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Wednesday, February 27, 2008
NICE BOOK
he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out
/ an excuse is a polite rejection. men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship"
/ don't get tricked into asking him out. if he likes you, he'll do the asking
/ if you can find him, then he can find you. if he wants to find you, he will
/ just because you like to lead doesn't mean he wants to dance. some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.
/ "hey, let's meet at so-and-so's party/any bar/friend's house" is not a date. even if you live in new york.
/ men don't forget how much they like you. so put down the phone.
/ you are good enough to be asked out.
he's just not that into you if he's not calling you
men know how to use the phone
/ if he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind.
/ if he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. be aware of this and realize that he's okay with disappointing you.
/ don't be with someone who doesn't do what they say they're going to do.
/ if he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
/ "busy" is another word for "asshole." "asshole" is another word for the guy you're dating.
/ you deserve a freaking phone call.
he's just not that into you if he's not dating you
"hanging out" is not dating
/ guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen or believe them. "i don't want to be in a serious relationship" truly means "i don't want to be in a serious relationship with you" or "i'm not sure that you're the one." (sorry)
/ better than nothing is not good enough for you!
/ if you don't know where the relationship is going, it's okay to pull over and ask.
/ murky? not good.
/ there's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. quit goofing around and go find him!
he's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else
there's never going to be a good excuse for cheating
/ there is no excuse for cheating let me say it again. there is no excuse for cheating. now you say it. there is no excuse for cheating.
/ your only responsibility;ity in someone else's lapse in judgment is to yourself.
/ cheating is cheating. it doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened.
/ cheating gets easier every time it's done. it's only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone's trust.
/ cheaters never prosper.
/ a cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn't get to be with you.
he's just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he's drunk
if he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgment isn't impaired
/ it doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. an "i love you" (or any semblance thereof) while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won't hold up in court or in life.
/ drinking and drug use are not a path to one's innermost feelings. otherwise people wouldn't smash empty beer cans against their skulls or stick their fingers in fire to see if they can feel anything.
/ if he only wants to see you, talk to you, etc., when he's inebriated, it ain't love---it's sport.
/ bad boys are actually bad.
/you deserve to be with someone who doesn't have to get loaded to be around you.
he's just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you
love cures commitment-phobia
/ "doesn't want to get married" and "doesn't want to get married to me" are very different things. be sure about which category he falls under.
/ if you have different views about marriage, what else are you not on the same page about? time to take inventory.
/ if you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting?
/ there's a guy out there who wants to marry you.
he's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you
"i don't want to go out with you" means just that
/ you can't talk your way out of a breakup. it is not up for discussion. a breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one.
/ he doesn't need to be reminded that you're great.
/ there's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.
he's just not that into you if he's disappeared on you
sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself.
/ he might be lying in the hospital with amnesia, but more likely he's just not that into you.
/ no answer is your answer.
/ don't give him the chance to reject you again.
/ let his mother yell at him. you're too busy.
/ he wasn't good enough for you.
he's just not that into you if he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak
if you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy
/ life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
/ you deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.
/ you already have one asshole. you don't need another.
make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve.
/ have faith. what other choice is there?
Forget Him
Forget his name, forget his face.
Forget his kiss, his warm embrace.
Forget his love that once was true
Remember now, there's someone new
Forget the love you two once shared.
Forget the fact that he once cared.
Forget the times you spent together.
Remember now he's gone forever.
Forget how you cried all night long.
Forget it when they play your song.
Forget how close you two once were.
Remember now that he chose her.
Forget the times he used to phone.
Forget the times you were alone.
Forget he made your dreams come true.
Remember now there’s someone new.
Forget his gentle teasing ways.
Forget how you saw him everyday.
Forget the things you planned to do.
Remember now, she loves him too.
Forget the thrills when he came by.
Forget the times he made you cry.
Forget the way he spoke your name.
Remember now things aren't the same.
Forget the way he held your hand.
Forget the sweet things if you can.
Forget the times that went so fast.
Forget them all, they are in the past.
Forget he said, “I’ll leave you never."
Remember now, he's gone forever.
Monday, February 25, 2008
My Brain Is In Haywire Again
I want nothing more than to be through with you
But how can I be through when there is
nothing to throw away?
Nothing but a friendship that will never blossom
A friendship that I ponder over night and day
I cannot hear you
Thoughts of you run through my head as the sun rises
A phantom in my mind never gone
A brief respite during the moon's journey in the sky
And once again you haunt me with the dawn
I cannot hear you
You pluck the strings of your guitar with familiarity and love
Would that you would pluck the strings of my heart
Instead, your presence torments me for you are not mine
Never will we be together, but neither far apart
I cannot hear you
You will never let me go
You will always unconsciously hold on tight
I will never be free, nor would I want to be
But never will I hear the words to make my soul take flight
I cannot hear you
I have the courage to tell you, but you will never see
You will never tell me what I want to hear
Instead you'll give your soul to another
And my lonely heart will cease to beat and disappear
You cannot see my broken heart,shattered on the floor
I will never hear your heart…
……You will always be blind to me.
But how can I be through when there is
nothing to throw away?
Nothing but a friendship that will never blossom
A friendship that I ponder over night and day
I cannot hear you
Thoughts of you run through my head as the sun rises
A phantom in my mind never gone
A brief respite during the moon's journey in the sky
And once again you haunt me with the dawn
I cannot hear you
You pluck the strings of your guitar with familiarity and love
Would that you would pluck the strings of my heart
Instead, your presence torments me for you are not mine
Never will we be together, but neither far apart
I cannot hear you
You will never let me go
You will always unconsciously hold on tight
I will never be free, nor would I want to be
But never will I hear the words to make my soul take flight
I cannot hear you
I have the courage to tell you, but you will never see
You will never tell me what I want to hear
Instead you'll give your soul to another
And my lonely heart will cease to beat and disappear
You cannot see my broken heart,shattered on the floor
I will never hear your heart…
……You will always be blind to me.
Givin` Up On You
Silence and quiet
Again in my life
Far from these moments, I wish I was
Passion and truth
We were about
Before these shadows stole the beat of our hearts
After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Undo this leash
When you say I tied
When only our fears are to blame this time
And what am I to you
Just spit it out
I'm not afraid of the words that you hide
After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Where do we go
When did it all crash
When did it start to fall apart
Silence and quiet
Passion, the truth
Shadows, only shadows
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up
After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Givin' up, givin' up this fight
Givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up this fight
I'm givin' up, givin' up tonight
Givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Again in my life
Far from these moments, I wish I was
Passion and truth
We were about
Before these shadows stole the beat of our hearts
After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Undo this leash
When you say I tied
When only our fears are to blame this time
And what am I to you
Just spit it out
I'm not afraid of the words that you hide
After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Where do we go
When did it all crash
When did it start to fall apart
Silence and quiet
Passion, the truth
Shadows, only shadows
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up
After all we have been through
I can only look at you
Through the eyes you lied to
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up on you
After all if there is no way out
If you cannot stand beside me
If there isn't love, there is only pride
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
Givin' up, givin' up this fight
Givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up this fight
I'm givin' up, givin' up tonight
Givin' up, givin' up
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up
I'm givin' up, I'm givin' up this fight
For The Brokenhearted
Love hurts. It's a fact that has been established millions of times since people took over this planet. The havoc love can wreak on one's life is a universal truth. Which makes me wonder why no one ever taught us how to deal with it. In school, we were taught our 123s and ABCs. We were equipped with knowledge on sciences and sports. We were instructed on how to cut frogs open, how electricity works, we were even drilled on what to do during an earthquake. But why were we never given a step-by-step recovery guide in case someone trampled on our hearts?
Or were our teachers just as clueless? Were they hurting too? Most people - like us - were left with no choice but to let love be the teacher. And love has a lot of lessons to teach.
You haven't known love if you haven't experienced staring at a phone that just refuses to ring, sobbing loudly into a pillow, wondering why sad songs suddenly become gospel.
True, it's not fun. There is no joy in waking up with swollen eyes, in figuring out what went wrong, in guessing if he still thinks about you, in weighing if there was any truth to anything he ever said, in hoping that there is still a chance.
But find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. There are broken hearts all over the world.
Somewhere in South Africa, a girl is looking through old photos, wondering if she should burn them.
Somewhere in New York, a girl just sent an angry e-mail to an ex and immediately regretted it after.
Somewhere in New Zealand, a boy is getting drunk because the girl he loves is getting married tomorrow.
Somewhere in Spain, a woman just broke down after finding out that her husband is cheating.
You are not alone. Yours is not the first heart to be broken nor will it be the last. But know that the human heart is strong enough to withstand pain and powerful enough to move on and start again.
You will heal, like all the others did, like everyone else will.
Things will get better, although it's hard to imagine now. One day, when you wake up and realize that not all men are evil, you might even decide that you are ready to love again.
In the meantime, I will be here to listen to you denounce love even if we know you don't really mean it. I will be here for late-night pigout sessions. I will be the audience to your drama queen. I will participate in memento-burning ceremonies. I will strap my seatbelt on and go where your mood swings take me. And I will try to stop you from drunk-dialling - and intoxicated texting and e-mailing.
Because if there's one thing a broken heart needs - it's the presence of a friend.
I should know - you showed me that.
Please remember - only your heart is broken..
But you will always be whole to me.
Or were our teachers just as clueless? Were they hurting too? Most people - like us - were left with no choice but to let love be the teacher. And love has a lot of lessons to teach.
You haven't known love if you haven't experienced staring at a phone that just refuses to ring, sobbing loudly into a pillow, wondering why sad songs suddenly become gospel.
True, it's not fun. There is no joy in waking up with swollen eyes, in figuring out what went wrong, in guessing if he still thinks about you, in weighing if there was any truth to anything he ever said, in hoping that there is still a chance.
But find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. There are broken hearts all over the world.
Somewhere in South Africa, a girl is looking through old photos, wondering if she should burn them.
Somewhere in New York, a girl just sent an angry e-mail to an ex and immediately regretted it after.
Somewhere in New Zealand, a boy is getting drunk because the girl he loves is getting married tomorrow.
Somewhere in Spain, a woman just broke down after finding out that her husband is cheating.
You are not alone. Yours is not the first heart to be broken nor will it be the last. But know that the human heart is strong enough to withstand pain and powerful enough to move on and start again.
You will heal, like all the others did, like everyone else will.
Things will get better, although it's hard to imagine now. One day, when you wake up and realize that not all men are evil, you might even decide that you are ready to love again.
In the meantime, I will be here to listen to you denounce love even if we know you don't really mean it. I will be here for late-night pigout sessions. I will be the audience to your drama queen. I will participate in memento-burning ceremonies. I will strap my seatbelt on and go where your mood swings take me. And I will try to stop you from drunk-dialling - and intoxicated texting and e-mailing.
Because if there's one thing a broken heart needs - it's the presence of a friend.
I should know - you showed me that.
Please remember - only your heart is broken..
But you will always be whole to me.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Reasons why I'm not in a relationship right now
I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings
A free bird leaps on the back of the wind
and floats downstream till the current ends
and dips his wing in the orange suns rays and dares to claim the sky.
But a bird that stalks down his narrow cage
can seldom see through his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied so he opens his throat to sing.
The caged bird sings with a fearful trill
of things unknown but longed for still
and his tune is heard on the distant hill
for the caged bird sings of freedom.
The free bird thinks of another breeze
and the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn and he names the sky his own.
But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied so he opens his throat to sing.
The caged bird sings with a fearful trill
of things unknown but longed for still
and his tune is heard on the distant hill
for the caged bird sings of freedom.
I want to be a like a free bird.
Hinihiritan ako ng friend ko na tibo kasi hindi pa ako nagkakaboyfriend at ayoko pa magkaboyfriend. Hindi naman ako na-ooffend kung tinatanong ako ng ganun dahil I know myself naman. Meron ba na tibo na mahilig sa PINK? hehe.. :D
Anyway, on my way home.. sa tagal nang aking biyahe naisip ko ang mga rason kung
bakit ayaw ko pa talaga pumasok sa isang relasyon.
Naikumpara ko tuloy sa sitwasyon ng isang ibon na nakakulong. Ako, si Cheryl na optimistic lagi ay nagiging pessimist pagdating sa isang relasyon. Hahaha! :D
Being in a romantic relationship with someone is like a cage... with all the retrictions, commitment, etc. Pero di mo rin maaalis ang mga good things na naidudulot nito.
Di ba kapag ang isang ibon, kapag kinulong mo at nasanay sa kulungan tapos bigla mo pinakawalan o iniwan na mag-isa maari itong mamatay? Pwede siguro magsurvive din ang ibon depende sa pagiging adaptive ng ibon. Hay, kawawang ibon. After matuwa at maaliw ang tao sa iyo kaya ka niya ginawang alaga, pagkatapos iiwan na lang ang ibon kung bigla nagsawa ang tao.
Heartbreak. I never want to experience this. I fear the feeling of being so vunerable.
Pride. When there is pride in your heart, there is no room for love.
