick up a beer.
11. Beer never has a headache.
12. After you've had a beer the bottle is still worth a dime.
13. A beer won't get upset if you come home and have another beer on your breath.
14. If you pour a beer right, you'll always get good head.
15. You can have more than one beer a night and not feel guilty.
16. A beer always goes down easy.
17. You can share a beer with your friends.
18. You always know when you're the first one to pop a beer.
19. Beer is always wet.
20. Beer doesn't demand equality.
21. You can have a beer in public.
22. A beer doesn't care when you come.
23. A frigid beer is a good beer.
24. You don't have to wash a beer before it tastes good.
25. If you change beers you don't have to pay alimony.
Real Love
4 person in your life how many have u found?
1st-urself,
2nd-1 u love most,
3rd-1 who love u most,
4th-1 you spend the rest of your life with. ]
firstly u'll meet the 1 u love most, and learn how love feels.
Because u know how love feels, so u can find the person who loves u most.
When u've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, u'll then know what it is u need most. Then u will find the person who is most suitable for u, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly,in real life,these 3 people are usually not the same person.
The one u love most doesn't love you. The one,who love u most,is never the one u love most. And the one u spend your life with,is never the one u love most or the one who love u most.
He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are u in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves u, he/she really loves u.
But when he/she doesn't love u anymore, he/she really doesn't love u anymore.
When he/she loves u, he/she can't pretend that he/she doesn't.
same goes, when he/she loves u no more, there's no way he/she can pretend he/she loves u. When a person doesn't love u and wants to leave u. u must ask yourself if u still love him/her, If u also don't love him/her anymore, do not keep him/her just to save your pride. If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness, and hope that he/she will be with the one he/she loves most, not stop him/her from it. If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one he/she loves, it shows u already don't love him/her, And if you don't love him/her, what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other,
they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.
1st-urself,
2nd-1 u love most,
3rd-1 who love u most,
4th-1 you spend the rest of your life with. ]
firstly u'll meet the 1 u love most, and learn how love feels.
Because u know how love feels, so u can find the person who loves u most.
When u've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, u'll then know what it is u need most. Then u will find the person who is most suitable for u, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly,in real life,these 3 people are usually not the same person.
The one u love most doesn't love you. The one,who love u most,is never the one u love most. And the one u spend your life with,is never the one u love most or the one who love u most.
He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are u in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves u, he/she really loves u.
But when he/she doesn't love u anymore, he/she really doesn't love u anymore.
When he/she loves u, he/she can't pretend that he/she doesn't.
same goes, when he/she loves u no more, there's no way he/she can pretend he/she loves u. When a person doesn't love u and wants to leave u. u must ask yourself if u still love him/her, If u also don't love him/her anymore, do not keep him/her just to save your pride. If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness, and hope that he/she will be with the one he/she loves most, not stop him/her from it. If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one he/she loves, it shows u already don't love him/her, And if you don't love him/her, what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other,
they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
A stupid mixed emotions.
