There are so many stories I still want to tell
There are so many I love you's left unsaid
There are many tears left uncried
There are many dreams left to fall apart
I miss our long talks
I miss the nights when all was alright
I love you like a sister, you were my angel,
Yet I wonder why you left me here to die
We were forever best friends-
When one fell to the ground
The other one was there to help her back up.
We healed our broken hearts
With a hug and a gentle smile.
We stayed up every night looking at the stars,
Giggling like little girls and having midnight talks.
You said you had to go-
I wished it wasn't so.
You said we'd always write.
You said it would be like old times.
I looked in your eyes as you looked into mine,
With smiles like everything was fine.
Yet we both knew well that this was our last good-bye.
We knew that we would never again
Have those long talks and play like little girls again.
We knew all the pain we'd cause ourselves.
I also knew that my angel was being taken away,
Yet we promised no matter what we'd remain forever best friends...
Friday, May 16, 2008
Goodbye
Well maybe now I should just say goodbye
You used to be my friend
But I never felt I really was yours
So maybe this is the end.
I'm different from you, all of you
Each other we've never understood
I hope that if I do tell you goodbye
That it won't be for good.
Whenever I'm mad it hurts me so bad
And you don't even care
I don't know why, I just want to cry
And someday I won't be there.
The streaks on my arm they've done me no harm
They're only made of pen
But once they are blood that turns brown like mud
They'll be there again and again.
If I'm mad at you I'll hurt myself too
But that doesn't really matter
Although when I hurt I feel like dirt
And my spirit's bruised and battered.
I do not know why it has to be so
I really wish it did not
But the way this has been going
it is basically shot.
You don't need me and we don't need we
And that's how I think I know why
These words are the ones I have to speak-
I love you, but goodbye.
You used to be my friend
But I never felt I really was yours
So maybe this is the end.
I'm different from you, all of you
Each other we've never understood
I hope that if I do tell you goodbye
That it won't be for good.
Whenever I'm mad it hurts me so bad
And you don't even care
I don't know why, I just want to cry
And someday I won't be there.
The streaks on my arm they've done me no harm
They're only made of pen
But once they are blood that turns brown like mud
They'll be there again and again.
If I'm mad at you I'll hurt myself too
But that doesn't really matter
Although when I hurt I feel like dirt
And my spirit's bruised and battered.
I do not know why it has to be so
I really wish it did not
But the way this has been going
it is basically shot.
You don't need me and we don't need we
And that's how I think I know why
These words are the ones I have to speak-
I love you, but goodbye.
Forever
A long time ago,
When we first met,
I didn't like you,
We had a bet.
Over a stupid guy,
I thought we'd never get along,
My instincts were telling me,
I was so wrong
One day when you went out with him,
I'll admit I was jealous,
Until we started talking,
Later nothing could come between us.
Now we look back at the past,
We've been through think and thin,
It came across me,
I found my best friend.
I don't care what happens,
With me by your side,
I will not criticize,
There is nothing to hide.
You can tell me anything,
Don't worry about it,
Won’t let you go through your problems alone,
There is so much more where we can get.
Don't keep things bottled inside,
I will always be there for you,
I will be by your side,
There is nothing our friendship can't do!
You are more than a friend,
You’re like a sister to me,
Together there is nothing,
That we can't see.
You are about to leave,
I can’t say good-bye,
No matter how hard I try,
I will break down and cry!
It is still hard to believe,
I can't see you're leaving,
I will always remember,
I will always be grieving
I want you to remember,
No matter what happens,
We will be friends forever!!
When we first met,
I didn't like you,
We had a bet.
Over a stupid guy,
I thought we'd never get along,
My instincts were telling me,
I was so wrong
One day when you went out with him,
I'll admit I was jealous,
Until we started talking,
Later nothing could come between us.
Now we look back at the past,
We've been through think and thin,
It came across me,
I found my best friend.
I don't care what happens,
With me by your side,
I will not criticize,
There is nothing to hide.
You can tell me anything,
Don't worry about it,
Won’t let you go through your problems alone,
There is so much more where we can get.
Don't keep things bottled inside,
I will always be there for you,
I will be by your side,
There is nothing our friendship can't do!
You are more than a friend,
You’re like a sister to me,
Together there is nothing,
That we can't see.
You are about to leave,
I can’t say good-bye,
No matter how hard I try,
I will break down and cry!
It is still hard to believe,
I can't see you're leaving,
I will always remember,
I will always be grieving
I want you to remember,
No matter what happens,
We will be friends forever!!