Love. I'm not yet ready for this. But I believe when the right time comes, I will be able to face my fears in having a relationship even the fear of getting my first heartache just to spend one day with a guy I love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
A free bird leaps on the back of the wind
and floats downstream till the current ends
and dips his wing in the orange suns rays and dares to claim the sky.
But a bird that stalks down his narrow cage
can seldom see through his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied so he opens his throat to sing.
The caged bird sings with a fearful trill
of things unknown but longed for still
and his tune is heard on the distant hill
for the caged bird sings of freedom.
The free bird thinks of another breeze
and the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn and he names the sky his own.
But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied so he opens his throat to sing.
The caged bird sings with a fearful trill
of things unknown but longed for still
and his tune is heard on the distant hill
for the caged bird sings of freedom.
I want to be a like a free bird.
Hinihiritan ako ng friend ko na tibo kasi hindi pa ako nagkakaboyfriend at ayoko pa magkaboyfriend. Hindi naman ako na-ooffend kung tinatanong ako ng ganun dahil I know myself naman. Meron ba na tibo na mahilig sa PINK? hehe.. :D
Anyway, on my way home.. sa tagal nang aking biyahe naisip ko ang mga rason kung
bakit ayaw ko pa talaga pumasok sa isang relasyon.
Naikumpara ko tuloy sa sitwasyon ng isang ibon na nakakulong. Ako, si Cheryl na optimistic lagi ay nagiging pessimist pagdating sa isang relasyon. Hahaha! :D
Being in a romantic relationship with someone is like a cage... with all the retrictions, commitment, etc. Pero di mo rin maaalis ang mga good things na naidudulot nito.
Di ba kapag ang isang ibon, kapag kinulong mo at nasanay sa kulungan tapos bigla mo pinakawalan o iniwan na mag-isa maari itong mamatay? Pwede siguro magsurvive din ang ibon depende sa pagiging adaptive ng ibon. Hay, kawawang ibon. After matuwa at maaliw ang tao sa iyo kaya ka niya ginawang alaga, pagkatapos iiwan na lang ang ibon kung bigla nagsawa ang tao.
Heartbreak. I never want to experience this. I fear the feeling of being so vunerable.
Pride. When there is pride in your heart, there is no room for love.
Love. I'm not yet ready for this. But I believe when the right time comes, I will be able to face my fears in having a relationship even the fear of getting my first heartache just to spend one day with a guy I love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Random Thoughts
* i watched legally blonde for the nth time last night. it's so funny. anyway, elle woods mentioned a lot of things regarding one's hair. i want to change the look of my hair. i just don't know what exactly to do with it. i can have it cut or have it permed. let's see…
* it's annoying that people always demands an explanation, even at situations where it isn't necessary. i hate explaining why i do some things, especially if they're unconventional things.
* it feels so weird whenever i go out with some guy friends [i don't go out on dates, esp. after reading "i kissed dating goodbye." i just hang out with friends once in a while]. i guess, i've been so used to going out with only one guy. but i'm having fun now, anyway.
* there are opportunities to go out on a date, i just don't take them. i'm not comfortable with it. i meet some guys because of work, but no one has really caught my attention. they're awesome guys, but they're not "somebody" nor "someone." [the hell with me, i can't think of creative codenames].
* loraine wants to play matchmaker and wants to pair me up with a writer she met in a media trip to lb. oh well, let's see if he's interesting. she said, he looks like dennis trillo. hmm…
* there are things about me that i want to tell "someone." but i'm a bit scared of what his reaction might be. it has nothing to do with him, but i think telling him this will make me feel at peace and will somehow shed light on why i'm acting like this now.
* i don't want to be pretentious when i deal with "someone." i don't care if he thinks i'm weird, malabo, maldita and mataray. i tell him what's on my mind [most of it]. i tell him what i feel [well, at least about my faith, depression, confusion and feelings for my ex. i'm quiet about my feelings for him]. whenever i'm with him and whenever i talk to him, i can be myself. there are no masks, no covers, no fronting images -just my flawed imperfect self.
* i'm reading the book, "let me be a woman." it has become one of my favorite books even if i hadn't finished it yet. it talks about being a woman and being a woman for God. cool.
* i need a prayer journal. there are a lot of things and a lot of people t'm praying for.
* i don't understand why books that doubles as a journal are too expensive. there's less text and less ink is needed to print, but they're still too expensive!
* quoting ricky: is it possible for things to become a lot worse when they're already bad enough.
* musing on what ricky said: yup, things can still be a lot worse. when it rains, it really pours…
* a friend and i were talking one time. we were talking about the issue that when you have become a Christian, that's actually when the temptation is greater and the tests are harder. when you've become a Christian that doesn't mean you've become a saint or an angel. and it doesn't mean you won't have problems anymore. things change though because you learn to trust everything to God.
* God gives the best to those who leave Him the choice.
* i like reading joanna's blog. well, maybe because i see similarities between her situation and mine. anyway, she had a recent entry where she said she thought that maybe she's a jerk magnet. well, she's not alone…
* well, "someone" isn't a jerk [but we're not romantically involved anyway]. he's actually a nice guy, that's the reason why i don't want to do anything stupid and make things unpleasant between us.
* i have a friend who had a crush on "someone" when we were all still in high school. she knows about my current feelings about "someone," she said it's fine with her [i hope it really is]. but i assured her that nothing romantic is going on between us. "someone" is very loyal to "some girl."
* i miss "somebody" [the hell ma-anne, the hell]
* i received a free ringtone today from gentext and it's "sa kanya" of mymp. i hate that song. i hate it so much.. anyway, i don't want its lyrics to be applicable to me. hello! i want to be happy with someone else [not necessarily "someone" hahaha].
* i told a friend last night that i believe men are naturally polygamous and women just have to bear with it [words from a martyr, i guess]. i don't know what he thought of what i said.
* sometimes i can be such a silly girl.
* what friends say regarding me ending up back to my ex:
"huwag na ma-anne, masasaktan ka lang lalo." -gnd friends
"it wouldn't work." -loraine
"light and darkness cannot co-exist. saved ka na. hindi mo na dapat icompromise iyon." -Christian friend.
* i don't know if i should be flattered, but i'm actually annoyed that there are guys who use lousy pick-up lines to get my attention when I walk alone inside a mall. and there are guys who take my picture without permission. [what the hell will they do with my photos?!?]
* a friend asked me when was the last time i cried. hmmm… the other sunday? cool, i haven't cried for a week.
* ignorance is bliss… what you don't know, won't hurt you.
* sarah is abraham's wife. God promised abraham that he'll be the father of all nations through his wife sarah. but they became old and still they had no child. so sarah gave her servant hagar to abraham so that hagar will bear children for her. but God fulfilled His promise to sarah and abraham, even if it took a long time. they had a son - isaac. now conflict arose with sarah and hagar because of their children. hagar was sent away. and up to this day this conflict between these two women is still manifested between israelites and other tribes in their area. moral of the story: God has His own timetable. we might not understand it, but He'll fulfill His promise in the best time. and if we do something that isn't according to His plan, things wouldn't turn out well.
* it's annoying that people always demands an explanation, even at situations where it isn't necessary. i hate explaining why i do some things, especially if they're unconventional things.
* it feels so weird whenever i go out with some guy friends [i don't go out on dates, esp. after reading "i kissed dating goodbye." i just hang out with friends once in a while]. i guess, i've been so used to going out with only one guy. but i'm having fun now, anyway.
* there are opportunities to go out on a date, i just don't take them. i'm not comfortable with it. i meet some guys because of work, but no one has really caught my attention. they're awesome guys, but they're not "somebody" nor "someone." [the hell with me, i can't think of creative codenames].
* loraine wants to play matchmaker and wants to pair me up with a writer she met in a media trip to lb. oh well, let's see if he's interesting. she said, he looks like dennis trillo. hmm…
* there are things about me that i want to tell "someone." but i'm a bit scared of what his reaction might be. it has nothing to do with him, but i think telling him this will make me feel at peace and will somehow shed light on why i'm acting like this now.
* i don't want to be pretentious when i deal with "someone." i don't care if he thinks i'm weird, malabo, maldita and mataray. i tell him what's on my mind [most of it]. i tell him what i feel [well, at least about my faith, depression, confusion and feelings for my ex. i'm quiet about my feelings for him]. whenever i'm with him and whenever i talk to him, i can be myself. there are no masks, no covers, no fronting images -just my flawed imperfect self.
* i'm reading the book, "let me be a woman." it has become one of my favorite books even if i hadn't finished it yet. it talks about being a woman and being a woman for God. cool.
* i need a prayer journal. there are a lot of things and a lot of people t'm praying for.
* i don't understand why books that doubles as a journal are too expensive. there's less text and less ink is needed to print, but they're still too expensive!
* quoting ricky: is it possible for things to become a lot worse when they're already bad enough.
* musing on what ricky said: yup, things can still be a lot worse. when it rains, it really pours…
* a friend and i were talking one time. we were talking about the issue that when you have become a Christian, that's actually when the temptation is greater and the tests are harder. when you've become a Christian that doesn't mean you've become a saint or an angel. and it doesn't mean you won't have problems anymore. things change though because you learn to trust everything to God.
* God gives the best to those who leave Him the choice.
* i like reading joanna's blog. well, maybe because i see similarities between her situation and mine. anyway, she had a recent entry where she said she thought that maybe she's a jerk magnet. well, she's not alone…
* well, "someone" isn't a jerk [but we're not romantically involved anyway]. he's actually a nice guy, that's the reason why i don't want to do anything stupid and make things unpleasant between us.
* i have a friend who had a crush on "someone" when we were all still in high school. she knows about my current feelings about "someone," she said it's fine with her [i hope it really is]. but i assured her that nothing romantic is going on between us. "someone" is very loyal to "some girl."
* i miss "somebody" [the hell ma-anne, the hell]
* i received a free ringtone today from gentext and it's "sa kanya" of mymp. i hate that song. i hate it so much.. anyway, i don't want its lyrics to be applicable to me. hello! i want to be happy with someone else [not necessarily "someone" hahaha].
* i told a friend last night that i believe men are naturally polygamous and women just have to bear with it [words from a martyr, i guess]. i don't know what he thought of what i said.
* sometimes i can be such a silly girl.
* what friends say regarding me ending up back to my ex:
"huwag na ma-anne, masasaktan ka lang lalo." -gnd friends
"it wouldn't work." -loraine
"light and darkness cannot co-exist. saved ka na. hindi mo na dapat icompromise iyon." -Christian friend.
* i don't know if i should be flattered, but i'm actually annoyed that there are guys who use lousy pick-up lines to get my attention when I walk alone inside a mall. and there are guys who take my picture without permission. [what the hell will they do with my photos?!?]
* a friend asked me when was the last time i cried. hmmm… the other sunday? cool, i haven't cried for a week.
* ignorance is bliss… what you don't know, won't hurt you.
* sarah is abraham's wife. God promised abraham that he'll be the father of all nations through his wife sarah. but they became old and still they had no child. so sarah gave her servant hagar to abraham so that hagar will bear children for her. but God fulfilled His promise to sarah and abraham, even if it took a long time. they had a son - isaac. now conflict arose with sarah and hagar because of their children. hagar was sent away. and up to this day this conflict between these two women is still manifested between israelites and other tribes in their area. moral of the story: God has His own timetable. we might not understand it, but He'll fulfill His promise in the best time. and if we do something that isn't according to His plan, things wouldn't turn out well.
Saturday, February 23, 2008
Ever After Ends
No one wants to have a sad ending but there’s no such thing a happily ever after.
I was running away without think where to go and until when should I run I just want to get away from here, from everybody and most of all from you. I keep stumbling on strangers who offered their hands but just like anybody they wanted something in return something I can’t give them.
If I tried to indulge myself on every opportunity I wonder what could have been left of me now. Why can’t they need me because they wanted to give me something instead they needed me because they wanted something from me. Is it how the world works now?
It’s happening once again. History is just repeating on to me. Am I to be blame? Yes I know I should be the one to be blame. I was careless and I never really learned. I keep on rushing on love and look where it took me. I believe in your words but tears flowed in my eyes. But in the end I should have known; you where just a boy but I expected a man out of you.
You have said your goodbyes I didn’t mind for it is what I’m dying to hear just let me have my peace once again. Yes you have hurt me I have cried to it but please I’m not begging you anything because when it ends it’s really over. I don’t usually look back to it. I don’t mind my loneliness again I’m used to live my life, I breathe and I live. I could say that I had enough for myself to live and yet why is it that I’m still incomplete?
Hope someday you’ll remember me this way: ea is sweet, she’s caring, thoughtful, she’s special, she’s my friend and I’m glad for once she’s been mine.
screaming thoughts
On twist of faith I was brought to this stranger’s arms without hesitation on the consequences of such actions. Now in my confusion I’m asking myself: was my quest been concluded then or this is just the succession of one’s endeavor for another pursuit.
Sweet resentments still lingered in my heart that I find things hard to let go. But being cuddled warmly and pampered with such touch how can I be oblivious with it. Every embrace promises love and every kiss burns with such ardor unraveling within me making me forget that once I lay freezing in the sands on one cold night.