Long Lost
In a dream
I can be anything
When I close my eyes
I can remember what I once had
But now you’re gone
I’m looking for you
Don’t let me fall into the darkness
The way you gave me life
I had once thought was meaningless
But you gave me hope once again
You said we would always keep each other alive
But you tried to take your life away
Leaving me alone once again
In the darkness
I lay here and cry
Hoping maybe these tears will bring you back
In my dreams we can talk forever
I just want to be with you
But when I wake up
You are gone
My first love
And my only
When they let you out
I will stand by your side
They say they love you, or they try to help
Just making it all worse
They just don’t get you
But in those dreams I can talk to you
We will laugh about those times
And even cry
I miss you more
Only a few weeks left
And maybe you will say anything that comes
They will say were too much to be
A pair that causes no good
I was once in darkness
You brought me light
The bulb has burst leaving a fallen night
A dreamless night
Bring me back my light
A tear runs down my cheek
Let me close my eyes
And fall away
So I can dream some more
For when I wake up
Its just may not be a dream anymore
Ill grave that hand
You will pull me up
From this darkness
And back into your light
Those eyes they glow an eerie mist
Because when I see you
I see the world and future
So before I die
Kiss me goodnight
Just kiss me goodnight
I Want To Be Happy
I want to be loved
I want to belong
Don’t want to cry alone
I want to laugh
Don’t want to cry
My days away
I want to be happy
I want to smile
I want my life
To be worth while …
Blinded
Standing in a meadow
Where no one can see her
Standing in a meadow
No one wants to be her
Standing in a meadow
Alone except for her
She is blinded
That’s what they say
She is blinded
But she know its ok
She is blinded
By love each and every day
Giving My Heart to You
I found you
At last
Through all of
My past
I’ve been searching
For someone like you
You’re not perfect
But that’s the way I want you
And your true
Oh but you were stolen
From me
I wish I’d have told you
I wish you could see
That my heart
I was giving you
To someone that’s not perfect
Because that’s just how I like you
Every Time
Every time I talk to you
I forget the words
That I was going to say
It is then I know I love him
All the words you say to me
I goof up and say a stupid thing
But when you say you care
It gives me such a rush
You Don’t Love Me
I realize
When you talk to me
You don’t love me
No you don’t love me
You never think of me
I’m left here alone
And alone I cry
I’m missing you
What should I do
I stand here and think of you
I even dream
Of you too
I see your face when I close my eyes
And when I talk to you
I realize
You don’t love me
And you never have
Them
People are always
Who they are not
They are never happy
With what they’ve got
They can never be real
Or let people see the way they feel
They always want what they get
If they don’t seem cool
They start to fret
Well I can see
I don’t want to be like that
I want to be more like me
Letter to Myself
Save yourself the heartache
Save yourself the pain
Save yourself the trouble
Don’t fall in love again
All you get is heartbreak
All you do is cry
All you get is heartache
And you just wish that you could die
Every time you see the guy
Your heart breaks again
Till you want to cry
But you still pretend to be nice
You feel like
You’re starting to fall
Like you’ve been slammed into a wall
Your breathing is slowing down
You lay there trying to scream
But you can’t make a sound
You lay there silently
Sobbing
And all of a sudden
Your head starts throbbing
You wonder why me
Oh what did I do
You didn’t fall for me
But I fell for you
You’re not so perfect
You’re weird like me
The way you act
In the arts
I’ll tell this to myself
I’ll never let you steal
My heart ever again
From now until forever
I’ll only call you friend
But if you promise not to brake my heart
I’ll trust you enough to borrow it
Lovers Lost
Tears stream down my face
My tongue is tied
I cannot speak
I wonder if I’ll live another day
Or for what this price I pay
My life is crumbling
Down on me
Things block my face
I cannot see
Stuff in my throat
Makes it so I cannot scream
I sit here wondering
If I will die
I sit here
And silently cry
I cannot breath I’m losing oxygen fast
One second, two seconds,
Three seconds pass
I sit here
Gasping for air
Breathing right now
Is my only care
When will someone
Find me
When will someone
Set me free
All this started
When he said no
When he said
I couldn’t do
People say it’s a Lovers Loss
But the loss isn’t mine
Because I will love to the end of tim...
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Which Baby are you?
Jan. 
Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth. Stubborn. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance your personality
Feb.
Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing personality. Attractive. Sexiest out of everyone. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest And loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.
March
Attractive personality. Sexy. Affectionate Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others. If you repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your new love in 8 days.
April
Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confidant. Sensitive. Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and traveling. Systematic. Hot but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that's caught your eye will introduce themselves and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days.
May
Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Shy towards opposite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike being at home. Restless. Not having many children. Hardworking. High-spirited. If you repost this in the next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone you do not speak too much in the next 4 days.
June
You've got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt and more than likely have an a very attractive partner. a wicked hottie. It is also more than likely that you have a massive record collection. You have a great choice in films, and may one day become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck, you've got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you will meet someone that may possibly become one of your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.
July
Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover. Repost this in the next 5 mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days.
Aug.
Outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on attention. No self-control. Kind hearted. Self-confident. Loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful. Easy to get along with and talk to. Has an "every thing's peachy" attitude. Likes talking and singing. Loves music. Daydreamer. Easily distracted. Hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. Loves to be loved. Hates studying. in need of "that someone". Longs for freedom. Rebellious when withheld or restricted. Lives by "no pain no gain" caring. Always a suspect. Playful. Mysterious. "charming" or "beautiful" to everyone. stubborn. curious. Independent. Strong willed. A fighter. Repost in 5 mins and you will meet the love of your life sometime next month.
Sept.
Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional. Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand. If you do not repost this in the next 5 mins, someone very close to you will become mad at you in the next 8 days.
Oct.
Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all. repost this in 5 mins or you will not meet the love of your life for 10 years.
Nov.
Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards your inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people easily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, the greatest men are born in this month. If you ever begin a relationship with someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of a kind. Repost in 5 mins & you will excel in a major event coming up sometime this month.
Dec.
This straight-up means you are the most good-looking person possible... Better than all of these other months! Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Has that someone always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer. Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character. One guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. Loves music. Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. [A hot new guy/girl will catch your eye & you will catch theirs too in the next 6 days, if you
Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth. Stubborn. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance your personalityFeb.
Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing personality. Attractive. Sexiest out of everyone. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest And loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.March
Attractive personality. Sexy. Affectionate Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others. If you repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your new love in 8 days.April
Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confidant. Sensitive. Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and traveling. Systematic. Hot but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that's caught your eye will introduce themselves and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days. May
Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Shy towards opposite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike being at home. Restless. Not having many children. Hardworking. High-spirited. If you repost this in the next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone you do not speak too much in the next 4 days.June
You've got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt and more than likely have an a very attractive partner. a wicked hottie. It is also more than likely that you have a massive record collection. You have a great choice in films, and may one day become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck, you've got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you will meet someone that may possibly become one of your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.July
Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover. Repost this in the next 5 mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days.Aug.
Outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on attention. No self-control. Kind hearted. Self-confident. Loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful. Easy to get along with and talk to. Has an "every thing's peachy" attitude. Likes talking and singing. Loves music. Daydreamer. Easily distracted. Hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. Loves to be loved. Hates studying. in need of "that someone". Longs for freedom. Rebellious when withheld or restricted. Lives by "no pain no gain" caring. Always a suspect. Playful. Mysterious. "charming" or "beautiful" to everyone. stubborn. curious. Independent. Strong willed. A fighter. Repost in 5 mins and you will meet the love of your life sometime next month.Sept.
Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional. Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand. If you do not repost this in the next 5 mins, someone very close to you will become mad at you in the next 8 days. Oct.
Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all. repost this in 5 mins or you will not meet the love of your life for 10 years.Nov.
Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards your inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people easily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, the greatest men are born in this month. If you ever begin a relationship with someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of a kind. Repost in 5 mins & you will excel in a major event coming up sometime this month.Dec.
This straight-up means you are the most good-looking person possible... Better than all of these other months! Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Has that someone always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer. Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character. One guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. Loves music. Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. [A hot new guy/girl will catch your eye & you will catch theirs too in the next 6 days, if you
Monday, November 19, 2007
Squirrels!
You can tell that Iran is feeling a little beleaguered these days when there are reports that Tehran may be under attack from rodents!
That is what the official Islamic Republic News Agency reported this week, that police had, ahem, "arrested" 14 squirrels on charges of espionage.
The rodents were found near the Iranian border, allegedly equipped with eavesdropping devices, according to IRNA.
When asked to confirm the story, Esmaeel Ahmadi Moghadam, the national police chief, said, "I have heard about it, but I do not have precise information." He declined to give any more details.
IRNA said that the squirrels were discovered by intelligence services – but were captured by police officers several weeks ago.
'Are you serious?'
The reaction to the report on Tehran’s streets was varied – from disbelief to assigning guilt for the alleged infraction.
"No, I had not heard about this, but it does not surprise me, foreign countries are always meddling in Iran," said Hassan Mohmmadi, a fast-food vendor.
Mohammadi asked me if I knew where the squirrels were from, and I told him that I didn’t know. Then he came to his own conclusions. "I bet they were British squirrels, they are the most cunning," he replied.
Meantime, an independent journalist, Sepher Sopli, was not surprised by the idea that another country would spy on Iran, so much as he was dumbfounded by their methods.