Gone...
ran through my head
I found myself wishing I was dead
All because you were moving away
I knew I would never see you another day
You got in your car and waved goodbye
and then I was left all alone to cry
I felt helpless, and all alone
I could only talk to you on the phone
You were my neighbor, and my best friend
Why, Oh why did it have to end?
You made me so happy, so carefree
You made it feel okay for me to be me
It's been almost a year since you moved away
but it feels like it was only yesterday
I remember everything you used to do
It may seem impossible, but it's true
You were the best friend I ever had
Now that you left me, I am beyond sad
I love and I miss you more than you ever knew
You've taught me so much, and I want to say thank you.
I found myself wishing I was dead
All because you were moving away
I knew I would never see you another day
You got in your car and waved goodbye
and then I was left all alone to cry
I felt helpless, and all alone
I could only talk to you on the phone
You were my neighbor, and my best friend
Why, Oh why did it have to end?
You made me so happy, so carefree
You made it feel okay for me to be me
It's been almost a year since you moved away
but it feels like it was only yesterday
I remember everything you used to do
It may seem impossible, but it's true
You were the best friend I ever had
Now that you left me, I am beyond sad
I love and I miss you more than you ever knew
You've taught me so much, and I want to say thank you.
I Love You & Goodbye...
I will never forget you,
Though I may meet someone new
But a part of my heart
Will forever belong to you.
I know it won’t be easy,
And I’ll miss you every second
But everything in life,
Comes with a special lesson.
Letting go is hard
But when all the sadness clears
There will not be a reason
To shed another tear.
What we had was priceless
And you will always hold my heart
But now that our love is gone
We must forever part.
My love you took for granted
But I gave it anyway…
And still you overlook me
Even to this day.
Of all the times you hurt me
And all the times I’ve cried
I think of why I worked so hard
And why I even tried.
You said you’d love me forever
But forever has come and gone
And still I sit and wonder
Where it all went wrong.
But now I see what’s really there
And there’s nothing I could have done
You can’t help who you love
And I just wasn’t the one.
Maybe someday down the road
Our paths will intertwine
And once again I can hold you
And know you are mine.
But until the day, if it even comes
You will only be in my mind
For now it’s time for me to see
If it’s true love I can find.
We had some really good times
And we had some really bad,
But the strength to keep on going
Neither of us had.
I’m sorry our time has ended
And we couldn’t make things work
But then I think of all the times
You acted like a jerk.
I know I wasn’t perfect
But I gave you all I had
And if we were so deep in love
Why does it feel so bad?
I still have a lot of questions
And I still wonder why
But now all I can do is say…
I love you and goodbye.
Though I may meet someone new
But a part of my heart
Will forever belong to you.
I know it won’t be easy,
And I’ll miss you every second
But everything in life,
Comes with a special lesson.
Letting go is hard
But when all the sadness clears
There will not be a reason
To shed another tear.
What we had was priceless
And you will always hold my heart
But now that our love is gone
We must forever part.
My love you took for granted
But I gave it anyway…
And still you overlook me
Even to this day.
Of all the times you hurt me
And all the times I’ve cried
I think of why I worked so hard
And why I even tried.
You said you’d love me forever
But forever has come and gone
And still I sit and wonder
Where it all went wrong.
But now I see what’s really there
And there’s nothing I could have done
You can’t help who you love
And I just wasn’t the one.
Maybe someday down the road
Our paths will intertwine
And once again I can hold you
And know you are mine.
But until the day, if it even comes
You will only be in my mind
For now it’s time for me to see
If it’s true love I can find.
We had some really good times
And we had some really bad,
But the strength to keep on going
Neither of us had.
I’m sorry our time has ended
And we couldn’t make things work
But then I think of all the times
You acted like a jerk.
I know I wasn’t perfect
But I gave you all I had
And if we were so deep in love
Why does it feel so bad?
I still have a lot of questions
And I still wonder why
But now all I can do is say…
I love you and goodbye.
Saturday, May 3, 2008
I Need You Now
Please take me by the hand.
Stand by me in my hour of need,
Take time to understand.
Take my hand, dear friend,
And lead me from this place.
Chase away my doubts and fears,
Wipe the tears from off my face.
Friend, I cannot stand alone.
I need your hand to hold,
The warmth of your gentle touch
In my world that's grown so cold.
Please be a friend to me
And hold me day by day.
Because with your loving hand in mine,
I know we'll find the way.
Stand by me in my hour of need,
Take time to understand.
Take my hand, dear friend,
And lead me from this place.