I feel like indulging if this is what being with him awaits me I want to kiss yesterday goodbye. Finally I was able to stop the madness that slowly wrecking me. If only he’ll give me enough time to rearrange everything so that I can wholly bestow thy heart that longed for and to love.
Is this for real maybe where just moving too fast….
It’s not easy to be me; it’s not easy to disregard a year of living a half-life. Hoping, chasing and dreaming that one-day you will be loved too. Waiting in vain. Giving and losing yourself at once. I’m aware he found it hard to know me as well.
Sometimes I’m blunt I hate the feeling of being helpless and vulnerable to someone. Cause when your weak people tend to take advantage of you. And when I’m on the verge of anger I breakdown and cry. Tears the remedy for pain.
But twice I’ve been save by the coldness of the night from terrible pain. I can’t bear the hurt but because of too much coldness I felt numb I wasn’t able to shed my tears.
Why such things had to happen, does everybody doesn’t want me to be happy? It must be me, I shall take the blame, the fault is my own. Everything is going in circles it’s happening again.
What a perfect setting: one rainy night I lay all my cards; I wasn’t hoping for anything just the end of this misery. Coldness surrounding me willing and ready to comfort me. Shall I tell you now? Or I’ll just continue torturing myself thinking of what the hell is going on with you?
Is this your definition of love? Then you haven’t loved at all. I tried on any level of comprehension a person can do, to understand you but how long does it going to be like this? If you no longer needed me in your life then please let me fly someone else might want to take care of me.
After all I alone made all the decisions for my actions and its evident that I shall be blame on the consequence of these. Sometimes you have to see yourself on a different angle to know your mistakes..
I was running away without think where to go and until when should I run I just want to get away from here, from everybody and most of all from you. I keep stumbling on strangers who offered their hands but just like anybody they wanted something in return something I can’t give them.
If I tried to indulge myself on every opportunity I wonder what could have been left of me now. Why can’t they need me because they wanted to give me something instead they needed me because they wanted something from me. Is it how the world works now?
It’s happening once again. History is just repeating on to me. Am I to be blame? Yes I know I should be the one to be blame. I was careless and I never really learned. I keep on rushing on love and look where it took me. I believe in your words but tears flowed in my eyes. But in the end I should have known; you where just a boy but I expected a man out of you.
You have said your goodbyes I didn’t mind for it is what I’m dying to hear just let me have my peace once again. Yes you have hurt me I have cried to it but please I’m not begging you anything because when it ends it’s really over. I don’t usually look back to it. I don’t mind my loneliness again I’m used to live my life, I breathe and I live. I could say that I had enough for myself to live and yet why is it that I’m still incomplete?
Hope someday you’ll remember me this way: ea is sweet, she’s caring, thoughtful, she’s special, she’s my friend and I’m glad for once she’s been mine.
screaming thoughts
On twist of faith I was brought to this stranger’s arms without hesitation on the consequences of such actions. Now in my confusion I’m asking myself: was my quest been concluded then or this is just the succession of one’s endeavor for another pursuit.
Sweet resentments still lingered in my heart that I find things hard to let go. But being cuddled warmly and pampered with such touch how can I be oblivious with it. Every embrace promises love and every kiss burns with such ardor unraveling within me making me forget that once I lay freezing in the sands on one cold night.
I feel like indulging if this is what being with him awaits me I want to kiss yesterday goodbye. Finally I was able to stop the madness that slowly wrecking me. If only he’ll give me enough time to rearrange everything so that I can wholly bestow thy heart that longed for and to love.
Is this for real maybe where just moving too fast….
It’s not easy to be me; it’s not easy to disregard a year of living a half-life. Hoping, chasing and dreaming that one-day you will be loved too. Waiting in vain. Giving and losing yourself at once. I’m aware he found it hard to know me as well.
Sometimes I’m blunt I hate the feeling of being helpless and vulnerable to someone. Cause when your weak people tend to take advantage of you. And when I’m on the verge of anger I breakdown and cry. Tears the remedy for pain.
But twice I’ve been save by the coldness of the night from terrible pain. I can’t bear the hurt but because of too much coldness I felt numb I wasn’t able to shed my tears.
Why such things had to happen, does everybody doesn’t want me to be happy? It must be me, I shall take the blame, the fault is my own. Everything is going in circles it’s happening again.
What a perfect setting: one rainy night I lay all my cards; I wasn’t hoping for anything just the end of this misery. Coldness surrounding me willing and ready to comfort me. Shall I tell you now? Or I’ll just continue torturing myself thinking of what the hell is going on with you?
Is this your definition of love? Then you haven’t loved at all. I tried on any level of comprehension a person can do, to understand you but how long does it going to be like this? If you no longer needed me in your life then please let me fly someone else might want to take care of me.
After all I alone made all the decisions for my actions and its evident that I shall be blame on the consequence of these. Sometimes you have to see yourself on a different angle to know your mistakes..
100% true.
1. There are at least two people in
this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world
love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever
hate you is because they want to be
just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring
happiness to anyone, even if they
don't like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about
you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique.
8. Someone that you don't even know
exists loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake
ever, something good comes from it.
10. When you think the world has
turned its back on you take another
look.
11. Always remember the compliments
you received. Forget about the rude
remarks.
So..........If you are a loving
friend, send this to everyone,
including the one that sent it to you.
If you get it back, then they really
do love you.
And always remember....when life hands
you Lemons, ask for tequila and salt
and call me over!
Good friends are like stars........You
don't always see them,
But you know they are always there.
"Whenever God Closes One Door He
Always Opens Another, Even Though
Sometimes It's Hell in the Hallway"
I would rather have one rose and a
kind word from a friend while I'm here
than a whole truck load when I'm gone.
RETURN TO SENDER
Forward to all your friends, including
me. And don't tell me you're too busy
for this. Don't you know the
phrase "stop and smell the flowers"?
See how many "bouquets" you end up
with.
this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world
love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever
hate you is because they want to be
just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring
happiness to anyone, even if they
don't like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about
you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique.
8. Someone that you don't even know
exists loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake
ever, something good comes from it.
10. When you think the world has
turned its back on you take another
look.
11. Always remember the compliments
you received. Forget about the rude
remarks.
So..........If you are a loving
friend, send this to everyone,
including the one that sent it to you.
If you get it back, then they really
do love you.
And always remember....when life hands
you Lemons, ask for tequila and salt
and call me over!
Good friends are like stars........You
don't always see them,
But you know they are always there.
"Whenever God Closes One Door He
Always Opens Another, Even Though
Sometimes It's Hell in the Hallway"
I would rather have one rose and a
kind word from a friend while I'm here
than a whole truck load when I'm gone.
RETURN TO SENDER
Forward to all your friends, including
me. And don't tell me you're too busy
for this. Don't you know the
phrase "stop and smell the flowers"?
See how many "bouquets" you end up
with.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Take just a minute to take this test & see what happens!
1. Which is your favorite color: RED, BLACK, BLUE, GREEM, or YELLOW?
2. Your first initial?
3. Your month of birth?
4. Which color do you like more , BLACK or WHITE?
5. Name of a person of the same sex as yours.
6. Your favorite number?
7. Do you like MANILA or CEBU more?
8. Do you like a LAKE or the OCEAN more?
9. Write down a wish (a realistic one)
When you're done, scroll down. Don't cheat
ANSWERS:
1. If you choose:
RED - You are alert and your life is full of love.
BLACK - you are conservative an d aggressive.
GREEN - Your soul is relaxed and you are laid back
BLUE - You are spontaneous and love kisses and affection from the
ones you love.
YELLOW - You are a very happy person and give good advice to those
who are down.
2. If your initial is:
A-K - You have a lot of love and friendships in your life.
L-R - You try to enjoy your life to the maximum and your love life
is soon to blossom.
S-Z - You like to help others and you r future love life looks very good.
3. If you were born in:
JAN - MAR: The year will go very well for you and you will discover
that you fall in love with someone totally unexpected.
APR - JUN: You will have a strong love relationship that will last forever.
JUL - SEP: You will have a great year and will experience a major life-changing experience for the good.
OCT - DEC: Your love life will be great, you will find your soul mate.
4. If you chose...
BLACK: Your life will take on a different direction, it will be the
best thing for you, and you will be glad for the change.
WHITE: You have a friend who Completely confides in you and would do anything for you, but you may not realize it.
5. This person should be your best friend.
6. This is how many close friends you will have in your lifetime.
7. If you chose:
MANILA: You like adventure.
CEBU: You are a laid back person.
8 . If you chose:
LAKE: You are loyal to your friends and your lover and are very reserved.
OCEAN: You are spontaneous and like to please people.
Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two
1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you..
2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.
6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with y our smile.
7. To the world you may be one person, out to one person you may be the world.
8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.
10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.
13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
True friends: How many people actually have 8 true friends?
Hardly anyone I know ! But some of us have all right friends and good friends!!!
You have been Tagged by the Green Dog!
2. Your first initial?
3. Your month of birth?
4. Which color do you like more , BLACK or WHITE?
5. Name of a person of the same sex as yours.
6. Your favorite number?
7. Do you like MANILA or CEBU more?
8. Do you like a LAKE or the OCEAN more?
9. Write down a wish (a realistic one)
When you're done, scroll down. Don't cheat
ANSWERS:
1. If you choose:
RED - You are alert and your life is full of love.
BLACK - you are conservative an d aggressive.
GREEN - Your soul is relaxed and you are laid back
BLUE - You are spontaneous and love kisses and affection from the
ones you love.
YELLOW - You are a very happy person and give good advice to those
who are down.
2. If your initial is:
A-K - You have a lot of love and friendships in your life.
L-R - You try to enjoy your life to the maximum and your love life
is soon to blossom.
S-Z - You like to help others and you r future love life looks very good.
3. If you were born in:
JAN - MAR: The year will go very well for you and you will discover
that you fall in love with someone totally unexpected.
APR - JUN: You will have a strong love relationship that will last forever.
JUL - SEP: You will have a great year and will experience a major life-changing experience for the good.
OCT - DEC: Your love life will be great, you will find your soul mate.
4. If you chose...
BLACK: Your life will take on a different direction, it will be the
best thing for you, and you will be glad for the change.
WHITE: You have a friend who Completely confides in you and would do anything for you, but you may not realize it.
5. This person should be your best friend.
6. This is how many close friends you will have in your lifetime.
7. If you chose:
MANILA: You like adventure.
CEBU: You are a laid back person.
8 . If you chose:
LAKE: You are loyal to your friends and your lover and are very reserved.
OCEAN: You are spontaneous and like to please people.
Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two
1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you..
2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.
6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with y our smile.
7. To the world you may be one person, out to one person you may be the world.
8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.
10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.
13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
True friends: How many people actually have 8 true friends?
Hardly anyone I know ! But some of us have all right friends and good friends!!!
You have been Tagged by the Green Dog!
I'm sorry, i left a hole
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. WHEN YOU SAY THINGS IN ANGER, THEY LEAVE A SCAR JUST LIKE THIS ONE. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, THE WOUND IS STILL THERE. " A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us."
Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.
YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!
Now send this to every friend you have!!And to your family.
PLEASE FORGIVE ME IF I HAVE EVER LEFT A HOLE...
Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us."
Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.
YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!
Now send this to every friend you have!!And to your family.
PLEASE FORGIVE ME IF I HAVE EVER LEFT A HOLE...
Monday, February 18, 2008
What a life?
Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate,neighbor, coworker, longlost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger) but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience help to create who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
Make every day count!!! Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before,and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.
*MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!* If you LOVE someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store!!!
And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience help to create who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
Make every day count!!! Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before,and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.
*MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!* If you LOVE someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store!!!
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Friendship and Love
Get the best feeling in the world when you say "Hi" or smile at me, because I know that even for a second that I've crossed your mind.
The shortest word for me is I
The sweetest
word for me is LOVE
The only one for me is YOU
Love is like sunshine. It brings a golden glow to its beholder's face. And a warm feeling all over their body. It awakens souls and opens eyes. And when its over, it leaves billions of small memories called stars. To remind the world, that it still exists.
When you love someone, it's something. When someone loves you, it's another thing. When you love the person who loves you back, it's everything
If you're mad with someone , and nobody's there to fix the
situation... You fix it .
Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend . And if u
don't, tomorrow can be too late
If you're in love with somebody , but that person doesn't know... tell her/him.
Maybe today, that person is also in love with you,,,,
And if you don't say it, tomorrow can be too late .
If you still love a person that you think has forgotten you...
tell her/him.
Maybe that person have always loved you. And if you don't tell
her/him today , tomorrow can be too late
If you need a hug of a friend... ask her/him for it.
Maybe they need it more than you do. And if you don't ask for
it today, tomorrow can be too late.
If you really have friends who you appreciate... tell them.
Maybe they appreciate you as well. That if you don't and they
leave or go far away today , tomorrow can be too late.
"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him."
"Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands, but like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides, and following them, you reach your destiny."
To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to."
Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it
Good friends are like stars
Good FRIENDS are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget..