"I read this story in the papers and though it was very bizarre; what struck me as odd was that in this age of modern technology, people were relying on squirrels to do their spying," Sopli said.
But, the report was still strange enough to surprise. "That's very funny, but you’re not serious are you?" said Soraya Jafari, a student in Tehran.
Maybe not a first
Espionage not entirely foreign to animals. If true, this would not be the first time animals have been used for military endeavors.
During World War II, Allied forces used pigeons to fly vital intelligence out of occupied France.
More recently, U.S. Marines stationed in Kuwait trained chickens for a low-tech chemical detection system. It’s also well documented that dolphins have been used to seek out underwater mines.
Spying is something that is taken seriously in any country, especially in a place like Iran, where numerous people are currently being held on charges of espionage.
Still, the squirrels that breached the Iranian border carrying sensitive spying equipment must have been nuts.
sick or sane?
Its been over a year since I've turned into the person I am. I don't know what turned me like this. The lady who writes and questions me thinks its my family. They don't know what to think. They miss the smileing little girl with long blond hair that told them of her day. I'm not the same kid I was when I was younger, and they will never know. I was the best they said. Now I'm not longer trusted by him, but atleast she still does. I want to find a way to forget everything that I know. They dont get this. I've just been going down hill. This house I live in is cursed. They don't undestand why I want to end this all. They think if I just swallow them down my throat it will cure this all. Well thats how I tried to end it all. I sew my mouth and they think its all okay. Maybe I'm okay and I've lost control of the only thing in life I thought I had a hold of. So I can't control myself. They think If I talk about it everything will be okay. What am I to say to them to leave me alone. ' I'M OKAY! I'M NOT CRAZY! NOTHINGS WRONG!' They dont get this. He wants me to get all the help I need. I dont need it he does, but he doesnt get it! I lost a perfect person to drugs, and anouther to an abuser. I can't forget a someone who was a deep love. They tell me somethings not right with all of this. It's like a cloud is always following me. Im a plauge. I don't know what has changed me. They think Its her. Shes a bad influence. You take her away you midaswell pull the triger. The little girl they all know has died and she will never come back, but they don't see that. I murdered her a long time ago. I don't trust anyone anymore. They never see what this does to them. Am I the only one that sees what this mass media does? They always expect something from me. They are expecting me to give them the answer of whats wrong with me. Its not that easy. They want to know why I chose to do all the things I've done. Well I dont know. So tell me how I'm to answer this and what to do. I have no control of what my life chooses! I didn't choose to be this like they believe. This is what holds me down. Why do we even care. Its not like its gonna matter in anouther 100 years. This life is a game of Russian Rulet. I swear that if I could I would take away all the pain I've caused everyone. I hold something, but I should just set it free before its taken away. I want it all to stop. Theres no bright side to this. Maybe this time I won't pretend to be alright and smile. Maybe I am alright if I can think and function.
Love You Guys!
Met my friends on net!.. I am proud to say our friendship still lives on and is growing stronger each day. Many people had doubts that we would remain friends for such a long period of time since we are total opposites in everything...clothes, music, taste in guys (which is a good thing)....people ask me how is it possible that we remained such wonderful friends if we had nothing in common but the reason that people couldn't understand our close bond was because they weren't looking hard enough, they couldn't see that we did have something in common and that was we both knew how to laugh. Every time we would see each other we would be laughing and having fun, we never took ourselves too seriously and accepted each other's differences and faults, which is what I think kept that strong bond between us. People make mistakes and friends will always make mistakes but you have to learn to shrug your shoulders and accept that we're all only human! and we can't be perfect which is what most people are looking for....that PERFECT friend who will never slip up or do anything wrong, but I'm afraid they are searching for something that does not exist, nobody is perfect, people have to learn to forgive and forget. But most importantly my best friend and I have trust which is the key to any friendship, without trust you have nothing. If you don't trust the person with your life then that person is not a friend but merely an acquaintance. We have shared of good times and bad times, of laughter and tears, we have guided and helped each other through the hard times. Our footsteps have always been side by side never behind or in front. I've loved her & I've hated her but I've never given up or abandoned her, and I know it goes both ways since I haven't exactly been a flawless friend and I'm sorry for that. I love the fact that I could leave for years and not see her (it would kill me though) and know without a doubt that when I return she will still be here for me waiting with open arms. She is my guardian angel fallen from heaven. Thank you to all my friends for all that you've given me and taught me through the years and for always being there and I'm sorry for all the times I let you down. I love you with all my heart and soul. Forever Friends… LOVE YOU GUYS! hehehehe!