Chase away my doubts and fears,
Wipe the tears from off my face.
Friend, I cannot stand alone.
I need your hand to hold,
The warmth of your gentle touch
In my world that's grown so cold.
Please be a friend to me
And hold me day by day.
Because with your loving hand in mine,
I know we'll find the way.
CONTROLLING BOY-FRIEND
There are some men who are control freaks. They want to control everything, including their partners. What happens when you have a relationship with such a person?Why does he want to control? Maybe he has had a traumatic childhood. He may have imbibed this trait from his parent/s. If he suffers from low self-esteem, he may want to control in order to feel superior. Or he feels his partner is his property.
What ever the reasons, in such a relationship, a girl feels suffocated. When he decides what she wears, who she talks to, who she goes out with, then the relationship is no longer enjoyable. She will feel constricted. How can she handle such a person?
She must learn to taken responsibility for her actions. She must learn not to accept his demands. She must accept she is an individual who has all her rights. She must not support his actions. She must set boundaries which he must learn to respect. She must learn to be assertive and make sure he respects her and her wishes.
There will be emotional controlling done when he realizes she is not willing to accept his control. She must not give in to this. She must talk to him when there is no fight happening, and be assertive in setting boundaries. If he starts to take over the conversation, she must take time off and come back to the discussion later.
A girl who allows herself to be controlled will end up losing her identity. She must introspect and ask herself what she is losing in this kind of relationship. She will be losing her identity, her dreams, and her dignity. Is this relationship worth losing all of these?
Suffering in silence is not love.
What ever the reasons, in such a relationship, a girl feels suffocated. When he decides what she wears, who she talks to, who she goes out with, then the relationship is no longer enjoyable. She will feel constricted. How can she handle such a person?
She must learn to taken responsibility for her actions. She must learn not to accept his demands. She must accept she is an individual who has all her rights. She must not support his actions. She must set boundaries which he must learn to respect. She must learn to be assertive and make sure he respects her and her wishes.
There will be emotional controlling done when he realizes she is not willing to accept his control. She must not give in to this. She must talk to him when there is no fight happening, and be assertive in setting boundaries. If he starts to take over the conversation, she must take time off and come back to the discussion later.
A girl who allows herself to be controlled will end up losing her identity. She must introspect and ask herself what she is losing in this kind of relationship. She will be losing her identity, her dreams, and her dignity. Is this relationship worth losing all of these?
Suffering in silence is not love.
SUICIDE
What are the reasons why people commit suicide? Love failure, fear of failure in examination, poverty, debt, marital problems, chronic illness, etc.It is a momentary madness, if the moment passes, then sanity prevails.
When the exams results are round the corner, the tension experienced by the students is terrible. If they are not counseled properly, they are prone to take the extreme step. Fortunately there are centers like Sneha doing such a good job in counseling for those who contemplate suicide.
Students must be made to realize that exams can be repeated next year, but once life is lost, everything is lost. Even failed attempts can be problematic.
Recently it was in the news about farmers committing suicide due to poverty and mounting debts. They took the extreme step due to crop failures and no way out of the debt traps they had fallen in. It is a different issue that they have left behind their families to face the very same situation as well as to mourn their loss.
Love failure, what can be said about this? Jilted lover sometimes resorts to suicide, maybe as a warning to her/his ex-lover. A jilted lover who does not have inner strength, will resort to taking his/her life, instead of getting over the experience and starting fresh. God has given only one life, why do people not realize this? Life is to be lived, enjoyed, and experienced with all good and bad.
There are some cases where a person ends his/her life because of chronic illness. They probably do not want to be a burden on their family.
There was this gentleman, a very disciplined person, who timed all his actions to perfection. Every activity had a particular time, he did not budge either way, come rain or sunshine. When he aged, his body would not co-operate with him, he was vexed. When he came to know he did not have long to live, he took his own life. He had always controlled everything in his life, he could not accept the fact that his body was failing him. He probably decided that he would die at his chosen time. He left behind a bewildered family. They are taking a long time in recovering.
Those who are suffering major depression, may contemplate suicide. Normally, those who attempt suicide are asking for help. They are unable to cope with their particular problem, so they are seeking a way out.
All the signs and symptoms will be there for anyone to see. A person who is contemplating suicide will show no interest in life, will have problems with sleep and food, will always be in a depressed mood, and will withdraw into him/herself. He/she will have crying spells, will also express thoughts of suicide, and will talk about death. It should not be ignored. He/she is actually asking for help, psychologically. He/she must be counseled, and not left alone for a long time.