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
Can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
Don't take life too serious. You'll never escape it alive anyway
If I should stay I will only be in your way so i'm go but i know I think of you every step throughway
and I will olways love you I will always love you you my dolling you because sweet man mores there's on I'm taking with me so good by please don't Cray you need I will always love you I will always love you I home life tech you come and I home you have are you dream dup and I wish you joy and happen noise and above this I wishing you …..
The shortest word for me is I
The sweetest
word for me is LOVE
The only one for me is YOU
Love is like sunshine. It brings a golden glow to its beholder's face. And a warm feeling all over their body. It awakens souls and opens eyes. And when its over, it leaves billions of small memories called stars. To remind the world, that it still exists.
When you love someone, it's something. When someone loves you, it's another thing. When you love the person who loves you back, it's everything
If you're mad with someone , and nobody's there to fix the
situation... You fix it .
Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend . And if u
don't, tomorrow can be too late
If you're in love with somebody , but that person doesn't know... tell her/him.
Maybe today, that person is also in love with you,,,,
And if you don't say it, tomorrow can be too late .
If you still love a person that you think has forgotten you...
tell her/him.
Maybe that person have always loved you. And if you don't tell
her/him today , tomorrow can be too late
If you need a hug of a friend... ask her/him for it.
Maybe they need it more than you do. And if you don't ask for
it today, tomorrow can be too late.
If you really have friends who you appreciate... tell them.
Maybe they appreciate you as well. That if you don't and they
leave or go far away today , tomorrow can be too late.
"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him."
"Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands, but like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides, and following them, you reach your destiny."
To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to."
Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it
Good friends are like stars
Good FRIENDS are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget..
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
Can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
Don't take life too serious. You'll never escape it alive anyway
If I should stay I will only be in your way so i'm go but i know I think of you every step throughway
and I will olways love you I will always love you you my dolling you because sweet man mores there's on I'm taking with me so good by please don't Cray you need I will always love you I will always love you I home life tech you come and I home you have are you dream dup and I wish you joy and happen noise and above this I wishing you …..
Thursday, December 27, 2007
where did it all go wrong?
I was drawn into a heated discussion with Dot this week. We discussed the never ending issue of heartbreak. We talked about this before, but it decided to resurface again. How does heartbreak differ between different relationship situations? The situations we saw were, 1) Jumping into a relationship without knowing a person first and 2) falling in love or jumping into a relationship with a close friend. I wanted to know how did getting over these relationship breakups differ?
I’ve had all sorts of relationships, some weird and some which felt like I had found the one, and I’ve also fallen in love. When I broke up from a relationship with a guy or girl who I didn’t really know completely about the period of heartbreak was only short. It took only about a week to 2-3 months to get over. When I was in a serious relationship with a person who was once a close friend and we broke up, it took me a year to get over it and to be able to talk to that person again. Still now I hold a tiny grudge against that relationship. Then I fell in love with someone I couldn’t have. Someone who I knew and just admired.
In most short-term relationship we get over them pretty well. The hardest relationship breakups to get over though are the ones where we’ve poured our whole heart and soul into it. Not only were you just holding each other in a relationship, but you’re also each others bestfriend. When things go wrong though you feel betrayed. Friendship is hard to hold onto after a breakup because you just focus too much on the hurt. Unless you had a ‘real’ mutual breakup then it’d be easier to handle. The heart works in mysterious ways.
Falling in love and getting over that person after being rejected though is another story. You try to do whatever’s best for the situation. Sometimes you see things which cause you to be confused. You prioritise what is important, having a relationship with this person? or maintaining a healthy friendship? Then you think everything is right now, until change suddenly happens after commiting yourself to maintaining that friendship. I have felt betrayal, I have felt left out. Sometimes the obsessiong can turn into hate. So I try to express myself in ways which don’t harm me. As an artsy person I express my feelings through my music or scribbles. I also try not to put myself in situations where i’m aggravated by thoughts.
There are no real answers to heartbreak. All I did was a slight comparison in my own opinion. People see things and experience things differently. I guess it just takes a few burns before we find the right partner or the right friend.
God bless & Peace out
I’ve had all sorts of relationships, some weird and some which felt like I had found the one, and I’ve also fallen in love. When I broke up from a relationship with a guy or girl who I didn’t really know completely about the period of heartbreak was only short. It took only about a week to 2-3 months to get over. When I was in a serious relationship with a person who was once a close friend and we broke up, it took me a year to get over it and to be able to talk to that person again. Still now I hold a tiny grudge against that relationship. Then I fell in love with someone I couldn’t have. Someone who I knew and just admired.
In most short-term relationship we get over them pretty well. The hardest relationship breakups to get over though are the ones where we’ve poured our whole heart and soul into it. Not only were you just holding each other in a relationship, but you’re also each others bestfriend. When things go wrong though you feel betrayed. Friendship is hard to hold onto after a breakup because you just focus too much on the hurt. Unless you had a ‘real’ mutual breakup then it’d be easier to handle. The heart works in mysterious ways.
Falling in love and getting over that person after being rejected though is another story. You try to do whatever’s best for the situation. Sometimes you see things which cause you to be confused. You prioritise what is important, having a relationship with this person? or maintaining a healthy friendship? Then you think everything is right now, until change suddenly happens after commiting yourself to maintaining that friendship. I have felt betrayal, I have felt left out. Sometimes the obsessiong can turn into hate. So I try to express myself in ways which don’t harm me. As an artsy person I express my feelings through my music or scribbles. I also try not to put myself in situations where i’m aggravated by thoughts.
There are no real answers to heartbreak. All I did was a slight comparison in my own opinion. People see things and experience things differently. I guess it just takes a few burns before we find the right partner or the right friend.
God bless & Peace out
pinkie promise…
I haven’t touched this Wordpress in ages. It’s time I updated with a brief look on my thoughts about ‘Promises.’
Making promises.We’ll always say that we’d keep them but somehow our tongue always slips or we just simply forget we made them. To be honest, i for one do not like to keep promises. I’m a very forgetful person and so therefore when a person asks me to do something for them I only say, “I’ll try, but I can’t promise.” Making promises sometimes puts us into a lot of trouble. Sometimes we get hurt when a promise isn’t kept.
She what?! He what?! Forgot their promise with you, broke it? It hurts. Yes it hurts. I see making promises a way of putting candy floss, cushions, clouds and other sweet things ontop a mountain of selfishness. To me a promise is like the sugar ontop. It’s a sign of ownage. You make someone promise, that is a sign of power. I don’t want promises, i want to be certain that what I ask for is done now. But if you see a task that is hard to do yet you force a person to promise on it, please don’t complain you’re hurt. If they promised to buy you something understand their circumstances, maybe they’re just making you wait so that yo appreciate things more. If it is something serious that tears you apart, pulls your heart out and throws it against the wall, then obviously who’s fault is it? You own for trusting this person. There you learn your mistakes.
“Oh…oops sorry I forgot about that.” The line that we wish will never leave our lips. I put my hands up to forgetting things i’ve promised to people. They get angry with you and if it’s something really important, like a close friend’s engagement party, then they don’t talk to you for a long time (lucky for me that engagement broke up, i saw the end of it coming). The only way to squeeze our way out of these problems. Think before you speak. We make promises to the people we love, but sometimes (because we’re all human!) we forget. If you’re sure you’re going to keep the promise freaking stick post-its everywhere to remind yourself (like me). If it’s a promise meant to be kept secret well my strategy? “Oh it’ll stay a secret if you want to tell me because I forget.” Most secrets i’ve sworn not to telling are all forgotten and are only triggered by things that remind me about it. Sometimes i’d forget it for about a year, then something will spark me to remember it. But still avoid making hard-to-do promises. If you’re really sure about it then make that promise, if not, just take my line, “I’ll will or will not, I can’t make it a promise.” It should be understandable, unless the person is everly selfish and wants you to be owned by them. That is called PAWNAGE! Don’t become his/her bitch! Think before you speak, that is something extremely valuable to me.
Promises, promises, promises. If you can’t keep them then don’t make them. If they can’t keep them, then don’t tell them. Learn to contemplate promises. Promises can draw people together, but remember, the hurt that sometimes comes from broken promises can tear people apart. You just have to understand that not all promises can be kept, just like how people like to say, “rules were made to be broken.” *sigh* how I love cliches.
Making promises.We’ll always say that we’d keep them but somehow our tongue always slips or we just simply forget we made them. To be honest, i for one do not like to keep promises. I’m a very forgetful person and so therefore when a person asks me to do something for them I only say, “I’ll try, but I can’t promise.” Making promises sometimes puts us into a lot of trouble. Sometimes we get hurt when a promise isn’t kept.
She what?! He what?! Forgot their promise with you, broke it? It hurts. Yes it hurts. I see making promises a way of putting candy floss, cushions, clouds and other sweet things ontop a mountain of selfishness. To me a promise is like the sugar ontop. It’s a sign of ownage. You make someone promise, that is a sign of power. I don’t want promises, i want to be certain that what I ask for is done now. But if you see a task that is hard to do yet you force a person to promise on it, please don’t complain you’re hurt. If they promised to buy you something understand their circumstances, maybe they’re just making you wait so that yo appreciate things more. If it is something serious that tears you apart, pulls your heart out and throws it against the wall, then obviously who’s fault is it? You own for trusting this person. There you learn your mistakes.
“Oh…oops sorry I forgot about that.” The line that we wish will never leave our lips. I put my hands up to forgetting things i’ve promised to people. They get angry with you and if it’s something really important, like a close friend’s engagement party, then they don’t talk to you for a long time (lucky for me that engagement broke up, i saw the end of it coming). The only way to squeeze our way out of these problems. Think before you speak. We make promises to the people we love, but sometimes (because we’re all human!) we forget. If you’re sure you’re going to keep the promise freaking stick post-its everywhere to remind yourself (like me). If it’s a promise meant to be kept secret well my strategy? “Oh it’ll stay a secret if you want to tell me because I forget.” Most secrets i’ve sworn not to telling are all forgotten and are only triggered by things that remind me about it. Sometimes i’d forget it for about a year, then something will spark me to remember it. But still avoid making hard-to-do promises. If you’re really sure about it then make that promise, if not, just take my line, “I’ll will or will not, I can’t make it a promise.” It should be understandable, unless the person is everly selfish and wants you to be owned by them. That is called PAWNAGE! Don’t become his/her bitch! Think before you speak, that is something extremely valuable to me.
Promises, promises, promises. If you can’t keep them then don’t make them. If they can’t keep them, then don’t tell them. Learn to contemplate promises. Promises can draw people together, but remember, the hurt that sometimes comes from broken promises can tear people apart. You just have to understand that not all promises can be kept, just like how people like to say, “rules were made to be broken.” *sigh* how I love cliches.
Monday, December 17, 2007
why only now?…
We can have very strong feelings for people, but it doesn't mean we should act on it. There will always be struggles between the heart and mind. For myself, i'm a person who tends to follow her heart, a lot. Then there are times when I need to think logically. Yet again i'm notorious for not thinking before I speak or act.
Feelings are hard to get rid off, but be reminded, feelings don't always last. What the heart wants isn't always what the mind wants. Still we keep thinking about these feelings, breaking them down and looking at them over again. sometimes it hurts other times we look at them blankly. Feelings, emotions, can really screw around with your perception though. It can cause you to lose focus on goals in your life.
People sacrifice a lot of things to follow their heart. The outcome can either be good or bad. I guess this is why we put a lot of thoughts in our feelings. It's hard to tell the difference between love and lust. Like in my previous post about finding "the one." How do you know? How can you tell? What is it that you're meant to feel when you find them? There's just too many questions to ask. How can you trust what you're feeling right now? Have you noticed how we don't really choose carefully who we fall in love with, yet we take our time to carefully choose our enemies? Love, is unpredictable.
Currently i'm raged by a million thoughts which I thought I had forgotten. Really I don't want them in my mind, but they are there. I can keep denying it to myself, I can distract myself, but they will always float back. My body isn't handling it well. There's so many thoughts which I wish I could just tell to go away. My mind is in a jumble, my heart is yelling out insults and pulling rude gestures at it. My "feelings" are extremely strong. I've tried everything possible to suppress them, but they've always been there. Really I just wish I could die, but it's pretty much craziness. The only question I can ask myself is, "Why?"
As strong as feelings can be we have to have the right reasons to make the right decisions. The mind and heart are like split entities. They like to argue with each other and sometimes they like to agree with one another. So it's confusing when you want to act on your heart's desires, but your brain is screaming "NO" at you.
God Bless & Peace Out!
Feelings are hard to get rid off, but be reminded, feelings don't always last. What the heart wants isn't always what the mind wants. Still we keep thinking about these feelings, breaking them down and looking at them over again. sometimes it hurts other times we look at them blankly. Feelings, emotions, can really screw around with your perception though. It can cause you to lose focus on goals in your life.