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Recently, one of my best friends,
whom I've shared just about
everything with since the first day of kindergarten, spent the weekend
with me. Since I moved to a new
town several years ago, we've both always looked forward
to the few times a year when we can see each other.
Over the weekend, we spent hours and hours, staying up
late into the night, talking about the people she was
hanging around with. She started telling me stories about
her new boyfriend, about how he experimented with drugs
and was into other self-destructive behavior. I was blown
away! She told me how she had been lying to her parents
about where she was going and even sneaking out to se
e this guy because they didn't want her around him. No
matter how hard I tried to tell her that she deserved better,
she didn't believe me. Her self-respect seemed to have
disappeared.
I tried to convince her that she was ruining her future and
heading for big trouble. I felt like I was getting nowhere. I
just couldn't believe that she really thought it was
acceptable to hang with a bunch of losers, especially her
boyfriend.
By the time she left, I was really worried about her and
exhausted by the experience. It had been so frustrating, I
had come close to telling her several times during the
weekend that maybe we had just grown too far apart to
continue our friendship - but I didn't. I put the power of
friendship to the ultimate test. We'd been friends for far too
long. I had to hope that she valued me enough to know
that I was trying to save her from hurting herself. I wanted
to believe that our friendship could conquer anything.
A few days later, she called to say that she had thought
long and hard about our conversation, and then she told me
that she had broken up with her boyfriend. I just listened on
the other end of the phone with tears of joy running down
my face. It was one of the truly rewarding moments in my
life. Never had I been so proud of a friend.
whom I've shared just about
everything with since the first day of kindergarten, spent the weekend
with me. Since I moved to a new
town several years ago, we've both always looked forward
to the few times a year when we can see each other.
Over the weekend, we spent hours and hours, staying up
late into the night, talking about the people she was
hanging around with. She started telling me stories about
her new boyfriend, about how he experimented with drugs
and was into other self-destructive behavior. I was blown
away! She told me how she had been lying to her parents
about where she was going and even sneaking out to se
e this guy because they didn't want her around him. No
matter how hard I tried to tell her that she deserved better,
she didn't believe me. Her self-respect seemed to have
disappeared.
I tried to convince her that she was ruining her future and
heading for big trouble. I felt like I was getting nowhere. I
just couldn't believe that she really thought it was
acceptable to hang with a bunch of losers, especially her
boyfriend.
By the time she left, I was really worried about her and
exhausted by the experience. It had been so frustrating, I
had come close to telling her several times during the
weekend that maybe we had just grown too far apart to
continue our friendship - but I didn't. I put the power of
friendship to the ultimate test. We'd been friends for far too
long. I had to hope that she valued me enough to know
that I was trying to save her from hurting herself. I wanted
to believe that our friendship could conquer anything.
A few days later, she called to say that she had thought
long and hard about our conversation, and then she told me
that she had broken up with her boyfriend. I just listened on
the other end of the phone with tears of joy running down
my face. It was one of the truly rewarding moments in my
life. Never had I been so proud of a friend.
A story of real friendship
One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.' I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friend tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running towards him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives.' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!' There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play football on Saturday with me and my friends. He said yes. We hung all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him. And my friends thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, 'Damn boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!' He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class . I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than me and all the girls loved him! Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!' He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. 'Thanks,' he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. 'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach… but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story.' I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. 'Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.' I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realise it's depth.Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse. " Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly "
F R I E N D S F O R E V E R !
F R I E N D S F O R E V E R !
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Sunsets of Yesterday
Things you never have known, never heard, never saw and most of all you never felt;
surely you never knew what you have been missing till it’s gone. You regret that you
haven’t given him a little time to cherish the bond. But it’s never to late.. I hope.