Counseling does help a lot. A person lost his brother to suicide, has been guilty ever since. He feels he did not do enough to save him. It took some counseling to make him realize he was not at fault. Suicide has such a devastating effect on the family.
A youngster who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, took his life because he did not want to live with this disease. He was getting the best of treatment, but he could not live with the thought that he could relapse. A very tragic story.
Like it has been stated earlier, suicide is a momentary madness. If a suicide prone person is dissuaded from this act, a life can be saved.
Those who are saved, may resort to it later. That is why they have to be counseled.
But there are some who use the threat of suicide as a blackmailing stunt. They also require counseling. If ignored, they may attempt it.
When a person feels very low, feels there is no future, does not want to be a burden on family or society, and when in pain, either physical or emotional, will contemplate suicide. Be free once and for all. Their emotions need to be handled properly, they must be made to realize they too are important members of society. They too can contribute to the growth of the society and mankind.
When the exams results are round the corner, the tension experienced by the students is terrible. If they are not counseled properly, they are prone to take the extreme step. Fortunately there are centers like Sneha doing such a good job in counseling for those who contemplate suicide.
Students must be made to realize that exams can be repeated next year, but once life is lost, everything is lost. Even failed attempts can be problematic.
Recently it was in the news about farmers committing suicide due to poverty and mounting debts. They took the extreme step due to crop failures and no way out of the debt traps they had fallen in. It is a different issue that they have left behind their families to face the very same situation as well as to mourn their loss.
Love failure, what can be said about this? Jilted lover sometimes resorts to suicide, maybe as a warning to her/his ex-lover. A jilted lover who does not have inner strength, will resort to taking his/her life, instead of getting over the experience and starting fresh. God has given only one life, why do people not realize this? Life is to be lived, enjoyed, and experienced with all good and bad.
There are some cases where a person ends his/her life because of chronic illness. They probably do not want to be a burden on their family.
There was this gentleman, a very disciplined person, who timed all his actions to perfection. Every activity had a particular time, he did not budge either way, come rain or sunshine. When he aged, his body would not co-operate with him, he was vexed. When he came to know he did not have long to live, he took his own life. He had always controlled everything in his life, he could not accept the fact that his body was failing him. He probably decided that he would die at his chosen time. He left behind a bewildered family. They are taking a long time in recovering.
Those who are suffering major depression, may contemplate suicide. Normally, those who attempt suicide are asking for help. They are unable to cope with their particular problem, so they are seeking a way out.
All the signs and symptoms will be there for anyone to see. A person who is contemplating suicide will show no interest in life, will have problems with sleep and food, will always be in a depressed mood, and will withdraw into him/herself. He/she will have crying spells, will also express thoughts of suicide, and will talk about death. It should not be ignored. He/she is actually asking for help, psychologically. He/she must be counseled, and not left alone for a long time.
Counseling does help a lot. A person lost his brother to suicide, has been guilty ever since. He feels he did not do enough to save him. It took some counseling to make him realize he was not at fault. Suicide has such a devastating effect on the family.
A youngster who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, took his life because he did not want to live with this disease. He was getting the best of treatment, but he could not live with the thought that he could relapse. A very tragic story.
Like it has been stated earlier, suicide is a momentary madness. If a suicide prone person is dissuaded from this act, a life can be saved.
Those who are saved, may resort to it later. That is why they have to be counseled.
But there are some who use the threat of suicide as a blackmailing stunt. They also require counseling. If ignored, they may attempt it.
When a person feels very low, feels there is no future, does not want to be a burden on family or society, and when in pain, either physical or emotional, will contemplate suicide. Be free once and for all. Their emotions need to be handled properly, they must be made to realize they too are important members of society. They too can contribute to the growth of the society and mankind.
ATTRACTION
Attraction is a natural thing. When a beautiful scene, object or person passes by, one is attracted. An appreciative glance is offered. The object that attracts could be a shade of color, a particular style of dress, a lovely and peaceful face, a lovely, lilting song, and/or a stylish car or bike.
Being attracted to an object will not create ripples or raised eyebrows. But if a person is attracted to another person, it can create problems. Especially if the attraction is for the opposite sex.
Though why should such attraction be considered unhealthy, is not understandable. When a beautiful woman passes by, the men around will be attracted towards her. Appreciative glances will be given and normally the woman herself will feel flattered. But the problem arises when the attraction goes a step forward and ends up embarrassing the person who appears attractive.