People sacrifice a lot of things to follow their heart. The outcome can either be good or bad. I guess this is why we put a lot of thoughts in our feelings. It's hard to tell the difference between love and lust. Like in my previous post about finding "the one." How do you know? How can you tell? What is it that you're meant to feel when you find them? There's just too many questions to ask. How can you trust what you're feeling right now? Have you noticed how we don't really choose carefully who we fall in love with, yet we take our time to carefully choose our enemies? Love, is unpredictable.
Currently i'm raged by a million thoughts which I thought I had forgotten. Really I don't want them in my mind, but they are there. I can keep denying it to myself, I can distract myself, but they will always float back. My body isn't handling it well. There's so many thoughts which I wish I could just tell to go away. My mind is in a jumble, my heart is yelling out insults and pulling rude gestures at it. My "feelings" are extremely strong. I've tried everything possible to suppress them, but they've always been there. Really I just wish I could die, but it's pretty much craziness. The only question I can ask myself is, "Why?"
As strong as feelings can be we have to have the right reasons to make the right decisions. The mind and heart are like split entities. They like to argue with each other and sometimes they like to agree with one another. So it's confusing when you want to act on your heart's desires, but your brain is screaming "NO" at you.
God Bless & Peace Out!
heal over…
It’s a strange feeling when you smile even though life is really tough. It’s also a greater feeling when you know your heart has been healed. The only reason why we can’t get over heartbreak and pain is because we don’t allow ourselves to. It’ll heal naturally, but sometimes we unconsciously tear it open again. The truth though is, the remedy to heartbreak is within yourself to find it and allow it to heal.
The things we do to “get over it” are only short term because eventually the thoughts cross back into your mind. For now I can only scratch the surface about being healed. I’ve found something great, and to be honest i’ve never felt as much joy in my heart. It feels great to look at a person and just smile. It’s awesome to wake up knowing that a heartbreak doesn’t mean the end of life. Sometimes we get so dilusional about finding the one in our lives we hold so fast to it. Our minds go crazy and we no longer think properly. Be a little logical, if you were to find “the one” would they cause you hurt in the first place? Would they tear your heart out, throw it on the floor and compromise everything they’ve said and done? I think not, and maybe mutual decisions were for the greater good. To some of us, maybe we really need to re-examine ourselves. How do you know what true love isif you haven’t being burned more than once? Some people find it without having to go through past failures. Eventually though, things will fall into place and something deep inside you will tell you that you’ve made the right choice.
My joy is unexplainable. For a long time I was heavy-hearted but I can now feel a heavy burden lifted off my chest. Where did I find my remedy? Well that’s for you to ask, and for you to find. I can only speak how I feel and if you wish to know I will point you in that direction. If you don’t like that decision it is your loss. I’m not only smiling because of a broken heart, but i’m also smiling because I have found my strength and inspiration again. There are decisions in life A) and B). We can’t choose both nor can we leave it for too long to answer. Sometimes decisions are made too late and the consequences can never be changed back.
God bless & peace out...
I’ve recently realised that some people are actually coming across this journal by searching my actual name. It’s a little freaky because nobody leaves comments either. Feedback to any of my posts though is encouraged.
The things we do to “get over it” are only short term because eventually the thoughts cross back into your mind. For now I can only scratch the surface about being healed. I’ve found something great, and to be honest i’ve never felt as much joy in my heart. It feels great to look at a person and just smile. It’s awesome to wake up knowing that a heartbreak doesn’t mean the end of life. Sometimes we get so dilusional about finding the one in our lives we hold so fast to it. Our minds go crazy and we no longer think properly. Be a little logical, if you were to find “the one” would they cause you hurt in the first place? Would they tear your heart out, throw it on the floor and compromise everything they’ve said and done? I think not, and maybe mutual decisions were for the greater good. To some of us, maybe we really need to re-examine ourselves. How do you know what true love isif you haven’t being burned more than once? Some people find it without having to go through past failures. Eventually though, things will fall into place and something deep inside you will tell you that you’ve made the right choice.
My joy is unexplainable. For a long time I was heavy-hearted but I can now feel a heavy burden lifted off my chest. Where did I find my remedy? Well that’s for you to ask, and for you to find. I can only speak how I feel and if you wish to know I will point you in that direction. If you don’t like that decision it is your loss. I’m not only smiling because of a broken heart, but i’m also smiling because I have found my strength and inspiration again. There are decisions in life A) and B). We can’t choose both nor can we leave it for too long to answer. Sometimes decisions are made too late and the consequences can never be changed back.
God bless & peace out...
I’ve recently realised that some people are actually coming across this journal by searching my actual name. It’s a little freaky because nobody leaves comments either. Feedback to any of my posts though is encouraged.
Saturday, December 15, 2007
how far apart…
How long does it take you to realise that a person means everything to you? Sometimes we take it for granted because the person is always there. It isn’t until that they are gone we realise how much they mean to our heart. I say this because, it doesn’t just happen between lovers, but in all degrees of relationships.
The same old jokes will make you laugh and reminicing about the past will make you cry. When you find a special person in your life you treasure them just like you treasured your very first toy. Friendship isn’t always easy to hold fast to because people are forever changing. Also sometimes we carelessly choose our friends. Have you noticed how we take more time to choose our enemies than we do to choose our friends? Sometimes we dwell upon the thought of our enemies that it turns into an obsession and then that obsession can also turn into love. Pretty crazy isn’t it? There are also different types of friends you can find. Those who are close, but not too close, those who only know you by what they see, and those who are literally like a sister/brother to you.
Why am I discussing this topic? My reason is that recently a lot of ‘old’ friends have started contacting me again. It’s strange, but sweet at the same time. A lot of them I stopped talking to after graduating from highschool and only saw them at random parties or around the city. All of them though have left a small impression in my life.
The friends I have now I care for very much. My bestfriend means a lot to me too, but during that process of friendship was a lot of confusion and pain going through my heart. I only have my faith to thank for seeing me through because I suddenly realised why she meant so much to me. You realise that someone means so much to you when your hearts are apart. You feel a sense of emptiness and longing to at least hear that person’s voice again. But time spent apart can also create a stronger bond between two people. How you may ask?
The abilities that we have are more than amazing. No we’re not X-men. We can do anything to keep in touch with the person we love. Sending letters, phone calls, e-mails, and diaries. Yet it’s amazing that sometimes the time apart brings two people closer together, it can even bring a group closer together. Real friendship though is when no matter how long the time apart is, it could even be years, you can still bump into each other and love each other as if the time apart never even existed. One thing I learnt from a friend of mine is that, some of the friendships I have are more than just words and seeing each other. It’s about trust, knowing that the person will continue to love you no matter how far they are, knowing that you’ve made that much of a impression in their life. Only the heart knows who your real friends are, and it will tell you when the time comes.
The same old jokes will make you laugh and reminicing about the past will make you cry. When you find a special person in your life you treasure them just like you treasured your very first toy. Friendship isn’t always easy to hold fast to because people are forever changing. Also sometimes we carelessly choose our friends. Have you noticed how we take more time to choose our enemies than we do to choose our friends? Sometimes we dwell upon the thought of our enemies that it turns into an obsession and then that obsession can also turn into love. Pretty crazy isn’t it? There are also different types of friends you can find. Those who are close, but not too close, those who only know you by what they see, and those who are literally like a sister/brother to you.
Why am I discussing this topic? My reason is that recently a lot of ‘old’ friends have started contacting me again. It’s strange, but sweet at the same time. A lot of them I stopped talking to after graduating from highschool and only saw them at random parties or around the city. All of them though have left a small impression in my life.
The friends I have now I care for very much. My bestfriend means a lot to me too, but during that process of friendship was a lot of confusion and pain going through my heart. I only have my faith to thank for seeing me through because I suddenly realised why she meant so much to me. You realise that someone means so much to you when your hearts are apart. You feel a sense of emptiness and longing to at least hear that person’s voice again. But time spent apart can also create a stronger bond between two people. How you may ask?
The abilities that we have are more than amazing. No we’re not X-men. We can do anything to keep in touch with the person we love. Sending letters, phone calls, e-mails, and diaries. Yet it’s amazing that sometimes the time apart brings two people closer together, it can even bring a group closer together. Real friendship though is when no matter how long the time apart is, it could even be years, you can still bump into each other and love each other as if the time apart never even existed. One thing I learnt from a friend of mine is that, some of the friendships I have are more than just words and seeing each other. It’s about trust, knowing that the person will continue to love you no matter how far they are, knowing that you’ve made that much of a impression in their life. Only the heart knows who your real friends are, and it will tell you when the time comes.
will you remember me?…
It’s scary when you realise you’ve forgotten someone who is meant to be or was once important to you. The one thing I fear is to be forgotten by a person who says they love me. It is true that time and distance is what holds people together and apart. My state of mind isn’t stable at the moment. I may seem calmed and relaxed on the outside, but that is only a mask to cover the thoughts raging in my mind. I humor myself sometimes with my thoughts too, I ask myself why I think so much.
Let’s look at the truth though, we have being blessed with this gift of thought, reasoning, and contemplating. There’s just some of us who don’t embrace this gift or there’s some of us who take it too seriously. Thinking too much can destroy a person. Dwelling on things and not letting things take their path, questioning situations, contemplating truths, it can destroy a person’s soul.
How do you avoid this pathway of thoughts to destruction? Trying to ignore them, trying to find distractions are only short term solutions. Instead confront what causes these questions, stop asking yourself the questions and ask someone else. Obviously you don’t know the answers, but maybe someone else does. If it’s a different type of question, like, why do certain things happen, let it take its course. Be an observer, things happen because they were meant to. I don’t know why or how, but things happen. Thinking doesn’t do anything, doing does something. You can’t change situations by thinking about it, you change situations by doing something about it. Even though I said be and observer, if you know you can do something about it then stop hesitating and confront it or make that difference. But be sure that your motivation is of good value because sometimes your actions can hurt or discourage other people along the way.
To be forgotten, or to forget. Which is the worse feeling to feel? Who is the one who is most hurt? I don’t know the answer to my question, but for now I sit patiently and wait to see its outcome. If I do crack it will be my own fault for not acting on my thoughts. Either way i’m prepared to wait, and i’m prepared to be hurt. Life was never meant to be perfect. People are not perfect, but at least some of us try to be by being honest with ourselves and with one another. You’d think that being afraid of heights is scary, i’m afraid of distance.
god bless & peace out
Let’s look at the truth though, we have being blessed with this gift of thought, reasoning, and contemplating. There’s just some of us who don’t embrace this gift or there’s some of us who take it too seriously. Thinking too much can destroy a person. Dwelling on things and not letting things take their path, questioning situations, contemplating truths, it can destroy a person’s soul.
How do you avoid this pathway of thoughts to destruction? Trying to ignore them, trying to find distractions are only short term solutions. Instead confront what causes these questions, stop asking yourself the questions and ask someone else. Obviously you don’t know the answers, but maybe someone else does. If it’s a different type of question, like, why do certain things happen, let it take its course. Be an observer, things happen because they were meant to. I don’t know why or how, but things happen. Thinking doesn’t do anything, doing does something. You can’t change situations by thinking about it, you change situations by doing something about it. Even though I said be and observer, if you know you can do something about it then stop hesitating and confront it or make that difference. But be sure that your motivation is of good value because sometimes your actions can hurt or discourage other people along the way.
To be forgotten, or to forget. Which is the worse feeling to feel? Who is the one who is most hurt? I don’t know the answer to my question, but for now I sit patiently and wait to see its outcome. If I do crack it will be my own fault for not acting on my thoughts. Either way i’m prepared to wait, and i’m prepared to be hurt. Life was never meant to be perfect. People are not perfect, but at least some of us try to be by being honest with ourselves and with one another. You’d think that being afraid of heights is scary, i’m afraid of distance.
god bless & peace out
The line between lovers and friends…
What makes friends friends and what makes lovers lovers? When does a friend suddenly turn into something more intimate and why? To be honest I have no bloody clue. The human mind is so complex we still can’t figure it out. At least we know why the sky is blue. Let me make this clear before you keep reading, when I say ‘lovers’ I am not referring to the short-term sex-without-feelings (I hate that term) friend, better known as the F.B., i refer to actual relationships which consist of understood feelings.
We each hold friendship as one of the most important things in our lives. The only thing we pray not to happen is to fall in love with our friends. Why? Maybe we’re afraid that if something were to happen the whole world would fall apart. Okay maybe that’s a bit too dramatic. Like I always say, I can’t give the right answers, nor can I give the wrong answers.