I used to remember way back you don’t want us to go home late because we’ll never
know the danger in the streets and we can’t trust the people around us. I’m used to
ignore you, there were times I was thinking you don’t want us to have fun or meet
friends and just want us to stay and bore ourselves at home. This made me rebel
against you. The more you imprisoned me home the more I tried to go home late and
sneak out at night.
Until I started my life at your back; Doing things I never had done and never thought I
could. Curiosity really kills especially if it satisfies my freedom. Yes I thought I was
free, free to do what I want; go wherever I want to go and be with any person I want to.
But as time passed me by I started to regret that living. There are times when I was so afraid and you have no one to comfort me, I have these questions that none could answer and I experienced unbearable pain that none was there by my side.
Form the looks of it now; though unscathed I am still hurting inside and though untamed I long to be loved. The scars of the past ache and tears keep flowing every night. These tough time I remember you “Dad nobody wants to love your baby”, I cried out. Your little princess had been wounded by those wicked princes who took pleasures of her innocence. I can no longer hear her laugh; I cease to see her smiles. She had her own world and nobody wants to be apart of it.
I can hardly keep up with the pace of life because I continue to dwell on my past that keeps on haunting me. The heat days were ground sweats while lazy dreaming body too sleepy to move just stray. The cold nights were darkness was defied by colored lights and wasted soul’s lust to drink their life away. Waking up on shambles of host you just stumble into and trying to run home before daylight catches you. Burning lines, mosquito bites and late night shows while the other end of the line was already plotting his lies on you. Extravagance on every happy outs were every sweat from your toil been wasted on insensitive souls who never cared at all. And most of all the promises that have been given, broken and I keep on forgiving. All these for a piece of happiness that I longed to possessed.
All the while I was blinded by the flashy lights of desire that I have forgotten what I already have. What I have adhere was totally here with me and now He confiscated you. I have never really told you that I love you. I dreamt of you I already ask for forgiveness and hope you really did as what you have said in my dream. And yes I will change just like what I have promise you. Thank you for everything. I know your always at our side.
surely you never knew what you have been missing till it’s gone. You regret that you
haven’t given him a little time to cherish the bond. But it’s never to late.. I hope.
I used to remember way back you don’t want us to go home late because we’ll never
know the danger in the streets and we can’t trust the people around us. I’m used to
ignore you, there were times I was thinking you don’t want us to have fun or meet
friends and just want us to stay and bore ourselves at home. This made me rebel
against you. The more you imprisoned me home the more I tried to go home late and
sneak out at night.
Until I started my life at your back; Doing things I never had done and never thought I
could. Curiosity really kills especially if it satisfies my freedom. Yes I thought I was
free, free to do what I want; go wherever I want to go and be with any person I want to.
But as time passed me by I started to regret that living. There are times when I was so afraid and you have no one to comfort me, I have these questions that none could answer and I experienced unbearable pain that none was there by my side.
Form the looks of it now; though unscathed I am still hurting inside and though untamed I long to be loved. The scars of the past ache and tears keep flowing every night. These tough time I remember you “Dad nobody wants to love your baby”, I cried out. Your little princess had been wounded by those wicked princes who took pleasures of her innocence. I can no longer hear her laugh; I cease to see her smiles. She had her own world and nobody wants to be apart of it.
I can hardly keep up with the pace of life because I continue to dwell on my past that keeps on haunting me. The heat days were ground sweats while lazy dreaming body too sleepy to move just stray. The cold nights were darkness was defied by colored lights and wasted soul’s lust to drink their life away. Waking up on shambles of host you just stumble into and trying to run home before daylight catches you. Burning lines, mosquito bites and late night shows while the other end of the line was already plotting his lies on you. Extravagance on every happy outs were every sweat from your toil been wasted on insensitive souls who never cared at all. And most of all the promises that have been given, broken and I keep on forgiving. All these for a piece of happiness that I longed to possessed.
All the while I was blinded by the flashy lights of desire that I have forgotten what I already have. What I have adhere was totally here with me and now He confiscated you. I have never really told you that I love you. I dreamt of you I already ask for forgiveness and hope you really did as what you have said in my dream. And yes I will change just like what I have promise you. Thank you for everything. I know your always at our side.
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