What happens if a married man is attracted to a married woman, is it wrong? Normally it shouldn’t be. It is possible to be attracted by her smile, her style of dressing, or the way she handles children, etc. Provided the lady is not aware of this attraction, otherwise she would be embarrassed and may avoid appearing before this man. But, to be honest, some women will be secretly pleased. The feminine aspect in them will be flattered.
The attraction should remain just that. Not go beyond this point. Once he/she crosses the line, then trouble is not far behind.
A case came to me where a man said he is happily married and has two children. His wife was away for a few days and he found himself attracted to his neighbor’s wife. He confessed to his wife, who was understandably upset. But he laughed it off, saying it was only a passing phase. He told his wife not to leave him and go anywhere.
But he wrote to say it was no longer a joke, and he found he was constantly thinking of this woman, in fact he was unable to concentrate on anything else. He was truly alarmed with this behavior. He wanted help.
I suggested to him to rationalize this whole thing. He could keep his attraction to a safe level, because there was no way he could express his feelings to that woman. The repercussions would be too messy to handle. But sometimes rational thinking will not help. When one is told to forget something because it is forbidden, it refuses to go away. The mind seeks that thought, and trying to ignore it will not help. The more one pushes such thoughts down, the more it will pop up.
So I suggested to him to replace the image of this lady in his mind with that of his wife. If he persisted enough times, he would succeed. It is like replacing a negative thought with a positive thought.
Or he could try some exposure therapy in his mind. He imagines he is meeting this lady, he expresses his feelings of attractions to her, and she slaps him. All the other people who reside in the same building witness this. Or his children watch their father being thrashed by that lady’s husband. Or his wife witnesses his humiliation and files for divorce. All these scenarios are painful ones, one that is filled with pain and humiliation. Soon his thoughts of this lady will get associated with humiliation, insults, physical attacks and the hurts of his family.
Such exposure therapy, when done in the mind, will lead to aversion. Surely visions of his family witnessing his humiliation will hopefully bring him out of his unhealthy attraction.
This gentleman wrote back saying my mail has helped him to see his folly.
Being attracted to an object will not create ripples or raised eyebrows. But if a person is attracted to another person, it can create problems. Especially if the attraction is for the opposite sex.
Though why should such attraction be considered unhealthy, is not understandable. When a beautiful woman passes by, the men around will be attracted towards her. Appreciative glances will be given and normally the woman herself will feel flattered. But the problem arises when the attraction goes a step forward and ends up embarrassing the person who appears attractive.
What happens if a married man is attracted to a married woman, is it wrong? Normally it shouldn’t be. It is possible to be attracted by her smile, her style of dressing, or the way she handles children, etc. Provided the lady is not aware of this attraction, otherwise she would be embarrassed and may avoid appearing before this man. But, to be honest, some women will be secretly pleased. The feminine aspect in them will be flattered.
The attraction should remain just that. Not go beyond this point. Once he/she crosses the line, then trouble is not far behind.
A case came to me where a man said he is happily married and has two children. His wife was away for a few days and he found himself attracted to his neighbor’s wife. He confessed to his wife, who was understandably upset. But he laughed it off, saying it was only a passing phase. He told his wife not to leave him and go anywhere.
But he wrote to say it was no longer a joke, and he found he was constantly thinking of this woman, in fact he was unable to concentrate on anything else. He was truly alarmed with this behavior. He wanted help.
I suggested to him to rationalize this whole thing. He could keep his attraction to a safe level, because there was no way he could express his feelings to that woman. The repercussions would be too messy to handle. But sometimes rational thinking will not help. When one is told to forget something because it is forbidden, it refuses to go away. The mind seeks that thought, and trying to ignore it will not help. The more one pushes such thoughts down, the more it will pop up.
So I suggested to him to replace the image of this lady in his mind with that of his wife. If he persisted enough times, he would succeed. It is like replacing a negative thought with a positive thought.
Or he could try some exposure therapy in his mind. He imagines he is meeting this lady, he expresses his feelings of attractions to her, and she slaps him. All the other people who reside in the same building witness this. Or his children watch their father being thrashed by that lady’s husband. Or his wife witnesses his humiliation and files for divorce. All these scenarios are painful ones, one that is filled with pain and humiliation. Soon his thoughts of this lady will get associated with humiliation, insults, physical attacks and the hurts of his family.
Such exposure therapy, when done in the mind, will lead to aversion. Surely visions of his family witnessing his humiliation will hopefully bring him out of his unhealthy attraction.
This gentleman wrote back saying my mail has helped him to see his folly.
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