I have a friend. He used to be my boyfriend. We jumped into a relationship without knowing each other properly. Look at your friend, are they really showing you their true colours? When I started going out with him, his true colours shone. It hurt, but because I actually did love him (I was sure with myself that I did, but it was more like puppy love) I lived with it. I’m the commited kind of freak who accepts people the way they are. Then that all ended. Problem, we decided, well he decided, that I be his bestfriend. I don’t know what ran through his mind, but I didn’t like it. We just knew each other too much. It hurt to be honest with him because he only wanted to hear the things he wanted me to say. Even though he says i’m just a bestfriend, he doesn’t act that way around me. We’ve had a million fights “as friends,” but I felt trapped. Everything I said and did had to go by him first. The truth is though, I don’t like being “owned” and I don’t like people prying into every corner of my life. If you ask with good reason then yes maybe, but usually I take the initiative to open up. I speak in my own time. Holding my hand while he’s chasing another girl is inappropriate to me because i’m the most ‘penguinistic’ (monogomous) person on earth, in my own mind. I went through accusations of selfishness, vanity, rudeness, and most of all, bitchiness. It hurt, but I pretended that it was all a joke. Thank you for his honesty, but word of discouragement isn’t what’s meant for a close friendship. Yes, be brutally honest, but don’t accuse as if they’ve commited the worse crime on earth and can’t be granted forgiveness. I was put through guilt trip, after guilt trip. The funny thing is, he was the only one complaining. In the end he just wanted me to be something i’m not. Today i’m still his bestfriend. He’s my close friend, whom I don’t have to, or need to, tell everything. He doesn’t own me. *vent* He’s like a 5 year old!
I digress. A real friend, shows every good and bad side of them. A friend takes risks to be there for you. They promise to always be there for you, but also are honest that they will at least try, because in reality a person can’t always be there. They accept you for who you are, but give you advice and correct you. They are a word of encouragement. When they’re angry with you they don’t keep silent, they tell you how they really feel instead of wearing a fake smile. A friend will listen to you, but you must too in turn. Nothing in friendships, in any relationship should be one-way, like the saying goes, ‘It takes two to tango.’
When you fall in love with a friend, it’s usually because all you ever see is the “saint” side. Sometimes though it can be different. You just love them for their whole being. So you’re left confused wondering what’s the next step. My 101. 1) Be honest with yourself, 2) Be honest with them, 3)Get to know each other a little more, 4) Don’t rush. Yes, a lot of us when we jump into relationships, we’re swept off our feet into the tidal wave of love. Sometimes we move so fast things end quicker. Take it step by step, and eventually it may be something that lasts. Maybe you might grow old together. 5) Brush your teeth, okay I pulled that out from stupidity.
But who ever said that one of your closest friends should become your lover? Who ever said that you have to marry them because you both click well? Nobody. The only thing that will tell is time and also listening to not only your heart, but your mind. If two are in conflict, then kill one or the other. Okay I take that back. If you are torn between the two then the answer is, NO. When the heart chooses something, the mind must agree too. Otherwise when you jump into the relationship there will be doubt. Doubt should never be in any relationship. Do not doubt the friendship of your bestfriend, do not doubt the love of your boy/girlfriend. If you do, ask! Don’t be chicken and pretend everything is okay. It only makes the doubt worse. Everybody says this, ‘communication is the best key to a succesful relationship,’ in actual fact, any relationship, be it friendship, family, professional, etc. When you love someone you love them whole heartedly.Sometimes a great friendship is better than a serious relationship. Check yourself first before jumping to conclusions.
We each have our own views. This is mine, what is yours?
God Bless & Peace Out
We each hold friendship as one of the most important things in our lives. The only thing we pray not to happen is to fall in love with our friends. Why? Maybe we’re afraid that if something were to happen the whole world would fall apart. Okay maybe that’s a bit too dramatic. Like I always say, I can’t give the right answers, nor can I give the wrong answers.
I have a friend. He used to be my boyfriend. We jumped into a relationship without knowing each other properly. Look at your friend, are they really showing you their true colours? When I started going out with him, his true colours shone. It hurt, but because I actually did love him (I was sure with myself that I did, but it was more like puppy love) I lived with it. I’m the commited kind of freak who accepts people the way they are. Then that all ended. Problem, we decided, well he decided, that I be his bestfriend. I don’t know what ran through his mind, but I didn’t like it. We just knew each other too much. It hurt to be honest with him because he only wanted to hear the things he wanted me to say. Even though he says i’m just a bestfriend, he doesn’t act that way around me. We’ve had a million fights “as friends,” but I felt trapped. Everything I said and did had to go by him first. The truth is though, I don’t like being “owned” and I don’t like people prying into every corner of my life. If you ask with good reason then yes maybe, but usually I take the initiative to open up. I speak in my own time. Holding my hand while he’s chasing another girl is inappropriate to me because i’m the most ‘penguinistic’ (monogomous) person on earth, in my own mind. I went through accusations of selfishness, vanity, rudeness, and most of all, bitchiness. It hurt, but I pretended that it was all a joke. Thank you for his honesty, but word of discouragement isn’t what’s meant for a close friendship. Yes, be brutally honest, but don’t accuse as if they’ve commited the worse crime on earth and can’t be granted forgiveness. I was put through guilt trip, after guilt trip. The funny thing is, he was the only one complaining. In the end he just wanted me to be something i’m not. Today i’m still his bestfriend. He’s my close friend, whom I don’t have to, or need to, tell everything. He doesn’t own me. *vent* He’s like a 5 year old!
I digress. A real friend, shows every good and bad side of them. A friend takes risks to be there for you. They promise to always be there for you, but also are honest that they will at least try, because in reality a person can’t always be there. They accept you for who you are, but give you advice and correct you. They are a word of encouragement. When they’re angry with you they don’t keep silent, they tell you how they really feel instead of wearing a fake smile. A friend will listen to you, but you must too in turn. Nothing in friendships, in any relationship should be one-way, like the saying goes, ‘It takes two to tango.’
When you fall in love with a friend, it’s usually because all you ever see is the “saint” side. Sometimes though it can be different. You just love them for their whole being. So you’re left confused wondering what’s the next step. My 101. 1) Be honest with yourself, 2) Be honest with them, 3)Get to know each other a little more, 4) Don’t rush. Yes, a lot of us when we jump into relationships, we’re swept off our feet into the tidal wave of love. Sometimes we move so fast things end quicker. Take it step by step, and eventually it may be something that lasts. Maybe you might grow old together. 5) Brush your teeth, okay I pulled that out from stupidity.
But who ever said that one of your closest friends should become your lover? Who ever said that you have to marry them because you both click well? Nobody. The only thing that will tell is time and also listening to not only your heart, but your mind. If two are in conflict, then kill one or the other. Okay I take that back. If you are torn between the two then the answer is, NO. When the heart chooses something, the mind must agree too. Otherwise when you jump into the relationship there will be doubt. Doubt should never be in any relationship. Do not doubt the friendship of your bestfriend, do not doubt the love of your boy/girlfriend. If you do, ask! Don’t be chicken and pretend everything is okay. It only makes the doubt worse. Everybody says this, ‘communication is the best key to a succesful relationship,’ in actual fact, any relationship, be it friendship, family, professional, etc. When you love someone you love them whole heartedly.Sometimes a great friendship is better than a serious relationship. Check yourself first before jumping to conclusions.
We each have our own views. This is mine, what is yours?
God Bless & Peace Out
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Never Leave FRIEND for something
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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FEW RELATIONS IN EARTH NEVER DIE..
Take first letter from each word of the above said statement &
then u will get that unique word…
FRIEND :=)
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Walk with me when ur hearts needs company,
take my hand when u feel all alone,
turn to me when u need some1 to lean on,
coz I’m a friend u can always depend on
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Fragnance can be defined without Rose.
But, friendship can’t be defined without YOU.
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Friend is one,
who (F)inds you in a (R)ush of people,
(I)nspires you to do something in life,
catch your (E)motions and (N)ever leaves you till (D)eath.
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Friendship is not a big fire which burns all day.
Its a small lamp, that burns till the last day of life.
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Friendship never speaks volumes,
it never demands proof,
it never has a happy ending too simply coz
it doesn’t end as long as friends r true, just like U!
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If ur friendship be money,
I’ll be richest man.
If ur friendship be pounds,
I’ll be heaviest man.
If ur friendship be luv,
I’ll be luckiest man.
But ur friendship is trust & I’m the happiest man
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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Leave SOMETHING for friend..
Never Leave FRIEND for something.. coz in life,
SOMETHINGS will leave u but FRIENDS will always live with u..
If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
==========================================
FEW RELATIONS IN EARTH NEVER DIE..
Take first letter from each word of the above said statement &
then u will get that unique word…
FRIEND :=)
==========================================
Walk with me when ur hearts needs company,
take my hand when u feel all alone,
turn to me when u need some1 to lean on,
coz I’m a friend u can always depend on
==========================================
Fragnance can be defined without Rose.
But, friendship can’t be defined without YOU.
==========================================
Friend is one,
who (F)inds you in a (R)ush of people,
(I)nspires you to do something in life,
catch your (E)motions and (N)ever leaves you till (D)eath.
==========================================
Friendship is not a big fire which burns all day.
Its a small lamp, that burns till the last day of life.
==========================================
Friendship never speaks volumes,
it never demands proof,
it never has a happy ending too simply coz
it doesn’t end as long as friends r true, just like U!
==========================================
If ur friendship be money,
I’ll be richest man.
If ur friendship be pounds,
I’ll be heaviest man.
If ur friendship be luv,
I’ll be luckiest man.
But ur friendship is trust & I’m the happiest man
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If luck is a raindrop,I will send u a shower.
If hope is a minute,I ll send you an hour.
If happiness is a leaf, I ll give you a tree.
If u need a friend, u already have me
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Leave SOMETHING for friend..
Never Leave FRIEND for something.. coz in life,
SOMETHINGS will leave u but FRIENDS will always live with u..
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Saturday, December 1, 2007
Thoughts On Life
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
A Simple Friend!
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
gave you rides in their new car,
convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded,
consoled you when you broke up with your significant other
and found you a date to the prom.
In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
helped you pick out a college,
assured you that you would get into that college,
helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.
At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
Helped you clean up from that party.
Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents.
Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything.
Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind.
And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years.
But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who
Gives you the better of the two choices.
Holds your hand when you're scared.
Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you.
Thinks of you at times when you are not there.
Reminds you of what you have forgotten.
Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer.
Stays with you so that you have confidence.
Goes out of their way to make time for you.
Helps you clear up your mistakes.
Helps you deal with pressure from others.
Smiles for you when they are sad.
Helps you become a better person.
However most importantly loves you!
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed
In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
gave you rides in their new car,
convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded,
consoled you when you broke up with your significant other
and found you a date to the prom.
In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
helped you pick out a college,
assured you that you would get into that college,
helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.
At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who
Helped you clean up from that party.
Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents.
Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything.
Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind.
And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years.
But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who
Gives you the better of the two choices.
Holds your hand when you're scared.
Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you.
Thinks of you at times when you are not there.
Reminds you of what you have forgotten.
Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer.
Stays with you so that you have confidence.
Goes out of their way to make time for you.
Helps you clear up your mistakes.
Helps you deal with pressure from others.
Smiles for you when they are sad.
Helps you become a better person.
However most importantly loves you!
Friendship
Which brings me to my topic for this week. I'd love some of your feedback on friendship.
My idea of friendship is that it reflects I Corinthians 13. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut. Doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others. Isn't always me first, doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, Always looks for the best, never looks back but keeps going to the end.
I'm not talking about acquaintance kind of friendship, but the intimate kind, the lifetime kind, the kind that you say to each other," we'll be friends for life" and then you mean it. No matter what comes to try and divide you-you recognize the one who sows discord and you say no way. There are those who will come and go in our lives, but there are those who will be there or should be there always. Jesus had the 3 that He spent the most time with, then the 12, then the 70, then the masses, but He didn't develop the same intimacy with the crowd as He did the 12. In the end they all wound up abandoning Him, or denying Him- yet He came back and restored them to their previous state of friendship. He gave Peter opportunity to become the mighty man of God- the Rock he was called to be. He gave Thomas the opportunity to become the man of faith he was supposed to be, he gave them all the benefit of His forgiveness, His love and His friendship.
What do we give one another? Are you a lifelong friend? Are you willing to lay down your pride and restore friendship? Or do you let them go? Knowing that God even called you to them? And at what price are we sacrificing friendships? Do we continue on in the call of God and ministry to others when things go askew? Or do we withdraw and put up those awful walls? Do we become angry and bitter people or do we obey the Word of God and do all that is in our power to reconcile?
That line, love believes the best is so powerful! The Bible says, he who tells a matter first seems to be right. When someone comes to you with some stuff about a friend, we have a choice at that moment to listen or to be the friend we should be. The problem is, we don't think another brother would lie to us, so we listen and then those terrible seeds of discord are sown (which God hates by the way). I recognize when people have faults, but don't you be the one to tell me. SMILE I'll find out what I need to know and I will love them anyway and restore them when I need to. I trust the Lord that He knows what I need to know, I have His mind. And He has been faithful to us always, just ask one of our kids.
Ask God why that person is acting that way, what is wrong in their heart and then pray for them. If your motives are right, He will let you know that something has happened, or you will ask them and they will tell you, and you have saved a relationship that the enemy was trying to destroy. Friends know each other's stuff, love you in spite of it, can have a year or two apart and come back together and be good friends again, can forgive, can forget, can talk about anything and don't judge each other for wrong attitudes and ideas, in other words, we love because He first loved us.
IF there is anything that we can learn at this time it is that there is nothing that should be able to separate us from each other, because we are in Christ and who can separate us from His love? By our love they will know we are His disciples.
My idea of friendship is that it reflects I Corinthians 13. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut. Doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others. Isn't always me first, doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, Always looks for the best, never looks back but keeps going to the end.
I'm not talking about acquaintance kind of friendship, but the intimate kind, the lifetime kind, the kind that you say to each other," we'll be friends for life" and then you mean it. No matter what comes to try and divide you-you recognize the one who sows discord and you say no way. There are those who will come and go in our lives, but there are those who will be there or should be there always. Jesus had the 3 that He spent the most time with, then the 12, then the 70, then the masses, but He didn't develop the same intimacy with the crowd as He did the 12. In the end they all wound up abandoning Him, or denying Him- yet He came back and restored them to their previous state of friendship. He gave Peter opportunity to become the mighty man of God- the Rock he was called to be. He gave Thomas the opportunity to become the man of faith he was supposed to be, he gave them all the benefit of His forgiveness, His love and His friendship.
What do we give one another? Are you a lifelong friend? Are you willing to lay down your pride and restore friendship? Or do you let them go? Knowing that God even called you to them? And at what price are we sacrificing friendships? Do we continue on in the call of God and ministry to others when things go askew? Or do we withdraw and put up those awful walls? Do we become angry and bitter people or do we obey the Word of God and do all that is in our power to reconcile?
That line, love believes the best is so powerful! The Bible says, he who tells a matter first seems to be right. When someone comes to you with some stuff about a friend, we have a choice at that moment to listen or to be the friend we should be. The problem is, we don't think another brother would lie to us, so we listen and then those terrible seeds of discord are sown (which God hates by the way). I recognize when people have faults, but don't you be the one to tell me. SMILE I'll find out what I need to know and I will love them anyway and restore them when I need to. I trust the Lord that He knows what I need to know, I have His mind. And He has been faithful to us always, just ask one of our kids.
Ask God why that person is acting that way, what is wrong in their heart and then pray for them. If your motives are right, He will let you know that something has happened, or you will ask them and they will tell you, and you have saved a relationship that the enemy was trying to destroy. Friends know each other's stuff, love you in spite of it, can have a year or two apart and come back together and be good friends again, can forgive, can forget, can talk about anything and don't judge each other for wrong attitudes and ideas, in other words, we love because He first loved us.
IF there is anything that we can learn at this time it is that there is nothing that should be able to separate us from each other, because we are in Christ and who can separate us from His love? By our love they will know we are His disciples.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
How to Make Friends
There's a certain beauty in being a lone wolf (people with no friends). You have more time to do things you want to do, like talk to yourself, play solitaire, write poetry, or try to carry that couch into your new apartment all by yourself. If that's not your bag, though, there are literally billions of potential friends in the world. What's more, many of these people want to make friends just as much as you do. So just follow these steps to meet new people and form strong, lasting friendships.
1. Get out and meet people! If you want to make friends, you first need to meet people. No matter where you live, this should be fairly easy. Just in case you're stumped, here are just a few suggestions.
* If you're in school or work and have a lot of co-workers and peers, you're surrounded by potential friends for a large portion of your day. A way to make a friend is to not be shy; go up to that person ask questions, like "what is your name?" "Are you on a team?" Act friendly and be honest and trustworthy.
* Join a club with people of common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them--in fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all--but if you have something in common with people, it can make it a lot easier to talk to them and plan activities initially. Whatever your age and whatever your interests, there is a club or organization for you.
* Join a team. Especially if you're in school, joining a sports team can be great way to make friends. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but this isn't true. As long as you enjoy the sport, try your best, and acknowledge that you're not a pro, your teammates will usually be more than happy to accept you for who you are.
* Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and the fact that you're devoting your time to something free of charge shows that you're compassionate and unselfish, two traits of good friends.
* Get online. In general, the internet isn't a great place to make real friends, the kind who will be there for you when you really need them. Never use the internet to meet some one you now will consider your "best friend". You don't know this person and making them your best friend will not do anything good in your life. If you live in a really isolated place, the internet can also help you find other people around the world that share your interests.
2. Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, and you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to talk to people, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you on the lunch line. Don't be picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, in that you may never talk to that person again or you'll just remain acquaintances, but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.
* Introduce yourself early in the conversation. Your name doesn't necessarily need to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if you're looking to make friends, knowing each other's names is a good start. Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name, and use it later in the conversation.
* Make small talk. Friends can talk about just about anything, but you don't want to get too personal when you first meet someone. Just make good, inoffensive small talk at first.
* Open up the opportunity for another meeting. When you meet someone whom you think might make a good friend, try to exchange contact information. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!
* If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others, in a club, for example, to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.
* If you're new in town or at school and are just looking to meet people, don't be afraid to mention this. People are often excited about meeting new people, showing them around, and introducing them to their friends.
3. Be fun to be around. You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you. From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.
4. Be a good listener. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you're interested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. People love to talk about themselves, and the easiest way to be likable is to listen. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends.
5. Be reliable. The steps above are great for making acquaintances, but how do acquaintances become lifelong friends? One important trait of a good friend is reliability. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.
6. Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors.
7. Be there. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.
8. Be true to yourself. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never feel pressured to do something you think is wrong. Stay true to your convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win a lot of other friends, and if you just be yourself you'll make friends who like you for who you are.
• Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if they've done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity. If you don't get along with someone, try avoidance instead of creating a rivalry.
• Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.
• Don't be clingy or annoying. Over-obsessing over someone makes you seem weird and strange, not friendly.
• You never want to seem desperate. Don't chide acquaintances for failing to invite you to a party, for example; don't call someone over and over or stop by uninvited; and never overstay your welcome anywhere. In general, take friendship slowly, and don't try to become close to somebody right away. The move from acquaintance to friend can take a long time, and if you appear too clingy, potential friends may think you're too much work.
• Keep the lines of communication open. Lasting friendships don't just happen. They require work, especially if one friend moves away for an extended period or for good. Even if you don't get to see a friend, you should try to call or email him or her regularly just to check in and say "hi." With any luck, they'll do the same. It's easy to lose friends to distance, but it isn't necessary.
1. Get out and meet people! If you want to make friends, you first need to meet people. No matter where you live, this should be fairly easy. Just in case you're stumped, here are just a few suggestions.
* If you're in school or work and have a lot of co-workers and peers, you're surrounded by potential friends for a large portion of your day. A way to make a friend is to not be shy; go up to that person ask questions, like "what is your name?" "Are you on a team?" Act friendly and be honest and trustworthy.
* Join a club with people of common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them--in fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all--but if you have something in common with people, it can make it a lot easier to talk to them and plan activities initially. Whatever your age and whatever your interests, there is a club or organization for you.
* Join a team. Especially if you're in school, joining a sports team can be great way to make friends. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but this isn't true. As long as you enjoy the sport, try your best, and acknowledge that you're not a pro, your teammates will usually be more than happy to accept you for who you are.
* Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and the fact that you're devoting your time to something free of charge shows that you're compassionate and unselfish, two traits of good friends.
* Get online. In general, the internet isn't a great place to make real friends, the kind who will be there for you when you really need them. Never use the internet to meet some one you now will consider your "best friend". You don't know this person and making them your best friend will not do anything good in your life. If you live in a really isolated place, the internet can also help you find other people around the world that share your interests.
2. Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, and you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to talk to people, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you on the lunch line. Don't be picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, in that you may never talk to that person again or you'll just remain acquaintances, but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.
* Introduce yourself early in the conversation. Your name doesn't necessarily need to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if you're looking to make friends, knowing each other's names is a good start. Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name, and use it later in the conversation.
* Make small talk. Friends can talk about just about anything, but you don't want to get too personal when you first meet someone. Just make good, inoffensive small talk at first.
* Open up the opportunity for another meeting. When you meet someone whom you think might make a good friend, try to exchange contact information. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!
* If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others, in a club, for example, to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.
* If you're new in town or at school and are just looking to meet people, don't be afraid to mention this. People are often excited about meeting new people, showing them around, and introducing them to their friends.
3. Be fun to be around. You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you. From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.
4. Be a good listener. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you're interested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. People love to talk about themselves, and the easiest way to be likable is to listen. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends.
5. Be reliable. The steps above are great for making acquaintances, but how do acquaintances become lifelong friends? One important trait of a good friend is reliability. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.
6. Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors.
7. Be there. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.
8. Be true to yourself. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never feel pressured to do something you think is wrong. Stay true to your convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win a lot of other friends, and if you just be yourself you'll make friends who like you for who you are.
• Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if they've done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity. If you don't get along with someone, try avoidance instead of creating a rivalry.
• Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.
• Don't be clingy or annoying. Over-obsessing over someone makes you seem weird and strange, not friendly.
• You never want to seem desperate. Don't chide acquaintances for failing to invite you to a party, for example; don't call someone over and over or stop by uninvited; and never overstay your welcome anywhere. In general, take friendship slowly, and don't try to become close to somebody right away. The move from acquaintance to friend can take a long time, and if you appear too clingy, potential friends may think you're too much work.
• Keep the lines of communication open. Lasting friendships don't just happen. They require work, especially if one friend moves away for an extended period or for good. Even if you don't get to see a friend, you should try to call or email him or her regularly just to check in and say "hi." With any luck, they'll do the same. It's easy to lose friends to distance, but it isn't necessary.
People Like to Put Us Down
And I’m not just talkin’ about my generation. Every generation that reads romances gets the same put down from someone: “When are you going to read a real book?” “Why do you read those sex stories?” “You should read something important.” “Why don’t you read about real life?”
Uh, excuse me? Real life? What could be more real than feelings that develop between two people that are so overwhelming they are willing to forsake their families and even lose their lives for love?
It’s worth bringing up Romeo and Juliet, because they were famous lovers whose desperate feelings we find it easy to dismiss today merely because they were young teenagers. Yet in their time, they were of marriageable age. Throughout history, families have married off their children as it suited the family, not the individual, no matter how much personal misery ensued. Romeo and Juliet epitomize personal rebellion against centuries of social tradition. No wonder they ended up dead.
It has only been in the last century or so in the western world that both men and women have had the luxury of arranging their own lives and choosing their own mates. The difficulty of choice in an open field should not be underestimated, since we do not have thousands of years of social history to guide our freedom. Maybe divorce holds out hope that mistakes can be left behind. But most of us don’t want to make mistakes in the first place.
Given this situation, you could say that romances are a tool to help people figure out how to recognize the right mate. Even though romances are about an area of human feeling that has always existed, that has frequently been sung about, and that has inspired countless poems, plays, paintings, and myths. Because classical artistry is based on life situations in which the commanding interference of others is a key element in the romantic relationship. We still suffer interference from interested family members, but modern romance is pretty much up to just the two people who fall in love.
Yes, it is natural to fall in love, but it is not logical. Loving feelings simply are not rational. And every person falls in love a different way. When those irrational feelings and high emotions strike, how do we decide what to do? How do we distinguish between infatuation and love? Between sincerity and flattery? Between protectiveness and power plays? We need a road map. And because every person is unique, we need many variations on this road map. Hence, all manner of romances. It’s so simple when you think about it logically: We need romances!
Of course a romance about a lonely billionaire and a spunky sculptor isn’t an exact blueprint for a happy future. If it were, we’d have fewer unhappy billionaires and starving sculptors. But learning how to recognize the person with whom you could happily spend all your life is important. Learning how to negotiate conflicts with that person in an era in which you could just walk out the door and find someone else is also important. Romances present many varieties of scenarios in which the heroines learn more about themselves and about the men for whom they care. What to fight over and what to let go. How to fight fair, for that matter. It’s marriage counseling in advance, if you will.
Do romances present plans for saving the world? Actually, yes, sometimes they do. Sometimes there’s an environmental or political issue at stake, and often there is a serious moral situation, too. Romance heroines and heroes frequently are shown asking themselves what is right and what is wrong. Many romances also deliver an inspiring message of hope in a troubled world. The characters love and survive despite hideous odds against them.
Romances are rooted in the personal, and because they are, they have tremendous emotional impact. Which means that as teaching mechanisms, they are unmatched. I guess the spoonful of sugar theory comes into play here, too. For many of us, it is easier to confront difficult life choices when they are embodied by someone else and prettied up a bit, too. Romances fulfill a very useful function of drawing us in while at the same time engaging us in a safe manner.
So, when people try to put you down for reading romances, don’t let them. You don’t have to reply with a snarl or a sneer at their ignorance. But you don’t have to feel defensive, either. Romances are big in more than one way.
Uh, excuse me? Real life? What could be more real than feelings that develop between two people that are so overwhelming they are willing to forsake their families and even lose their lives for love?
It’s worth bringing up Romeo and Juliet, because they were famous lovers whose desperate feelings we find it easy to dismiss today merely because they were young teenagers. Yet in their time, they were of marriageable age. Throughout history, families have married off their children as it suited the family, not the individual, no matter how much personal misery ensued. Romeo and Juliet epitomize personal rebellion against centuries of social tradition. No wonder they ended up dead.
It has only been in the last century or so in the western world that both men and women have had the luxury of arranging their own lives and choosing their own mates. The difficulty of choice in an open field should not be underestimated, since we do not have thousands of years of social history to guide our freedom. Maybe divorce holds out hope that mistakes can be left behind. But most of us don’t want to make mistakes in the first place.
Given this situation, you could say that romances are a tool to help people figure out how to recognize the right mate. Even though romances are about an area of human feeling that has always existed, that has frequently been sung about, and that has inspired countless poems, plays, paintings, and myths. Because classical artistry is based on life situations in which the commanding interference of others is a key element in the romantic relationship. We still suffer interference from interested family members, but modern romance is pretty much up to just the two people who fall in love.
Yes, it is natural to fall in love, but it is not logical. Loving feelings simply are not rational. And every person falls in love a different way. When those irrational feelings and high emotions strike, how do we decide what to do? How do we distinguish between infatuation and love? Between sincerity and flattery? Between protectiveness and power plays? We need a road map. And because every person is unique, we need many variations on this road map. Hence, all manner of romances. It’s so simple when you think about it logically: We need romances!
Of course a romance about a lonely billionaire and a spunky sculptor isn’t an exact blueprint for a happy future. If it were, we’d have fewer unhappy billionaires and starving sculptors. But learning how to recognize the person with whom you could happily spend all your life is important. Learning how to negotiate conflicts with that person in an era in which you could just walk out the door and find someone else is also important. Romances present many varieties of scenarios in which the heroines learn more about themselves and about the men for whom they care. What to fight over and what to let go. How to fight fair, for that matter. It’s marriage counseling in advance, if you will.
Do romances present plans for saving the world? Actually, yes, sometimes they do. Sometimes there’s an environmental or political issue at stake, and often there is a serious moral situation, too. Romance heroines and heroes frequently are shown asking themselves what is right and what is wrong. Many romances also deliver an inspiring message of hope in a troubled world. The characters love and survive despite hideous odds against them.
Romances are rooted in the personal, and because they are, they have tremendous emotional impact. Which means that as teaching mechanisms, they are unmatched. I guess the spoonful of sugar theory comes into play here, too. For many of us, it is easier to confront difficult life choices when they are embodied by someone else and prettied up a bit, too. Romances fulfill a very useful function of drawing us in while at the same time engaging us in a safe manner.
So, when people try to put you down for reading romances, don’t let them. You don’t have to reply with a snarl or a sneer at their ignorance. But you don’t have to feel defensive, either. Romances are big in more than one way.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Things Girls Should Know About Guys?
2. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
3. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it's up put it down.
4. Don't cut your hair. Ever.
5. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!
6. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
7. Sometimes, he's not thinking about you. Live with it.
8. Don't ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.
9. Get rid of your cat. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other cat.
10. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.
11. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
12. Shopping is not a sport.
13. Anything you wear is fine. Really.
14. You have enough clothes.
15. You have too many shoes.
16. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don't expect us to like it.
17. Your brother is an idiot, you ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.
18. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.
19. No, he doesn't know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
20. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.
21. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes -- What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
22. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.
23. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
24. Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.
25. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
26. Check you oil.
27. Don't give us 50 rules when 25 will do.
28. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
29. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together.
30. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
31. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
32. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.
33. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?
34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done -- not both.
35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
36. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
37. Women wearing Wonder bras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.
39. Telling us that the models in the men's magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it's certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazine.
40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
AND FINALLY, THE NUMBER ONE RULE:
1. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
3. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it's up put it down.
4. Don't cut your hair. Ever.
5. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!
6. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
7. Sometimes, he's not thinking about you. Live with it.
8. Don't ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.
9. Get rid of your cat. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other cat.
10. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.
11. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
12. Shopping is not a sport.
13. Anything you wear is fine. Really.
14. You have enough clothes.
15. You have too many shoes.
16. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don't expect us to like it.
17. Your brother is an idiot, you ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.
18. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.
19. No, he doesn't know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
20. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.
21. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes -- What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
22. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.
23. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
24. Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.
25. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
26. Check you oil.
27. Don't give us 50 rules when 25 will do.
28. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
29. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together.
30. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
31. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
32. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.
33. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?
34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done -- not both.
35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
36. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
37. Women wearing Wonder bras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.
39. Telling us that the models in the men's magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it's certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazine.
40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
AND FINALLY, THE NUMBER ONE RULE:
1. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
Why Beer is Better Than Women
1. You can enjoy beer all month long.
2. Beer stains wash out.
3. You don't have to wine and dine a beer.
4. Your beer will always wait patiently in the car while you play football.
5. When your beer goes flat, you toss it out.
6. Beer is never late.
7. Hangovers go away.
8. A beer doesn't get jealous when you grab another beer.
9. Beer labels come off without a fight.
10. When you go to a bar, you know you can always pick up a beer.
11. Beer never has a headache.
12. After you've had a beer the bottle is still worth a dime.
13. A beer won't get upset if you come home and have another beer on your breath.
14. If you pour a beer right, you'll always get good head.
15. You can have more than one beer a night and not feel guilty.
16. A beer always goes down easy.
17. You can share a beer with your friends.
18. You always know when you're the first one to pop a beer.
19. Beer is always wet.
20. Beer doesn't demand equality.
21. You can have a beer in public.
22. A beer doesn't care when you come.
23. A frigid beer is a good beer.
24. You don't have to wash a beer before it tastes good.
25. If you change beers you don't have to pay alimony.
2. Beer stains wash out.
3. You don't have to wine and dine a beer.
4. Your beer will always wait patiently in the car while you play football.
5. When your beer goes flat, you toss it out.
6. Beer is never late.
7. Hangovers go away.
8. A beer doesn't get jealous when you grab another beer.
9. Beer labels come off without a fight.
10. When you go to a bar, you know you can always pick up a beer.
11. Beer never has a headache.
12. After you've had a beer the bottle is still worth a dime.
13. A beer won't get upset if you come home and have another beer on your breath.
14. If you pour a beer right, you'll always get good head.
15. You can have more than one beer a night and not feel guilty.
16. A beer always goes down easy.
17. You can share a beer with your friends.
18. You always know when you're the first one to pop a beer.
19. Beer is always wet.
20. Beer doesn't demand equality.
21. You can have a beer in public.
22. A beer doesn't care when you come.
23. A frigid beer is a good beer.
24. You don't have to wash a beer before it tastes good.
25. If you change beers you don't have to pay alimony.
Real Love
4 person in your life how many have u found?
1st-urself,
2nd-1 u love most,
3rd-1 who love u most,
4th-1 you spend the rest of your life with. ]
firstly u'll meet the 1 u love most, and learn how love feels.
Because u know how love feels, so u can find the person who loves u most.
When u've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, u'll then know what it is u need most. Then u will find the person who is most suitable for u, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly,in real life,these 3 people are usually not the same person.
The one u love most doesn't love you. The one,who love u most,is never the one u love most. And the one u spend your life with,is never the one u love most or the one who love u most.
He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are u in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves u, he/she really loves u.
But when he/she doesn't love u anymore, he/she really doesn't love u anymore.
When he/she loves u, he/she can't pretend that he/she doesn't.
same goes, when he/she loves u no more, there's no way he/she can pretend he/she loves u. When a person doesn't love u and wants to leave u. u must ask yourself if u still love him/her, If u also don't love him/her anymore, do not keep him/her just to save your pride. If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness, and hope that he/she will be with the one he/she loves most, not stop him/her from it. If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one he/she loves, it shows u already don't love him/her, And if you don't love him/her, what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other,
they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.
1st-urself,
2nd-1 u love most,
3rd-1 who love u most,
4th-1 you spend the rest of your life with. ]
firstly u'll meet the 1 u love most, and learn how love feels.
Because u know how love feels, so u can find the person who loves u most.
When u've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, u'll then know what it is u need most. Then u will find the person who is most suitable for u, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly,in real life,these 3 people are usually not the same person.
The one u love most doesn't love you. The one,who love u most,is never the one u love most. And the one u spend your life with,is never the one u love most or the one who love u most.
He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are u in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves u, he/she really loves u.
But when he/she doesn't love u anymore, he/she really doesn't love u anymore.
When he/she loves u, he/she can't pretend that he/she doesn't.
same goes, when he/she loves u no more, there's no way he/she can pretend he/she loves u. When a person doesn't love u and wants to leave u. u must ask yourself if u still love him/her, If u also don't love him/her anymore, do not keep him/her just to save your pride. If you still love him/her, you should wish him/her happiness, and hope that he/she will be with the one he/she loves most, not stop him/her from it. If you stop him/her from finding true happiness with the one he/she loves, it shows u already don't love him/her, And if you don't love him/her, what rights do you have to blame him/her for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him/her become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him/her for what he/she is. Love him/her for his/her good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him/her to become like what you like him/her to be just because you love him/her. If he/she can't change to become what you like him/her to be, you don't love him/her anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him/her, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other,
they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for u will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Rmember? Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!!? In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The 1 saying, doesn't believe; the 1 listening, also doesn't believe.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
A stupid mixed emotions.

Long Lost
In a dream
I can be anything
When I close my eyes
I can remember what I once had
But now you’re gone
I’m looking for you
Don’t let me fall into the darkness
The way you gave me life
I had once thought was meaningless
But you gave me hope once again
You said we would always keep each other alive
But you tried to take your life away
Leaving me alone once again
In the darkness
I lay here and cry
Hoping maybe these tears will bring you back
In my dreams we can talk forever
I just want to be with you
But when I wake up
You are gone
My first love
And my only
When they let you out
I will stand by your side
They say they love you, or they try to help
Just making it all worse
They just don’t get you
But in those dreams I can talk to you
We will laugh about those times
And even cry
I miss you more
Only a few weeks left
And maybe you will say anything that comes
They will say were too much to be
A pair that causes no good
I was once in darkness
You brought me light
The bulb has burst leaving a fallen night
A dreamless night
Bring me back my light
A tear runs down my cheek
Let me close my eyes
And fall away
So I can dream some more
For when I wake up
Its just may not be a dream anymore
Ill grave that hand
You will pull me up
From this darkness
And back into your light
Those eyes they glow an eerie mist
Because when I see you
I see the world and future
So before I die
Kiss me goodnight
Just kiss me goodnight
I Want To Be Happy
I want to be loved
I want to belong
Don’t want to cry alone
I want to laugh
Don’t want to cry
My days away
I want to be happy
I want to smile
I want my life
To be worth while …
Blinded
Standing in a meadow
Where no one can see her
Standing in a meadow
No one wants to be her
Standing in a meadow
Alone except for her
She is blinded
That’s what they say
She is blinded
But she know its ok
She is blinded
By love each and every day
Giving My Heart to You
I found you
At last
Through all of
My past
I’ve been searching
For someone like you
You’re not perfect
But that’s the way I want you
And your true
Oh but you were stolen
From me
I wish I’d have told you
I wish you could see
That my heart
I was giving you
To someone that’s not perfect
Because that’s just how I like you
Every Time
Every time I talk to you
I forget the words
That I was going to say
It is then I know I love him
All the words you say to me
I goof up and say a stupid thing
But when you say you care
It gives me such a rush
You Don’t Love Me
I realize
When you talk to me
You don’t love me
No you don’t love me
You never think of me
I’m left here alone
And alone I cry
I’m missing you
What should I do
I stand here and think of you
I even dream
Of you too
I see your face when I close my eyes
And when I talk to you
I realize
You don’t love me
And you never have
Them
People are always
Who they are not
They are never happy
With what they’ve got
They can never be real
Or let people see the way they feel
They always want what they get
If they don’t seem cool
They start to fret
Well I can see
I don’t want to be like that
I want to be more like me
Letter to Myself
Save yourself the heartache
Save yourself the pain
Save yourself the trouble
Don’t fall in love again
All you get is heartbreak
All you do is cry
All you get is heartache
And you just wish that you could die
Every time you see the guy
Your heart breaks again
Till you want to cry
But you still pretend to be nice
You feel like
You’re starting to fall
Like you’ve been slammed into a wall
Your breathing is slowing down
You lay there trying to scream
But you can’t make a sound
You lay there silently
Sobbing
And all of a sudden
Your head starts throbbing
You wonder why me
Oh what did I do
You didn’t fall for me
But I fell for you
You’re not so perfect
You’re weird like me
The way you act
In the arts
I’ll tell this to myself
I’ll never let you steal
My heart ever again
From now until forever
I’ll only call you friend
But if you promise not to brake my heart
I’ll trust you enough to borrow it
Lovers Lost
Tears stream down my face
My tongue is tied
I cannot speak
I wonder if I’ll live another day
Or for what this price I pay
My life is crumbling
Down on me
Things block my face
I cannot see
Stuff in my throat
Makes it so I cannot scream
I sit here wondering
If I will die
I sit here
And silently cry
I cannot breath I’m losing oxygen fast
One second, two seconds,
Three seconds pass
I sit here
Gasping for air
Breathing right now
Is my only care
When will someone
Find me
When will someone
Set me free
All this started
When he said no
When he said
I couldn’t do
People say it’s a Lovers Loss
But the loss isn’t mine
Because I will love to the end of tim...
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